aren't proper?
She's slipped her hand down the front of my boxer shorts amongst other things. And She tells me that she has feelings for me and has had for a long time and now she's texting me..... She's a nice girl but this can't go on.
She was pissed the night she slipped the hand and so afterwards I just pretended that nothing happened. To let her retreat with dignity. [we all behaive like idiots now and again and so need a chance].... *But*, she hasn't forgotten and it's something she just wants....... but, well, I didn't make marriage vows with her and I never encouraged her love nor teased her so I owe her nothing in that department....... But how do I keep her as a friend whilst stoping her from just slipping her hands etc?
She's a good looking girl and I know boys are interested in her,,, but she just seems to want the unatainable.... eeeeesh.
2007-10-29 04:24:56 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wanting to remain friends with this woman means that you have zero respect for your wife. You are not ready for marriage if you must ask this question to "guys only" yet! lol... cuz you know they'll all say the "manly thing"... you know, just tap that!! Haha, seriously, divorce your wife first, then run wild until you find someone you truly love and can fully respect.
2007-10-29 04:32:59 · answer #1 · answered by Betty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way to keep her as a friend... I mean she knows your married and still pursues you... That isn't a friend that is a homewrecker! She wants what she can not have and one day, when you've had a bad day with the Mrs., she'll be there telling you she is the "I wouldn't do that girl"... Then you will start to lean because as she stated, "she wouldn't do that you you" and has become dangerous... That is when it leads to an affair...
It goes on and on... I would just hope, for sake of your wife and respect for your marriage, that you would break all ties... You don't need poison in your life!
2007-10-29 11:34:20 · answer #2 · answered by Beatngu 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm curious as to how she got so close to you that she could slip her hand down your pants and boxers so easily...or if you were only in boxers in her presence, why?
You simply tell her straight up that you are married and will not violate your vows. If that upsets her then she's not someone worth associating with anyway.
2007-10-29 11:28:38 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok, i have experience with a similar situation.... she doesnt have feelings for you and no respectable girl acts like this... dont be her friend at all. she has no respect for you or your marriage and the longer you remain friends the more dangerous it will be for you. it is a slippery slippery slope and once you go down it its hard to climb back up... be honest with you wife about this girls intentions, ask her opinion. the more open you are with your wife the better.. my husband was friends with a woman that wanted him, he resisted her for a long long time, then one night me and him got in a fight and she went for it and he let in... it ruined our marriage, and when he told the girl he made a mistake, she stalked our house for months and tried to get me fired from my job.. girls who pursue a married man like that have a screw loose, she is not balanced in her mind.. dont let your ego get the best of you, you dont need her friendship.
2007-10-29 13:09:12 · answer #4 · answered by kisses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to try to avoid her unless there is someone else around with you and it may be impossible to be just a friend to her, especially if she knows that you are married. She will keep trying as long as you are there if you treat her like a friend so you have to treat her as someone you know but not a friend because a friend would never do something like this but would respect the fact that you are married.
2007-10-29 11:35:31 · answer #5 · answered by Al B 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can start by not hanging out with another woman while you are in your boxers.!?
Just tell her you are married and want nothing to do with her sexually and would like to be just friends, if she can't handle that than she probably would not have been a good friend to begin with.
2007-10-29 11:28:32 · answer #6 · answered by ~NIKKI~ 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
There's only one thing you can do- Let her know that you don't appreciate her advances.
You don't owe her any other explanations, I'm sure she knows that your married and if she doesn't, then you have more issues to deal with than just her advances.
2007-10-29 11:50:12 · answer #7 · answered by Nemesis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a good man, no wonder she wants you! Be proud of yourself for being a decent man. You deserve a pat on the back.
I would let her know you are married and intend to remain that way. If she doesnt understand don't put yourself in a position to be alone with her....
Best luck
2007-10-29 11:29:55 · answer #8 · answered by itsjust me123 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
This woman is not your friend. What kind of a friend would do that to you? Why doesn't she know you are married. You sound like a person who doesn't fully commit to his marriage..or she would already know you are married...wear a ring.....a BIG one.
2007-10-29 11:29:48 · answer #9 · answered by Rein 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
You wear boxers? I can't stand them. Where exactly were you when she was playing palm the pickle?
2007-10-29 11:30:32 · answer #10 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋