i have a friend who i care about dearly. however she is a lil bit promiscuous. i have tried to talk to her about some of her actions and some of the things she do but it doesn't work.
i have been friends with her for a long time but i don't like to go out places with her because she always gets us into a situation
im recently in a new relationship and i have been friends with the guy for over a yr and we just recently got together and he really doesnt like me to go out wit my friend.
i don't get mad cause i understand where he's comin from but because of that she doesn't like him but i cant choose between the two even tho ppl feel i shouldnt be her friend because she has done so many things to me that a friend shouldn't do
my new guy calls her poison ivy cause everytime shes around she gets me into all kinds of situations and i been friends with her since elementary and were grown now but shes still the same and she continues to hurt me as friend
should i cut her loose?
2007-10-22 22:24:48 · 11 answers · asked by tt 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i'm not gonna leave my man i just want advice about my friend. and i did stop bein her friend once and she begged me to give her another chance but i kind of regret it cause when i wasn't her friend things were so cool for me and no drama. but at the same time i feel sorry for her cause i'm the only real friend that she has and i think that's wut lets me keep on forgiving her. cause i feel it's my fault for letting her back in my life the last time
2007-10-22 23:02:39 · update #1
well if you just would cut her loose you wouldn't be too good of a friend you need to step up and sit down with her and let her know how you feel then see where it goes from that
2007-10-22 22:29:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you were friends with someone for a long time, but that doesn't mean you've got any obligations to continue the friendship doesn't matter if he/she cares about it. of course, she also have to care about it. i'm not going to tell you something like...talk to her or forgive her etc etc. these are not going to work...and i think you've already forgave her several times for things she did. a person who has not changed herself in such a long time, will never ever change in future. i think she took your friendship for granted. but don't let it be. friendship is something we've to work on. only you work but she doesn't care, this is not friendship. also, a true friend is not going to hurt you anyway (even if she does something by mistake, she'll not do it again if she comes to know that it hurts you. but it doesn't seem she cared for if you'd be hurt or not).
you should never lose your guy for such a mean friend(!). its completely YOUR choice if you'd be with him or not. she can suggest you something good, she can help you, she can advice you, but she can't force you to leave your man or something like this just becuse "she" doesn't like him. there's always some limit for every relationship and we should know where it is.
i don't know what you'd do, but if it was me, i'd cut her loose totally...but i'd not leave my man where the reason for leaving is a third party...and he doesn't have any fault.
wish you all the best.
2007-10-22 22:47:13 · answer #2 · answered by Wonderful 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question and very well put.
You are in a dilemma. If it was a case of dumping friend to be with boyfriend, then I'd have said don't be so shallow, but it seems like your friend takes no account of your needs and feelings, even though you have made them clear to her. You two have grown apart and it sounds like you really don't have enough to justify a continued friendship - except for you history. Friends come and go through life, that's just the way it goes - it looks to me like this is time for you to go your seperate ways. Good Luck.
2007-10-22 22:31:50 · answer #3 · answered by cobra 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hmm....well if she has not been very faithful to u then i guess u should cut her loose...she got u into trouble then and she still does a true friend would never do that..so let it go...but make sure u really wanna do this cause u still seem to care about her.... :)
2007-10-22 23:03:36 · answer #4 · answered by cutie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You might have an impact on her somehow, regardless of what she does. Just be patient with her and understanding. Ignore what others tell you about her.
2007-10-22 22:35:26 · answer #5 · answered by Green Phantom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to talk to your girlfriend and tell her the facts. Now be ready if she will dump you!! As to your boy friend he meant well for you because he sees it all.
2007-10-22 22:32:35 · answer #6 · answered by Simon G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she's hurt you let her go....if she's a real friend you'll get re-acquainted later on in life.
2007-10-22 22:29:59 · answer #7 · answered by Derek 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
a true friend wouldnt hurt you cut her loose
2007-10-22 22:28:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i suggest u pray for her and forgive her wrong doings but keep distant now unless you want to be like "tell me who your friends are and i'll tell you who you are" your guy friend won't approve it do you?
2007-10-22 22:32:00 · answer #9 · answered by Angelique 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes - you need to move on in your life. She is trying to hold you back.
2007-10-22 22:28:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋