Family & Relationships - 29 October 2007

aren't proper?

She's slipped her hand down the front of my boxer shorts amongst other things. And She tells me that she has feelings for me and has had for a long time and now she's texting me..... She's a nice girl but this can't go on.

She was pissed the night she slipped the hand and so afterwards I just pretended that nothing happened. To let her retreat with dignity. [we all behaive like idiots now and again and so need a chance].... *But*, she hasn't forgotten and it's something she just wants....... but, well, I didn't make marriage vows with her and I never encouraged her love nor teased her so I owe her nothing in that department....... But how do I keep her as a friend whilst stoping her from just slipping her hands etc?

She's a good looking girl and I know boys are interested in her,,, but she just seems to want the unatainable.... eeeeesh.

2007-10-29 04:24:56 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i told my bf i didnt want to have sex anymore before marriage... either he marries me or we dont get physical.. i was sweet and polite abt it and told him the religion point of view too.. he thought i had changed very suddenly and am sure he is upset with me not coz i stopped this but coz it hurt his ego in some way.. now i am wondering.. why wud he take that so personally when i did it for God and he knows that?

2007-10-29 04:23:51 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-10-29 04:21:54 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

People have asked me if there invited to the wedding. I say yes because they can attend the ceremony but maybe not the recpetion. How do you tell people that without being rude or sounding cheap?

2007-10-29 04:19:06 · 31 answers · asked by Lady K 1 in Weddings

I wonder what will you think of a 21 years old Asian girl, who is attending Ph.D program in a quite good school in the US, getting married to a 40 years old up-middle class white man? They do love each other very much.

2007-10-29 04:17:43 · 16 answers · asked by Shan 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Hello,
I need some advice. My fiancée is a very charming girl who just got out of college and I can’t wait to make her my wife. However, her parents are insisting to pay for it and that we stay in their price range. I have considerably more financial resources and want a more luxurious ceremony and am quite willing to pay for it. How can I tell them I will not fly my family in for 6 dollar Champaign to be served and have a reception in a dump?
I don’t want my Katie in a wal-mart dress!

2007-10-29 04:17:00 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

I am talking about normal people who make say between 40,000 and 100,000 a year... How big do you think the diamond should be? How much should be spent? To the guys, if this was the woman of your dreams how much would you spend? Just curious....

2007-10-29 04:16:37 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

intimate relationship. We are not physical in any way yet our conversations have on many occassions led us down a path that would be considered an emotional affair by some. I know that we both carry feelings for each other that would be considered more than just friendly. Where things start to get complicated is that he set me up with a friend of his a few years ago who I have been seeing very infrequently for about 2 years. Neither of us were really looking for anything serious but I started to develop stronger feelings for him and said that we couldn't be physical unless we were dating. He emailed me this weekend to invite me to attend a banquet with him this coming weekend. I have been waiting for 2 years for an email along these lines. The trouble is now that this banquet is also for my best friend. He will be there and he gets so jealous when I am with another man - even though he shouldn't. I don't know whether to risk upsetting him by going or should I skip this banquet?

2007-10-29 04:16:05 · 13 answers · asked by ALT 1 in Singles & Dating

I am working on a speech for a group of couples that will be getting married soon. I would like mens opinion on what are the things they "hate" when they get into a conflict with their wife and are trying to solve the problem. please be honest. (see my other questions.)

2007-10-29 04:15:14 · 16 answers · asked by Stuck 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I want to know how much trouble you got into and is that person still you friend.

2007-10-29 04:15:11 · 1 answers · asked by Laurie 2 in Friends

Known my fiance for a year have been in a non sexual relationship for 6 months

2007-10-29 04:09:14 · 24 answers · asked by newtral90 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I have been goping through a difficult time so I am looking for suggestions about making me happy so the family can heal. I heard this expression over the weekend and I am taking suggestions about making me happy again, please write em no matter how silly. I think the mere ideas of happiness can help....... Thanks so much I promise I am working on not feeling sorry for myself today, well its pencilled in for this afternoon. Thanks again all!

2007-10-29 04:09:07 · 6 answers · asked by itsjust me123 2 in Marriage & Divorce

my long-distance boyfriend texted me on my birthday (yesterday) but didn't get me a gift or online card.....what's his deal?

2007-10-29 04:06:42 · 14 answers · asked by kittygirlwhoilove 2 in Singles & Dating

a girl and also friendship with three other girls. He says its friendship but it goes beyond their limits. He used to send them money and anything they want. BUT HE ALWAYS SAYS THAT HE LOVES ME MORE THAN THEM. Since he lost his mom he felt alone and maintained close relations with them. After our marriage it took me 1 year to completely get rid of their problem. I changed his phone number and our home and everything. I took his passwords and used to check his mails very often.This went for another year nothing happened so I started trusting him. But few months ago he found a girl who was one of his so called friends contact number somewhere and called her. Everytime when I ask him about these things he says I am sorry.I didnt mean to hurt you I wont repeat this..but he does it again. He stays more time on phone on computer he never likes to spend his time with me. I need to remind him that I am still alive and I need him..I am feeling insecured and lonely...what to do

2007-10-29 04:06:23 · 18 answers · asked by New Mom 2 in Marriage & Divorce

my son will be 11 in december he is very violant towards women he refuses any and all authority he is adhd combined type and bipolar he is in therapy and on meds nothing seems to help i have tried spanking,grounding,taking everything away from him i have tried the reward system i have tried talking i do not know what else to do i thought about military school but it is very far away and costs alot of money also it is for teenagers mental hospitals do not seem to help tried those already i would welcome any and all soultions thank you

2007-10-29 04:06:07 · 14 answers · asked by youl416 1 in Family

Hi! well, i'm 18 years old, and i really like this guy, i think he's in his 30s.. the age difference between us wont be less than 15 years. i'm quite hot, i believe so 'cause ive been told that by lots of guys my age.. i get asked out and stuff, i usually say no when i knw that it wont work out because i dont wanna hurt anybody, ive always been attracted to older guys. specially this guy, since the first time i saw him.. he is amazing, i doubt he noticed me, because usually when i'm around him, i'm in a huge group of people. anyway, as i said before lots of guys find me attractive, but ive never approached a guy before, i'm a bit shy.. specially when it comes to someone this old, it can be really intimidating, so any suggestions on how i can grab his attention?i do have his email, should i send him msgs from time to time? and then tell him that it's me?
and yeah, please guys, check this question again later because i'll add some important details, i only need to knw what u think so far

2007-10-29 04:02:34 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My fiance and I have been together for over 2 years now, and have remained pure for all this time even while studying at the same college and living in the same dorm building. This has been extremely difficult, but we have upheld it to the point of suffering. Recently, however, we've been praying about it and it seems like it's time to get married. We are getting close or are already at that point where we can't physically resist being together a lot and wanting to be extremely close. We are both spiritually and emotionally united, and have been counseled that we are ready for marriage. My parents are not Christians and would never allow me to marry as long as I'm still in school. I have 2 more years to go in college. My fiance and I are hearing the call of God to be married, but with my parents it's simply impossible. Our bodies want to be united, but we don't want to commit fornication. What is there for us to do?? Please help. Thanks!

2007-10-29 03:57:47 · 18 answers · asked by reba 1 in Marriage & Divorce

We both are under a ton of pressure with work etc...
we are coming up on our one year ann. and i Love this woman with everything.... I just dont want these changes to become permanent. I want our exciting times back.
any suggestions would be appriciated
thanks
-N

2007-10-29 03:56:46 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-10-29 03:54:22 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

We have been married 20 years and my husband is 42. After I caught him cheating 2 years ago he left but is now back home. He says he needs to feel that he is free to do whatever he wants and that it is not about sex. He says I am his wife and always will be but we got married when he was very young and that now he is halfways through his life he feels it has so far been one dimensional. When I suggest he goes back to his apartment which he still keeps so that he can feel free, but I would like to do the same as I too feel that life had passed me by, he says we should wait for our daughter to go to university as we don't want to upset her etc. I would never do anything to upset my daughter and I am bluffing when i suggest that we give each other freedom, inside I am a broken person. I can't decide whether he is saying these things because he is embarassed that I found him out, I am not sure if he still sees her or wants to see other people hence why he says he feels restricted

2007-10-29 03:53:09 · 18 answers · asked by Angela O 1 in Marriage & Divorce

just wondering the opinions of all men out there-
if you met someone say internet/out and about etc and she was pregnant but you liked her would you date her?,IF the father to be was out of the picture or didnt want anything to do with the baby would you get in a relationship with her?

2007-10-29 03:47:42 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I know this isn't right, but I need an excuse to divorce him. What should I do?

2007-10-29 03:44:22 · 51 answers · asked by Sheryl P 1 in Marriage & Divorce

What do you think about carrying a baby for someone because they can't themselves? A couple of years ago my step sister wanted me to carry a baby for her and her husband at the time. I'm so glad I didn't do it because now there divorced. What do you think of me doing this in general. I always think what if I did do that for them? By the way I've never had any children of my own yet. My boyfriend told me that I shouldn't do it if anyone else asks because he said Id get to attached and get really upset.

2007-10-29 03:42:57 · 6 answers · asked by shy girl 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I've got to know if I was right, wrong, or rude in the below:

My fiances parents have always agreed to pay for the flowers for the wedding day. So this weekend she, my mom, and myself went to the florist to pick them out. The florist asks who will be paying & his mom says "I'm paying for what the grooms side pays for." Because she said this, the florist divided the bill according to bride and groom. He explained what my mom would pay and I said "Wow, mom you're going to have a big bill, did you know that?" From there his mom writes out her part of the bill & lets my mom pay the rest.

We didn't say anything but my mom is stuck with this unexpected bill. We aren't doing payment as it traditionally would be done because his family is well-to-do and I felt it was VERY rude to do this last minute move. When my fiance found out, through her, he said that what she did wasnt part of the deal they had made. She said that I'm the one who was rude because of the comment I made. Was I rude?

2007-10-29 03:41:38 · 13 answers · asked by Merry Mary 1 in Weddings

Are you someone's favorite friend? Are you someone's favorite person you work with? Are you someone's favorite love who is dating the field? Are you someone's favorite child? Are you someone's favorite neighbor?

How did it happen? What makes you so special in their eyes? And then turn the tables around -- are they your favorite as well? Why?

2007-10-29 03:39:11 · 11 answers · asked by Andy K 6 in Other - Family & Relationships

I am a 26yr old female, I have been with my fiance for 3 years, and now I am 11 weeks pregnant with his kid. However we are living with his father who I don't see eye to eye with, and it has become a big problem, lately me and my fiance are fighting alot more than usual he has lied to me on serveral occasions but he swears it will never happen again. I have been staying with a friend for the last few weeks where I met another guy he is a year younger than me, and has everything I always looked for, he gives me a feeling that my fiance just cant supply. But yet I still don't know if I should leave my fiance, part of me believes I'm only staying with him because of the baby, part of me believes I still can make things work, Last night I went home to my fiance but all I could think about was the other guy.

2007-10-29 03:38:47 · 13 answers · asked by kiissxhardcore 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

I met a lovely man on a dating website 2 months ago and things have been going really really well. However I have a secret, although i'm working at a school I'm working as a volunteer teaching assistant and he thinks I'm getting paid. I know its not a big secret but I feel I am betraying him, I'm only on benefits, i'm at college training to be a teaching assistant and working to gain the experience. Do you think I should be honest with him and blurt it out or should I keep quiet and hope I get a paid job soon before he notices?

2007-10-29 03:37:39 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My wife refuses to make my stepson mind and she will not allow anyone else to make him mind. She says she saw alot of abuse when she was young and when I raise my voice to him thats all that she can think about. We have seperated because I now have my 16yr son with me and I will not allow him to do the things my 13yr stepson gets by with. My wife and I still love each other very much and see each other as often as posible. I told her I have to be a father to my son and if we have to be seperated because of this then so be it.
Question is we don't like being seperated but she still refuses to make this kid mind. Any sugestions?

2007-10-29 03:33:08 · 18 answers · asked by Atheist 3 in Marriage & Divorce

Got a situation too long to tell, but just wanted to ask the guys how can a woman that your interested in but for (your) certain personal reasons backing away from, your still very attracted to her how can she keep your interest? What would you do if you just didn't see her for a while forget or miss her? Would you look forward to seeing her and when you don't wonder where she went or relieved you don't have the temptation anymore? Wondering what goes on in your minds in this type of situation.

2007-10-29 03:32:47 · 1 answers · asked by Maria 5 in Marriage & Divorce

I have just found out my partner whom I trusted 100% has cheated on me with a one night stand! How can we move forward from this? Should I forgive him? In time of course! I have four children and families are involved. She is a girl from work. The classic of the office party and fell into bed story. She has pursed him from the beginning. He wants to make it work and says we should do counselling. Will not go to office parties where she is present. Will leave work at some point too despite a good job. I guess I am just taking one day at a time but it hurts like hell.

2007-10-29 03:30:27 · 9 answers · asked by caroline 1 in Other - Family & Relationships