Family & Relationships - 25 October 2007

i really need some help understanding this. My bf and i have been together for 3 years and our sex life is ok. It all started out ok and when i moved in, i found alot of porn on the comp. I asked he about it and said he didnt need it anymore so deleted it. I said i was happy to watch it with him but he wasnt comfortable with it. we got a new computer andall was ok. Then when i was pregnant, i found out that he was waking up to watch it downstairs while i was asleep. The thing is now, is that i found his porn and hid it, he said he didnt need it as he had me. Then he found it and said that he still wanted it. It makes me feel so useless as WHENEVER i went out, he would put it on and wouldnt want to make love for days after. I told him this but he just brushed me off.He knows i have insecurities and agreed to give it away. I was happy as he promised it was all gone, then i found some in his wardrobe that he had kept. This makes ME feel ill, what can i do?
Please help

2007-10-25 23:58:43 · 17 answers · asked by fleurt82 2 in Singles & Dating

There is a gorgeous secretary in one of the departments at the university where I'm a student (I'm in my early 20's and she must be mid 30's). How could I, atleast hypothetically, approach her? (Note, I dont think I will seriously try anything but it is a great fantasy)

2007-10-25 23:57:52 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I saw my good male friend flirting with other women - slightly touching them and stuff.

I was around at this point - and then I went all quiet and left.

He seem concerned and called me asking me if I am okay because Ive gone all quiet (left a message on my phone as I didnt answer call).

Then he text me saying ''I have to go my friend. No doubt Ill talk to you soon xxxx''

Does he have feelings/care for me? I really like him - more than a friend.

And why doesnt he Ever flirt with Me? We talk a lot and he trusts me a Lot.

2007-10-25 23:50:37 · 8 answers · asked by Autumn 2012 3 in Singles & Dating

guy likes girl,
girl kisses guy once,
guy makes his feelings clear,
girl doesn't,
guy gets pissed off and verbally rips girl's head off,
girl stops talking to guy,
guy wants girl to explain,
girl doesn't

2007-10-25 23:47:49 · 14 answers · asked by scorpio_red_cat 2 in Singles & Dating

How does it make you feel, and how do you cope with it?

2007-10-25 23:46:12 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

what kind of charecteristics should you look for in your in laws to know if they wont trouble you after marriage ?

assuming you have a neutral mind with no fixed opinions and are flexible on all things like money, status, education, etc etc. ?

2007-10-25 23:43:11 · 6 answers · asked by Pramod R 4 in Marriage & Divorce

We have a male friend of the family who carries a torch for my wife; she knows this, has told me, and has said it's under control, she's told him she can't go there, she loves me and doesn't fancy him. I've no reason to doubt this, and am pretty certain nothing untoward has gone on, but would like any married women's opinions on two little incidents; the first is the fact that when she emailed him three pics of a group day at the beach one of them was just of her, in a bikini. the other is when I happened to walk in on them working on a computer project; something had just gone wrong on screen, causing him to sigh in exasperation, at which she lent over and put her forehead on his shoulder in a kind of empathy thing I guess. A little bit of me wonders if these two incidents are really a good idea with a guy you wish to clearly put off any hope of romatic ideas? Or am I just getting paranoid?

2007-10-25 23:31:34 · 14 answers · asked by SITSC 1 in Marriage & Divorce

quiet guys who know how to walk, reserved, don talk much, quite funny when they do speak, caring, masculine or do they prefer emo boys or feminine types or hip hop types? By the way im quite dark skinned

2007-10-25 23:18:06 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

my husband and i always get into arguements, bad ones. i love him but i dont know if i can stand him much longer. in january i turn 18 & i want to make my desicion by then, i have 2 months. our latest, biggest problem is money. my mom has been saving up my child support money so i can go to college but i might not need it for college if i can get a grant or something where i dont pay a cent to go to the college of my choice. if that happens i can use the money on what i want, but until i find out, my husband wont allow me to see my mom because he thinks she'll use the money for herself (only my mom doesnt steal money from her kids like his mom ). this annoys me because shes done so much for me and my husband already and he expects more. he wants to use the money to pay off his loans from before we got married. his mom never did anything for us and she complains when she buys diapers for her grand daughter. my mom has done so much for us, she gave us a fridge, car, $3000,...

2007-10-25 23:18:01 · 8 answers · asked by Diana Ngo 2 in Marriage & Divorce

although i pay no maintenance i signed the house over to him and it was agreed this was a lump sum for my daughters upkeep he now tells me im getting off lightly and have no rights and if i want to see my daughter it has to suit him and i must supply transport even though he knows this isnt always possible and i must drop her off at his girlfriends house which is further away and says the deal is she gets picked up and droped off to suit him this cant be right

2007-10-25 23:13:42 · 12 answers · asked by Kristy S 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Why do we make it so complicated?
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Don’t forget to star if you like this question ... Hey this is only a reminder, not a request.

2007-10-25 23:13:19 · 18 answers · asked by ? 4 in Marriage & Divorce

We have been together for over 2 years,His actions say that he loves me.I think It just might be weird for him to say the actual words.He has said the words when I asked him before.

2007-10-25 23:12:44 · 9 answers · asked by Missy 2 in Singles & Dating

boyfriends, you dont think that I appeared just a little bit too desperate do you?I mean do you think people will mention it?

2007-10-25 23:03:53 · 6 answers · asked by nachomanhulk 1 in Singles & Dating

When im with my boyfriend and we kiss or touch each other i get a really nice feeling down below! Its like a rush of pleasure! I also get it when he sends dirty messages to me or says something sexual!

Why is this???

2007-10-25 23:02:43 · 11 answers · asked by xxxLiLbAbiGuRlxxx 1 in Singles & Dating

What is the acceptable age. Is in her 30s too young or too old?


Just wondering.......................

2007-10-25 22:56:00 · 15 answers · asked by ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ 2 in Singles & Dating

I was talking to my girlfriend on my cell phone last night..we are both in our mid-20s. Before we hung up she says that she needs me. What does this mean? This is the first time she has said this. It would be great if someone will shine some light onto this. I should have asked her what she meant.

2007-10-25 22:38:31 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

how do i deal with a insecure boyfriend,who does not approve of me having male friends,going out with girlfriends,gets angry at the way i behave with him which is like a friend and when its time to behave like a couple i do...but i mean being in a relationship also means being friends and lovers right...some advice please...

2007-10-25 22:32:12 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i like this girl. she does not like me. she told me i'm cute and sweet, but i thinks she wants more of a badass. she talks dirty and she likes emo boys. if you look at her you would think she is shy and innocent. do you think i should move on or pursue her? i also think she has a high opinion about the way she looks. i'm really not sure people. what should i do?

2007-10-25 22:31:22 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I'm 29, 5'11/5", 150 lbs, have a great job, dress well, and keep my hair cut and short. I love being intimate with a woman. I love sex and treating a woman right, giving them what they want and like to be a friend to them in the relationship.
I'm confident, I look people in the eyes, I'm intelligent, but I don't talk very much and I'm shy in talking aspect. I love photography. The reason I'm not outgoing is because I don't like idle banter or "chit-chat". However, when I do talk about things, I say what I mean and mean what I say. Actions speak louder than words. What I like to talk and think about are important, philosophical, like stuff about purpose, meaning, and reason.
What do you think? Opinions please.
Here is a picture of me,

http://www.flickr.com/photos/60766525@N00/1755946793/

2007-10-25 22:31:18 · 9 answers · asked by Mike 4 in Singles & Dating

2007-10-25 22:29:23 · 2 answers · asked by alice n 1 in Singles & Dating

ok so he is not gorgeous or hideous he is average....he is ALWAYS staring at me.durring all my classes.he is not like those super popular people but he is popular like me[everyone knows you exist]and eveyone always says why is he starring at you!and he has never had a girlfriend so thats good because ive only had one and it didnt even last for an hour...........so what should i do! should i ask him or havesomeone else ask him for me[btw in only 12]

2007-10-25 22:22:10 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I got a phone call from a guy the other night who I don't know. I'm a little bit concerned about it because I have no idea how he got my number. He said his name was Greg and that we met online before. I asked him how he got my number and all he would say is "I have my ways." I asked him how he knew me and he said that we met online back in June (which was no help to me bacause I am on tons of sites. (Myspace, Facebook, Bebo, Tagged, etc.) I have absolutley no recollection of this guy. He said that we had about 5 or 6 conversations back in June and haven't talked since then. I asked him why he hasn't talked to me for so long and he said "Well, I really like you a lot and I didn't want to scare you off." Well what the hell does he think mysteriously calling me and being all vague is doing? I NEVER give my number to ANYBODY I meet online, so I know I didn't give it to him. Besides, since June I have gotten a whole new phone and changed number and everything.

2007-10-25 22:20:36 · 5 answers · asked by Ex-Blondie 3 in Singles & Dating

I was planning on having a thank you scroll set out with our wedding favors at our reception.
I am having a lil trouble with the wording...
I found this on verseit.com and was going to tweak it a bit...

What words can ever tell
the joy that we feel
remembering that you shared
the beginning of our
new life together

Thank you for your gifts,
whether wrapped, spoken or written
and for making our day a true celebration
of our love, family and friendships.

Thanks for your input.

2007-10-25 22:17:05 · 3 answers · asked by nataliexoxo 7 in Weddings

ok..i've got a prolem wih my dad....
i'm a papa's girl since i'm an unica hija,and he quite spoiled me,i grew up being a blunt person(i'm only 17),but when i tried to reason out ,my parents always take it as a 'talk back'....(now i dot have a very nice relationship wih them)....a week ago,my and my dad had an argument/debate(we always do,and he always win),but not this time,i know it,and i know he knows it too..(by the way,i'm in my second year in college),...the thing is he won't accept it...and he attacked my pride...and he laughed knowing i'm gonna cry in a minute,and claims that he won that debate,....i'm not a cry baby,the thing that hurt so much is that he's THAT kind of person,....and i idolized him,it hurts so much knowing it...he can't accept his defeat(maybe it's childish,but it does matter to me)......................................dads,what do you think my father is thinking?.....i hate him now..

2007-10-25 22:14:20 · 4 answers · asked by nap 3 in Family

I spoke to an Indian friend of mine who claimed to be a good man. He says that women should put up with men cheating on them and men should put up with women doing the same to them because we are a modern society.

Um, somehow I don't think that this is what Jesus intended.

2007-10-25 22:08:02 · 23 answers · asked by FawneMine 3 in Singles & Dating

Here is the deal, a guy that I like had been dating for 3 weeks now. But he doesnt know that I am a virgin and dont want to do anything until I'm married. Howe can I tell. (like the specific words) when is the best time? should I have told him from the start????

2007-10-25 22:07:08 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Hello me and my girlfriend r both 18 and have been going out for 3 weeks just been over each others houses and to dinner and movies so far. However this weekend i wanted to change it up a bit i was thinking of taking her down to this place called the beach house where i live its has lots of fun stuff there to do together like play putt putt and go on boat rides together and more. Then after that we would eat at restaurant then sit down on the beach and watch the sunset together. Now i was wondering if this sounded lame or is it ok? thank you in advance.

2007-10-25 22:05:57 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I see life as a challenge you know, sort of a game. So do you think you'll win this game? Thanks

2007-10-25 22:00:56 · 16 answers · asked by †100% Angel† 6 in Other - Family & Relationships

So I was talking with a friend of mine and we came onto the topic of horroscopes and he said he'll look our match up.

So he was translating it into English and I noticed something, so there's all the usual, the way we would work as partners, as friends, for a relationship etc...
The relationship bit was lets say third sentence and it said something like for a relationship to develop it would be in the long long term and some other stuff.

The (before the) last sentence of his translation was a friendship would suit both better but then he said, again, and if a relationship would develop it would be in the long long term.

Why did he repeat that? I doubt it would be in the actual horroscope thing, they've already mentioned it so why mention it again?
Did he deliberatley mention it so I wouldnt focus on the friendship bit and consider the effects of a relationship?

I know he kinda likes me, we discussed it once but our distance was the problem so I was curious...

2007-10-25 21:59:58 · 1 answers · asked by ██████████ 3 in Singles & Dating

If you grew love someone and you never seen them, if when you seen them they were not what you expected would you just leave them alone never speaking again?, or would you stay with them reguardless? Why or why not?

2007-10-25 21:42:18 · 16 answers · asked by Mattie T 2 in Singles & Dating