she asked me if i was gay. What was i supposed to say? I didnt want to lie to her but im not ready to tell them. So i just told her i have a boyfriend and my other friend started asking me who. I made up some name and showed a picture of a friend of mine they dont know. Thats all i said so i didnt lie about being gay. I just lied about the bf thing. Was i wrong to do this? pleas tell me you opinions.
2007-10-22 23:42:41 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no you wasnt wrong its up 2 you to decide when and if people should no, you have nothing to be ashamed of it is after all your life
2007-10-22 23:46:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a very difficult situation. Let me share what happened to two of my friends. Maybe this will help you to decide what to you.
My two friends became roommates. After about 6 months, the straight one left to go out of town. The gay friend, decided to have company. (She had never told our other friend about her sexuality) The straight friend decided to come home early, and caught the gay with having sex. The straight friend got angry, not because she was gay, but because after being friends for a long time and roommates for 6 months, she felt that they should have been close enough to each other that the gay friend would have confided in her.
Now, if you are young, that might not be a good option, because sometimes young people can be cruel. You need to feel out your situation and make that decision for yourself.
I hope that one day you will find the courage to openly be what you are, and that your announcement will be well accepted. I am straight, but I have many gay friends that live happily with their lifestyle, and a few have had bad times with their parents because of it. Thank goodness that alternate lifestyles are more accepted than they were years ago.
Good Luck with whatever decision you make. I hope that it will be the right one for you.
2007-10-22 23:58:49 · answer #2 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your not wrong to do this , if your not ready to tell people yet then that is fine. When you are I'm sure they will understand its not the easiest thing to tell people as you don't know what there reaction will be. It was rude of your friend to put you on the spot like that , no one likes to be singled out about anything in a group situation.
2007-10-22 23:46:33 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ MISS YELLOW DIAMOND★☺♀ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the right to protect yourself in the way that you see fit. Your friend is a little ***** for putting you on the spot like that. Don't feel bad for lying, everyone does it, sometimes its necessary. When you are ready, you will tell the truth, that's your personal business. You don't owe that to them.
2007-10-22 23:47:12 · answer #4 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Crystal
You did a perfectly fine thing.
It's completely up to you to tell the people you care about.
If today wasn't the right time, then it wasn't the right time. Simple.
Good on you. Don't feel bad.
You have nothing to feel bad about!
Maybe give up the "bf" though...that could just get messy...
Good luck :)
2007-10-22 23:47:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay , sweetie , you're confusin' me , u say u're nt gay , but den say u're nt ready to tll ha , which 1 iz it ? But chu knw tha only way cn eva nw iz if u're rlly gay , iz if u're tru 2 urself , n once u do dat , u cn admit ur feelin' 2 sum1 else , n tha only way ur friendz r gnna knw iz if u tll , but if u dnt say anythin' dey wnt , but only u cn decide wen tha tymez rite , n if dez r ur tru friendz , who u wud actually b cmftble tellin' sumthin' about ur sexual prefencez w/ !
2007-10-22 23:54:23 · answer #6 · answered by Nay-Nay B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did good, but you could have said you were single at he time. Lies sometimes are exposed as such, and that would put you in the wrong spot.
2007-10-22 23:51:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her if shes a trusty friend go ahead there are alot of people that r
2007-10-22 23:47:21 · answer #8 · answered by P H A T ? [ ♥ ] ○●○●○● 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no not at all . if you are you will tell them when the time is right
2007-10-22 23:46:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is pretty dumb.. if you're not gay, then just say no. You don't have to make up for being single.
2007-10-22 23:46:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋