What is your opinion on a 18 year old marrying a 32 year old ( women 18)?

Question

Known my fiance for a year have been in a non sexual relationship for 6 months

Answer 1

When I was 18 I dated a man that was 10 years older and from my experience, its not a good idea.

When you are 18, you are still wet behind the ears, just learning the way of real life. A person that is 32 years old is plenty set in his ways. Instead of marrying a young man your age and growing together and in a way molding your life together, when you marry an older man, YOU have to comprimise, he is like a stone and unwilling to budge and you have to "mold" yourself around his ways, not making a life together, you are just joining his.

Of course there is no amount of warning that I am sure you are willing to listen to... its one of them things you will have to figure out for yourself more than likely. But I hope you do at the least take that thought into consideration. Good luck.

Answer 2

She's very much a teenager mentally. What she doesn't realize is that when a guy so much older wants someone as young as her, it's because a woman their own age wouldn't put up with their crap like a naive 18 yr old will. When you get married, she's probably going to want to do all the things her friends are doing, and resent being tied down, and you'll eventually divorce. If you are the 18 yr old, wait until you are 25, and no sex before then, and get married to someone maybe 10 years older at MOST. If you are the 32 year old, tell her the truth, everything I said here, and find someone your own age to marry.

Answer 3

I think it's a bad situation. No matter how mature an 18 year old is, the 32 should be much more. If he is not, then that means he is extremely immature. That may not sound too bad right now, but eventually that 18 year old is going to grow up and look what she will be stuck with. A man in his 30's or 40's with the maturity level of a teen. You change so much in your 20's, more than anyone ever believes will happen. God help her, because that is going to be a pain in her butt for the rest of her life.

Answer 4

I think that if you both have common interest and have high morales and treat each other you want to be treated then i think it is fine. i was married once before to a women my age and she constantly played games. I married my wife when she was 19 and i was 33 we have been married 6 yrs and marriage just keeps getting better. I think it depends on the two people, my wife is one of a kind never met someone so wonderful. i think age is just numbers after 18 and as long as you get along well so be it. I am glad that i didnt rule out by numbers because i would have missed my diamond.

Answer 5

I wouldn't rush into it until you explore all that it will mean in your lives, perhaps even get some counseling about it, but Oona O'Neal married Charlie Chaplin - to give one example - when he was over 50 - 55 I think it was - and they were happily married for some 35 years until his death and had 8 children. She never dated after that and said that no one could take his place and in fact dealt with his death and her loneliness by becoming an alcoholic before her own death some 14 years after him. So age should not e as important as making sure that this is what you both want and that you realize both what you will be giving up and what you will be gaining in a marriage.

Answer 6

Not a god Idea. That's my opinion. unless this 18yr old girl is a sometheing of an anomoly, this marriage will end in someone's heart (probably the guy's) getting broken. She JUST go out of highschool, hasn't seen the world and probably hasn't had the opportunity to live for herself yet. Once she realizes that all her friends who arn't in relationships like this, she'll start to regret her decisions and make things miserable for the guy.

The guy in this situation can't be much better. He's looknig for the young girl he can show to everyone. He's probably a control freak too. He can easily control an 18yr old becasue he's established, has money to give her (or with hold form her) He can give her anything but control her by withholding things if she pisses him off, making her come back and do things for him sh she can get the benefits.

Answer 7

I think it is great, it will be the most exciting time of your life, congratulations i wish all your dreams will come true.
PS. But before you do anything,
i would get a prenuptial agreement signed by him and his next girlfriend, because in two or three weeks when the loving is over and the same old same old 35 year old women walks around nude in the light Just look at his eyes he cant even look you in the face, it will be over, if i were you take him to Vega's for two weeks let him have full treatment of your most passionate love Jones, and if he is still around when the dust settles then try two more weeks on a Cruise ship. my bet is you will enjoy the ride, for as long as it last. and that wont be long. unless he is blind.

Answer 8

Oh, I've been there! And it was beautiful, and I don't regret it. But we didn't end up marrying...

Divorce rates are high for spouses who don't have an extra obstacle like this large of an age difference. "Age is just a number", I know, but not everyone knows. Parents often don't. Some friends in your social circle might not. I'm not trying to tell you to abandon your greatest happiness for social acceptance, but I am trying to alert you to the speed bumps. I'm not saying that a successful marriage is impossible to achieve between a generation gap (I do have examples if you wish them), but you've got to be certain of what you're willing and unwilling to sacrifice for this one relationship.

My advice would be to wait to marry. If the love between the both of you is meant to be for a lifetime, waiting until you're 21 shouldn't be much of 'test'. The both of you can use that time to plan the wedding of your dreams to the finest detail, while allowing both sets of parents and friends to adjust to the fact that you guys make the perfect couple.

Good luck!

Answer 9

Wow! Umm well you are both adults. Thats a big age difference. But I've known a couple who were 20 years apart and the were madly in love. So I think there is no problem. If you love him and him with you then it's fine. I hope it all works out with you 2. God Bless!

Answer 10

Sorry to tell you, but you should not marry someone who is not closer to your age.

I have been there. My mother at 25 married my father at 50 and once the newness wore off the age started to take a toll on them. They had five kids and my mother turned out to be a housewife and he worked all the time. By the time he was 60 he wanted to retire and live in an RV. How could my mother do that with kids?
My father was older and wanted his freedom back. Once he quit his job live took a down-turn and we were living in poverty.
And he moved on with his life. Left us and took to the road.

The age difference always catches up, in one way or another.
When you are in the prime of your life he is over the hill. When you are in your 50s he is retiring and quiting his job. When you are in your 60's you will be home caring for an OLD man instead of enjoying the rest of your years. We just did that with my father in law and it is not fun. He was bedridden and on diapers.
I know this all sounds pathetic to you now but the age span will still affect your marriage and kids. If you really thing you love him please think of your future children too. I grew up without a father and have never healed. He died when I was 17 yrs old and he was 76 yrs old. I regretted my whole life not having my father around and resented my mother allowing it to happen. I envied all the other teens who had their fathers and mine was gone, dead before I started my life.

Becareful, you will get hurt. Men always wanted the younger woman but if they realize you are not mature enough for them or they find the person that matches them better, they are history and your life is damaged. If I was you, I would run to the HILLS while I could still walk.