how can i seduce an older man...?

Question

Hi! well, i'm 18 years old, and i really like this guy, i think he's in his 30s.. the age difference between us wont be less than 15 years. i'm quite hot, i believe so 'cause ive been told that by lots of guys my age.. i get asked out and stuff, i usually say no when i knw that it wont work out because i dont wanna hurt anybody, ive always been attracted to older guys. specially this guy, since the first time i saw him.. he is amazing, i doubt he noticed me, because usually when i'm around him, i'm in a huge group of people. anyway, as i said before lots of guys find me attractive, but ive never approached a guy before, i'm a bit shy.. specially when it comes to someone this old, it can be really intimidating, so any suggestions on how i can grab his attention?i do have his email, should i send him msgs from time to time? and then tell him that it's me?
and yeah, please guys, check this question again later because i'll add some important details, i only need to knw what u think so far

we are of different nationalities too, he is german and i'm half egyptian and ehem... i dont know how to say that, first of all i'm not some kind of a slut... anyway, he's my professor?

he's not married nor engaged

Answer 1

Hmmm, how does an 18 year old woman go about seducing a man in his thirties...?

If he's a self-respecting man, then I would suggest casually approaching him a bit more for conversation. It's not like the conversation has to be really substantive, but after a few times of doing this I'm sure he'll begin to notice.

If he's not a self-respecting man (like most of us!), you could probably be more aggressive. Guys know they shouldn't, but if a girl is attractive and takes the initiative sometimes that'll be enough to assuage whatever guilt he might be feeling. Once that happens, watch in awe as his self-control turns to poop.

Answer 2

How do you know him? where does he usually sees you at?
Have u ever try to have a conversation wt him??? remember he is an older man and he is more experience than you are.
many factors play in dating an older man b/c remember u still young & beutiful and while u might just have a crush on him he might take things a lil more serious (or not). Dont be shy to approached him, man like when a younger girl approach them and can carried a great conversation with them. that would show them u are no longer a kid. every man has fantasys with youger girls so i am sure if u are as pretty as u said u are u should not have any problems to seduce him.

But if he is YOur TEACHER? I dnt think is a good idea and he wont risk his Job over u!.... is he married???/

Answer 3

OK, don't take this personally but it has to be said. What do you think a MAN in his 30's would want with a GIRL in her teens? If you throw yourself at this guy and he takes the bait, you lose, if he rejects you, you lose. Why do you ask? Because there is a HUGE difference between the maturity level of someone your age and someone his age. What would the two of you talk about? If this guy reacts positively to your advance, he either just wants sex, or he has deep issues related to his own delay to mature. Sorry to be so blunt, and I know the difference in age if you were 30 and he were 45 wouldn't be significant, but 18 to 33 is just as you at 18 dating a 3 year old. The other thing to think about is are you sure he isn't married? So if its a sex filled one nighter you are looking for, go for it, but if you want more......good luck

Answer 4

While I don't think this is a very good idea, I'll make my suggestion as if it were:-)

Most older men fantasize about younger women to some extent, so if you don't want this to simply be about fulfilling his sexual fantasy in the short term, you should make an approach that hopefully lets him think of you as more of an age equal. That way, any relationship has a better chance of being longer term and not just about the sex.

So - my advice would be to interact with this guy as if you were 30 years old. Be mature. Ask him out to dinner or for lunch. When making conversation, don't ask him about his horoscope sign or his favorite rap song or whatever topics 18-year olds typically converse about, because that simply lets him view you as a kid. Talk politics. Talk about what he does in his spare time. Listen to older women - what do they talk about with guys? Dress older and act older and any relationship that may form has a better chance of being about you instead of being about just sex.

Answer 5

Talk to him casually, offer him a drink. Ask his details and whatever. Older men usually like women who are actually more mature, and think more about the family as a whole rather than themselves. Are you sure you would want to proceed with this?

At any rate, talk to him personally, get his phone number, build it up slowly. Never make a move too quickly, since we're not talking about the itsy bitsy teenage boys. We're talking about a fully grown, mature man.

He might want commitment rather than fun, so you might want to change your mind and look for someone younger. For him, getting a girlfriend is aimed to marriage, and well, that will eat up pretty much a large fraction of your future.

And I'm sure you wouldn't like to break his heart as well.

But whatever it is, the choice is yours.

Cheers.

Answer 6

Gurl, this guy is WAY too old for you. Any respectable man in his 30's (or even late 20's) would not go for an 18 year old. Your age gap at this point in time is too great, and how much would you two really have in common? With sincere respect, I ask you to look at what you wrote in your own question. You mention that you are "hot", but a relationship isn't built on physical attraction alone - and because of what you wrote, I can see that you are still very immature (and rightfully so, you are only 18 and have the right to be naive!) I was once in your situation, and the older man I had a "crush" on just used me. He had a girlfriend his own age that I didn't know about, and was only looking for one thing - SEX. I'm in my 30's now, and I look back on that time with great regret. Please, please, please take my advice and go out with a boy closer to your own age - this man will only end up breaking your heart. Don't listen to these other people - you are too young for him, and you also shouldn't be drinking!

I see you added that he is your professor.....most colleges have rules against dating students and he will probably lose his job if he is caught. Forget this guy.

Answer 7

I'm glad that you are an attractive person. But think for a moment. Is who you are defined only by what your body looks like? I hope not. As you say, you're a bit shy and that's because you haven't matured yet. I'd leave it be and wait until you're truely ready to be with someone who cares for and loves you for who you are and at the same time being happy with yourself.

Answer 8

well being lebanese american , i can tell u that u should maybe show him your belly dance moves hehe. If your egyptian u must be able to belly dance. Just also try to get to know him as a person first and not some guy u look up to.
Treat him like a normal human being and if hes not snobby he will respond to u in similar fashion.
good luck

Answer 9

If you're hot and 18 you'd have to work hard NOT to seduce a single man in his 30s.

Sure, send him an email.

Answer 10

Break the ice and introduce yourself to him. Strike up a conversation and see what makes him tick. Men are simple creatures and all you have to do is find out which button to push.