my husband and i always get into arguements, bad ones. i love him but i dont know if i can stand him much longer. in january i turn 18 & i want to make my desicion by then, i have 2 months. our latest, biggest problem is money. my mom has been saving up my child support money so i can go to college but i might not need it for college if i can get a grant or something where i dont pay a cent to go to the college of my choice. if that happens i can use the money on what i want, but until i find out, my husband wont allow me to see my mom because he thinks she'll use the money for herself (only my mom doesnt steal money from her kids like his mom ). this annoys me because shes done so much for me and my husband already and he expects more. he wants to use the money to pay off his loans from before we got married. his mom never did anything for us and she complains when she buys diapers for her grand daughter. my mom has done so much for us, she gave us a fridge, car, $3000,...
2007-10-25 23:18:01 · 8 answers · asked by Diana Ngo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i also feel like he doesnt love me & all he wants is sex with no romance. if he really loves me would he put me through such pain? i want to move out of my mother in laws house but we have no mmoney at the end of the month and he's a big spender. i hate living in this house. shes rude and never does anythng but watch tv or go out all night like a teenager when shes 50. she opens the windows when the house is like 60 degrees because shes hot while i freeze my *** off. its not my house why should i do all the house work when she does nothing. i understand helping out but not when she doesnt do the work only me. im not a ****** maid. and on top of that she doesnt speak english. ive tried talking to my husband but doing that always brings us back into a fight. he just cant grow up and leave his mommy. i feel like im gonna go insane. im stuck here all the time. i hate this!!! should i leave his 23 year old *** who still hasnt grown up yet or developed brain??
2007-10-25 23:30:08 · update #1
WE ALSO HAVE A 3 MONTH OLD BABY. so i cant get a job because i have to stay with her. and im doing home school.
2007-10-25 23:32:58 · update #2
first and foremost. Why be under the control of your husband if you know what's good for you and your family? if you know what's right, then do it. You don't need your husband's approval or anything if you know that he's not being of any help and only gets on your nerves. But then, make him understand that your mom wants only what's best for you and your family. If he has problems with his own mom, that's a problem that he has to resolve on his own. For you, your part as his wife is to tell him to fix his somewhat torn relationship with his mother because if he doesn't, his past will only affect his attitude in the present. And as you can see, as a result, he doesn't seem to have any trust on parents. Make him see that your mom is a different kind and that your mom is willing and ready to help the both of you. The best way to solve problems is to get to its source and do something about it. You can do it. If the both of you love each other so much, you'll find a way to understand and sort things out. It'll be okay. :)
2007-10-25 23:46:53 · answer #1 · answered by jumi_025 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a part time job.Go to nite classess.If this doesnt work out walk away.You and your child comes first.All relations need trust and honesty.Both have to work together.Feel sorry for the young generation now.When they try they get knocked back.You have to be strong.
2007-10-26 06:26:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think at such a age u r suffering a lot coz of your marriage....
i suggest you to complete your education girst..
If your husband doesnt allow then leave him.....
try getting a part time job...
this relation is just giving you pain....
do go to college plzzz
2007-10-26 06:26:57 · answer #3 · answered by aceneelam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't marrying young grand? And you thought it'd be all peaches and cream, didn't you?
2007-10-26 07:17:23 · answer #4 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should probabljust say hes rite even if he isnt in the argument or if he keeps moanin leave him
2007-10-26 06:20:43 · answer #5 · answered by George B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how are you married at 17 ? besides that,only you can stand up for yourself. tell hubby no.
2007-10-26 06:22:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Counseling, if that does not work, seperation, if that does not work...divorce.
2007-10-26 06:23:44 · answer #7 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU SHOUL TRY EXPLAIN TO YOUR HUSBAND(can u pls select as best ans pls)
2007-10-26 06:22:45 · answer #8 · answered by liya_robin 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋