Family & Relationships - 22 October 2007

my babie is 16 weeks old his dad as neva paid a penny to me or bought him anthink he as neva wanted to see him even though i havegiven him the oppurtunity to on more than 1 occasion the only time he offered me money was en he said i could have money ifi gave him sex, he is no sayin he is goin to take me to court t get acess and th reason for this is he nt to mes my relationship up with my current partner, he tex me or emails me sayin things cu he nos it stresses me which then course me to start on james my partner, i feel likei cannot tak anymore of this and it is really getin me down is there anythink i can do.

2007-10-22 23:53:45 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

she asked me if i was gay. What was i supposed to say? I didnt want to lie to her but im not ready to tell them. So i just told her i have a boyfriend and my other friend started asking me who. I made up some name and showed a picture of a friend of mine they dont know. Thats all i said so i didnt lie about being gay. I just lied about the bf thing. Was i wrong to do this? pleas tell me you opinions.

2007-10-22 23:42:41 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am very much in love with my boyfriend of 7 months & I do believe that he is in love with me too. We get on incredibly well, have an excellent sex life, rarely argue BUT he is incredibly selfish. He is absolutely unable to put anyone before himself. I was feeling poorly last night & he has not thought to call or text me this AM to see how I am feeling & he won’t remember that I had felt ill because he will be consumed with his day & telling me about it. I will go to his house on a Friday evening for the weekend & he will not have brought any shopping not even milk for a cup of tea. We have spoken about it & he is aware of what he is like & says its because he has been on his own for a long time (this is true he has not been in a serious relationship for years) & not used to thinking of someone else but that he loves me & is committed to making it work. He can be incredibly romantic & is sweet and affectionate. But its getting me down, how can I handle this? I dont want to lose him.

2007-10-22 23:34:44 · 19 answers · asked by Nj 2 in Singles & Dating

i.e. happier.

No matter how hard I try I can't actually feel upset. I sometimes feel a bit guilty because I don't feel upset, and I sometimes feel a little uncertain (not very) about whether it's right just to let a 17 year relationship end even if it was hell towards the end. But then I think well if it weren't the right thing to do I'd be feeling more upset so I must be doing the right thing.

So I'm just wondering if anyone else has felt like this and whether I'll feel any differently after a few weeks. (It's only been 10 days)?

2007-10-22 23:33:55 · 22 answers · asked by Louise H 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I just went out on a date with this guy to the movies and this is his first impression:

PROS: good looking, good physique, funny, laid back, tall, friendly, talkative, likes to take things slowly

CONS: smokes, cusses a lot, he may secretly love my younger cousin, always commenting on how pretty this girl is, gets excited when he sees a half naked woman on screen (this was when we were watching the movie)

the last two cons, i hated because it made me feel like i had to measure up to these "perfect" girls, or that if we ever got to that point of being serious, i may have to put up with his eyes checking out every girl who was hotter than me and maybe even cheating behind my back

so what do you think? i just want your opinion if you think i should waste my time on this guy. i know you can't exactly judge from the first meeting because i don't know this guy entirely yet, but c'mon! if i was a guy goin' on a date, first impressions are important and you gotta make sure you do it right!

2007-10-22 23:29:47 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-10-22 23:22:56 · 16 answers · asked by renesiony 1 in Family

Our friend has been going out with this boy for about 3 months now and although we thought we could bear him, we can't.
He only had like one friend before and now he ditched him and spends all hsi time with us in our group.
Whether it's walking to school, sitting down in the canteen, hanging out at friends houses or even in PE lessons, he is ALWAYS there, attatched to her.
The worst part is there relationship is really rocky and they are always falling out, yeah he doesnt go away, so you always have to tip-toe around him and cant say what you're thinking, just becasue he's there.

WE ARE IN DESPERATE NEED OF HELP !! ANY SUGGESTIONS WELCOME ! NO MATTER HOW MEAN !

Thank - You !
xxx

2007-10-22 23:21:36 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

2007-10-22 23:19:18 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

2007-10-22 23:17:40 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I was asked this question awhile back and i really did not have a concrete answer. I just want to know how the majority would respond. You know you have bills to pay, no man to help with the kids, no food in the fridge, no car, the lights are about to be cut off; would you pursue the oldest profession, ONLY IF U HAD TO TO FEED YOUR KIDS AND MAINTAIN SHELTER? I dont want smart alec answers, just sincere and honest answers, please

2007-10-22 23:16:37 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2007-10-22 23:09:55 · 9 answers · asked by havah 2 in Marriage & Divorce

This is a tad drawn out, not to mention pathetic, but please stick with me. Basically, my best friend fell out big time with his (married) sister; soon afterwards she started hanging round me a lot, was on msn every day, we went out places, talked for ages, etc; even seemed to be flirting slightly; endless eye contact, lots of compliments, found excuses to get half undressed a couple of times.

All along my friend said she was trying enchant me just to get at him; that she cared nothing for me. Being pretty naive and vulnerable (due to something I won't bore you with) I lapped up the attention and started to fall for her; she kept doing/saying borderline flirty little things - a kiss on msn, saying there's no one she'd rather be with, resting her head on my shoulder, feet on my lap, etc, but always said we were only friends.

Lately she's backed off a little. My friend says she's got bored; she says she's just busy and didn't mean to give the wrong idea. So have I been used?

2007-10-22 22:58:35 · 14 answers · asked by SITSC 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My parents are like forcing me to go to this stupid private ugly dirt unsafe school that i really hate it;s like waking up every morning to go to hell i hate it! to be honest, i'd rather die than go to that schoool every morning. I HATE IT i cutted my self so much times and i get deprresedd every time i go there!!!!! I always told my parents that i want to move but they dont care!! i need help!! what can i do? i wanna transfer to this public catholic church! but they said it's too expensive and stuff i wanna move!! what can i do? can the government help me or something?

2007-10-22 22:53:39 · 2 answers · asked by Zanjoe 1 in Family

My boyfriend had to go away in Atlanta, GA for a little while. I live in NJ and we decided that we should "do us" in the meantime b/c that was bound to happen anway. Well, after being hurt and troublesome thinking he find someone new and forget about me, I slept with his enemy 3 weeks ago. I respected him enough to let him know just incase the word would get back to him eventually. Well, I told him and it was not pretty. He says he can't hate me and he still have love for me, when when we would talk on the phone in the future, he would flip on me and bring it up again in rage. Men, does it really hurt when your woman sleeps with your enemy? does it make you angry? Is it forgivable? Does that mean you woman u thought to love is a slut? Would you ever speak to her again?

2007-10-22 22:52:38 · 5 answers · asked by EmpreSS 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

I have a good friend of 5 years who I have an enormous crush on. He is very intelligent, funny and cool. We can talk for hours about sports, music, politics, other friends, etc. The only thing is that he doesn't discuss his feelings about anything serious, ever. He seems to have one mood: happy.

The few times I have tried to open up to talk about my personal issues, he usually changes the subject or has to go. Only on two or three occasions has he said something revealing about himself or about how he feels about me (one time in an instant message he said, "thanks for being here for me.") He is a great guy to help with favors, projects, hanging out, but not for emotional support.

With my other friends, especially after so many years, there is a certain level of openness where I feel comfortable speaking about private issues. There isn't that with him.

I love him as much as it is possible to love someone who won't let you in.... how do I find out what else there is to him?

2007-10-22 22:43:56 · 6 answers · asked by californiablueeyes76 3 in Singles & Dating

a camel clutch is a wrestling submission move and it turns me on. it involves the girl sitting on my back facing my head while i am lyin on my stomach. she puts my arms behind her knees and then grabs my chin and bends my back and neck, really soar and once it is locked in, ya cannot brak out of it.

2007-10-22 22:27:27 · 5 answers · asked by lander 1 in Singles & Dating

Hi, Im a scorpio and my boyfriend is a Cancer.. is this a good match?

2007-10-22 22:25:47 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i have a friend who i care about dearly. however she is a lil bit promiscuous. i have tried to talk to her about some of her actions and some of the things she do but it doesn't work.

i have been friends with her for a long time but i don't like to go out places with her because she always gets us into a situation

im recently in a new relationship and i have been friends with the guy for over a yr and we just recently got together and he really doesnt like me to go out wit my friend.

i don't get mad cause i understand where he's comin from but because of that she doesn't like him but i cant choose between the two even tho ppl feel i shouldnt be her friend because she has done so many things to me that a friend shouldn't do

my new guy calls her poison ivy cause everytime shes around she gets me into all kinds of situations and i been friends with her since elementary and were grown now but shes still the same and she continues to hurt me as friend

should i cut her loose?

2007-10-22 22:24:48 · 11 answers · asked by tt 2 in Singles & Dating

i worked in greece last year and met this great guy from albania, he is funny and has the biggest heart out of anyone ive ever met. we were great friends and he wants me to move over there to be with him. im scared of making the move but also scared ill regret it if i dont! what do i do?

2007-10-22 22:23:25 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i have a girl who's in my 1st and 2nd period classes and i don't know what i should say to her. i try to ask her a couple times, but she doesn't reply. what does that mean? should i keep trying, or should i be her friend and nothing more?

2007-10-22 22:22:46 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Do you feel the way that you are perceived/labeled by others is justified and why/why not?

2007-10-22 22:22:26 · 4 answers · asked by Derek 4 in Singles & Dating

not ready. As he keeps on having excuses about me having to move out. He uses his mother as a scape goat. Saying she doesnt approve our affair but claims he loves me. 2 weeks ago i moved back to my parents home and decided to breakup with him. As he is not man enough to make his own decision. Was i too harsh? I dont wanna be with him anymore cause i believe he is lying to me. If he loved me he should have fought for our relationship. His mother cant decide for him. I told him to stop calling me as i need to move on with my life. AM I WRONG?

2007-10-22 22:14:05 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-10-22 22:11:54 · 26 answers · asked by joshua l 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

Since the day Mc.lovin chose me to be one of his contacts I sort of fell in love with him.

I love You Mc.Lovin !!!!!!!

2007-10-22 22:00:22 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have got married last year according to the Hindu marriage act. Now my wife is not ready to reconcile or not ready to give me divorce. I have been forcing her for divorce, but she was always ready for reconciliation. But recently she changed the mood and stating that she will not leave me and not reconcile with me. I cannot understand if there is any special strategy from her side or just she is playing with me. In front of court she is always ready for reconciliation but behind the court she threatening me that she will not give me divorce and nor reconcile. Please suggest me which step I can take to deal with her. I will never reconcile, I seriously want divorce.

2007-10-22 21:58:19 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

if your husband bought you breast implants can the judge make you pay for half or all the cost if it was a gift in marriage ?

2007-10-22 21:49:56 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Supposedly the Bible commands it. Is the whole 50/50 partnership bad for marriages? Did it cause our divorce rate?

2007-10-22 21:47:34 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

It's wrong
It's unhealthy
It won't work

How do you let it go?

2007-10-22 21:44:15 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Im a married woman 47yrs an have found this guy on computor we have become pretty close an my marriage isnt the best.. I know Im just a dreamer but I would love to share my love with him.. is it ok too just be with him in my dreams an the comp?

2007-10-22 21:41:48 · 14 answers · asked by Sweet_mystery 2 in Weddings

Well my aunt died Friday night and i didnt really know her ive only seen her like 2 times my whole life and i feal bad cause like ya i didnt cry or anything does that make me a bad person?

2007-10-22 21:40:04 · 19 answers · asked by Jessica H 2 in Singles & Dating