I have just found out my partner whom I trusted 100% has cheated on me with a one night stand! How can we move forward from this? Should I forgive him? In time of course! I have four children and families are involved. She is a girl from work. The classic of the office party and fell into bed story. She has pursed him from the beginning. He wants to make it work and says we should do counselling. Will not go to office parties where she is present. Will leave work at some point too despite a good job. I guess I am just taking one day at a time but it hurts like hell.
2007-10-29 03:30:27 · 9 answers · asked by caroline 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just a thought. Has anyone(and Im sure there is) had this happen and moved on from it staying together? Did it affect the trusting person that you are?
2007-10-29 03:32:54 · update #1
I know this is sexist but aren't men weak?
You will have to find the resolve and dedication to move on from this. It can be done. You can forgive - but you can never forget.
For the childrens' sake and everything you stand to lose, it would be worth trying to accept he made a one off mistake. It won't be easy, but if you both pull together to work at your marriage and you put the betrayal behind you, then yes you can find happiness together again.
I hope once your initial anger has died down, that you do not suffer any crisis of confidence. You will be a big person if you can put it behind you, but remember you are not to blame for his actions. I hope he realises what a fool he has been and tries to make it up to you.
2007-10-29 03:50:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry he has done this to you, I think the question isn't should you forgive him but CAN you forgive him. Whether this woman pursed him or not, is irrelevant he chose to sleep with her, can you ever trust him again? Counselling might be a good place to start but only you know if there has been unrepairable damage.
2007-10-29 10:40:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes hon there is life after a one night stand even if he does kiss someone else. This has happened to me you know how long it took me to forgive him a month to forget about it. But we got though it. i took it one day at a time. being with him really helped. As your job goes i been there too my boyfirend went back with his ex it hurt me so much. but i forgave him too. he actully made me leave so there was no fighting . but do what you got to do i left a good job too and regrat it dont make the same mistake i made. good luck and the only that can make this desiction is you.
2007-10-29 10:40:40 · answer #3 · answered by jerseygirlprincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have not had this happen to me however I think that it is going to take a while for him to earn back your trust. I think if he is willing to go to counseling and not go to office parties and eventually quit his job then he deserves another chance. Good Luck!
2007-10-29 10:36:31 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you really trust him ever again? From this point on whenever he's late you'll be thinking, "I'll bet he's with another woman!". That's what cheating does...all the trust goes right out of the window.
It's your call. Personally, if a woman cheated on me, I'd dump her.
2007-10-29 10:50:07 · answer #5 · answered by Mr.Longrove 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i totally understand you i ve been in the same position as you,if you really love him give it another go but dont stay with him just for the sake of the children because it just wont work....you have to think carefully if you still want him and love him and if he goes back to the same job he's bound to sleep with that w**** again good luck x
2007-10-29 10:34:35 · answer #6 · answered by mals2008 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh dear. my circumstances are alittle different (gay) but the same thing happened to me awhile ago and it was too hard to forget. perhaps you can forgive them for doing the deed but it is hard to forget. i found myself wondering what was going on if he was late from work ect and overtime those thoughts do subside but every now and then the creep back into your mind. it will be tough for you 2 but if he wants to give it a go and there is still love there and he makes the sacrifices then go for it but just be alittle cautious.
2007-10-29 11:53:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real question is are you able/prepared to trust him. If so, your relatioinship can be rebuilt...though he should admit that pursued or not he played his part.
If the trust is not there the relationship is doomed anyhow, so move on.
2007-10-29 15:50:53 · answer #8 · answered by alan h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I have to say is once a cheater always a cheater I would move on.
2007-10-29 10:43:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋