I just went out on a date with this guy to the movies and this is his first impression:
PROS: good looking, good physique, funny, laid back, tall, friendly, talkative, likes to take things slowly
CONS: smokes, cusses a lot, he may secretly love my younger cousin, always commenting on how pretty this girl is, gets excited when he sees a half naked woman on screen (this was when we were watching the movie)
the last two cons, i hated because it made me feel like i had to measure up to these "perfect" girls, or that if we ever got to that point of being serious, i may have to put up with his eyes checking out every girl who was hotter than me and maybe even cheating behind my back
so what do you think? i just want your opinion if you think i should waste my time on this guy. i know you can't exactly judge from the first meeting because i don't know this guy entirely yet, but c'mon! if i was a guy goin' on a date, first impressions are important and you gotta make sure you do it right!
2007-10-22 23:29:47 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thanks for your answers! they are of good help (except for a particular someone who was reported because he was being an ars*hol [he was more on "his" side, and for all the players out there probably like himself]).
looks like you guys are more on the "do not" side, which is a good choice for me! and taking this step will definitely get me on the roll of rejecting all the bad ones. and yes i know that a lot of guys look at hotter girls, but not all, not the faithful ones in good relationships who respect their woman's feelings- i mean yeah they'd notice they were hot but they wouldn't be like thinking "ooh i would like to sleep with that chick" or something, u know??!!! they would just look away after that.
2007-10-22 23:50:48 · update #1
haha some of you guys said that i had insecurities about weight issues and that i should go to the gym! i can assure you that i am skinny, but i do admit that i have insecurities of not being prettier enough, after hearing all those comments about this girl and that.
2007-10-22 23:58:54 · update #2
hon i think you would be wasting your time... yes he's a totally charming guy but... his cons really do outweigh your pro's ... if hes as bad as i think from what you've written, i thnk you should find a guy who wont make you feel like you have to compete. if he doesnt want you for howbeuatiful you are, and is always looking at other girls.. i wouldn't think he'll stay faithful either...
2007-10-22 23:35:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, NO!!! He has maturity issues, and being in love with your cousin? Commenting about another girl's looks? The naked girl thing will com with maturity, any hormone crazy guy would like that. But I don't think it would turn out to be a healthy relationship. And if you think going out with him would be wasting your time, then you don't seem to into it either. Not a good idea, because you may get hurt. Hope everything works out for you!
2007-10-22 23:36:19 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the part of him liking ur cousin might not b true since he was on the date with u and didnt tell u that he wanted u to go and ask u to hook him up with her..
besides looking at the gurls on the screen that is something what every gurl does.. if u feel like u are not comfortable with how u look go gymmming or something but believe me that is normal with guys..
as for the smoking and the cussing this is what every second person does and if u dunt like it, then playfully try and take the cig from his mouth.. if he gets violent or something then u just leave it and tell him that u dunt like him smoking.. simple! if h stilll wants to puff then let him puff and u can leave him.
lastly noone is perfect in this world.. and that is why i havent found my guy yet.. but if u want to give him another chance then go ahead.. the odds are in ur favor.. :)
2007-10-22 23:37:36 · answer #3 · answered by Chiv D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you think he fancies your cousin then you shouldnt even bother with this guy as it could cause a problem with you and your cousin . but he could just be a friendly guy who likes a lot of people and you might take it the wrong way . also this thing about looking at other women , well most men do it just some havent got the guts to do it in front of you ,he sounds like what you see is what you get . and if thats the case then i wouldnt worry .
2007-10-22 23:38:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honest opinion??
Well sweetie, it sounds like you are a little insecure.
ALL men get excited at the sight of a half naked woman and it doesn't stop as they get older!!!!
Give yourself some real feel-good time. Pamper yourself, feel secure in yourself and believe me.........if this is the guy for you, he won't want any other girl, just you.
2007-10-22 23:36:25 · answer #5 · answered by jennijan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
every time i've ignored my first instincts, first impressions, i've ended up working on a really sucky relationship that i was glad when it ended. don't be afraid to move on, because you really should be comfortable with the person. of course, a second chance would probably not hurt anyone! just remember that you need to be comfortable secure and happy, and if you have so many doubts from the first date, it's not really looking that promising!
2007-10-22 23:35:15 · answer #6 · answered by Beth H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me he would be right out of the window as I hate smokers, but if you smoke too this wouldn't be an issue. Talking about someone else too would suggest his mind isn't really on you....has to be your choice in the end though.good luck x
2007-10-22 23:35:04 · answer #7 · answered by kaydee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PROS are lower than the CONS, therefore do not waste your time on him , he will only use and dump you , find someone who is not as hot as that guy, there is no amount of facial make ups that can make you satisfy the guy.
2007-10-22 23:41:22 · answer #8 · answered by osi kwa stat nig afr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All the indicators are heading towards trouble. It seems as if he wants somebody else and, heartbreak is on the horizon. You deserve better.
2007-10-22 23:33:45 · answer #9 · answered by Keith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't waste your time on him.
Time lost can never be regained.
A perfect guy will come in a perfect time.
PATIENCE is a virtue.
2007-10-22 23:33:51 · answer #10 · answered by Alex B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋