My boyfriend had to go away in Atlanta, GA for a little while. I live in NJ and we decided that we should "do us" in the meantime b/c that was bound to happen anway. Well, after being hurt and troublesome thinking he find someone new and forget about me, I slept with his enemy 3 weeks ago. I respected him enough to let him know just incase the word would get back to him eventually. Well, I told him and it was not pretty. He says he can't hate me and he still have love for me, when when we would talk on the phone in the future, he would flip on me and bring it up again in rage. Men, does it really hurt when your woman sleeps with your enemy? does it make you angry? Is it forgivable? Does that mean you woman u thought to love is a slut? Would you ever speak to her again?
2007-10-22 22:52:38 · 5 answers · asked by EmpreSS 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well, let me explain this to you, it doesn't matter if it was the "enemy" or not, the other man, is the reason.
Yes, after twelve years, it hurt so bad. Now, it's been a long time but, it seems like yesterday. Things were never the same after that, she knows that to. I didn't ask her back, she asked if she could come back. I told her it was up to her, I didn't care.
I never trusted here again. I would never do that to her, even now, to get even, she gave me the green light but, it doesn't work that way.
We had four kids at the time. They never found out about it. I do feel I wasted my life letting her come back, I didn't make the choice, she did.
2007-10-22 23:44:11 · answer #1 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem with being cheated is that the trust is being violated. You no longer trust the person who cheats. In a relationship... trust is the most important thing. It keeps the relationship strong. So if my partner cheats, i will totally lose my trust in her. And even if i forgive her, i will not trust her again, and this could create a crack in the relationship... and in times to come, may develop into a big hole.
2007-10-23 06:37:12 · answer #2 · answered by i00i 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gee..why you have to do that ..may be its better if you have slept with his best friend...thats forgiveable but to my enemy? man....i will shoot him because his laughing at my back. have you notice that everytime he trust into you he will said can he do that..is he better than this...is his penis biggir than mine...etc...its an insult to slept with his enemy...will thats from a 16 year old virgin state of mine..anyway im going to have sex soon with my GF
2007-10-23 06:34:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wouldn't hurt me at all, she just wouldn't be my woman any more. I don't care what the past may have been, cheating is the end of any relationship period.
2007-10-23 08:44:08 · answer #4 · answered by Steve is cool 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uuuhhh.... personally, i cant accept infidelity. it kills me everytime i see her(if my girl did that). its like u're stuck in between 3 dimensions of love hate and thrust.
that happened to me once though..
2007-10-23 06:01:02 · answer #5 · answered by scarlettcrew87 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋