I have a good friend of 5 years who I have an enormous crush on. He is very intelligent, funny and cool. We can talk for hours about sports, music, politics, other friends, etc. The only thing is that he doesn't discuss his feelings about anything serious, ever. He seems to have one mood: happy.
The few times I have tried to open up to talk about my personal issues, he usually changes the subject or has to go. Only on two or three occasions has he said something revealing about himself or about how he feels about me (one time in an instant message he said, "thanks for being here for me.") He is a great guy to help with favors, projects, hanging out, but not for emotional support.
With my other friends, especially after so many years, there is a certain level of openness where I feel comfortable speaking about private issues. There isn't that with him.
I love him as much as it is possible to love someone who won't let you in.... how do I find out what else there is to him?
2007-10-22 22:43:56 · 6 answers · asked by californiablueeyes76 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe he has been hurt in the past and just does not trust anyone to the point of revealing himself...if you push you may just push him away...just be a good friend and maybe one day he might just let you in...
2007-10-22 22:49:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most often times men like this are just desiring friendship and, are not attracted the the woman. Platonic relationships that are really close border on this premise but, allow for one or the other unsuspectingly to go across the line. He may have unresolved issues from the past that may even include sexual preferences. Your best bet is to just come out and ask/tell him how you feel and, watch the results.
2007-10-23 05:54:21 · answer #2 · answered by Keith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Veness, dont push it dear! Just be a good friend. He'll come around after some time.
I have a guy friend too, we've been friends for almost 3 years now, i know he has feelings for me but i cant start asking that hey, he'll tell me when the time is right. We met single, both of us, we now have partners but still they dont match up to the friendship we have.
2007-10-23 06:30:17 · answer #3 · answered by Phenomenal woman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u could just tell him that your there for anything, a guy does not just open up about his feelings and emotions, it's not really a guy thing to do. do you see guys talking and giggling and crying with each other over the phone or in person........no...........unless there gay....i guess....so yeah guys talkin about there feeling is just something we dont do. unless were in a deep relationship, then we feel comfortable about talking about feelings..
2007-10-23 05:53:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he could be shy and he might like you idk i know i was that way with a girl and i turned out being just friends and it hurt but i wouldent ever say anything because i was afraid of rejection i would never open up because i wouldent want her to think less of me if he dosent whana open up he probably wont untill hes ready
2007-10-23 05:56:50 · answer #5 · answered by carnut22288 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing is happening to me.. need help too.. :D
2007-10-23 06:11:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋