Im a married woman 47yrs an have found this guy on computor we have become pretty close an my marriage isnt the best.. I know Im just a dreamer but I would love to share my love with him.. is it ok too just be with him in my dreams an the comp?
2007-10-22 21:41:48 · 14 answers · asked by Sweet_mystery 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
as long as it is just fantasy it cant hurt but i say u should leave ur husband if he doesnt make u happy
2007-10-22 21:50:08 · answer #1 · answered by Kimberly S 3 · 1⤊ 4⤋
Love the guy who said, "Typical woman response to say if he isn't making you happy, just leave." Why would you stay if you are not happy? Would a man stay if he wasn't happy? DUH! We don't know why your marriage "isn't the best." It could be something minor like he leaves his underwear on the floor up to he's beating you. Find help immediately if it is the second thing, but think carefully if it is like the first. Only you can know why you even said that. If it's minor, maybe you can work it out. However, you went to the next step by meeting someone else, so I would guess you do not think it is minor. Whatever the case, if you are that close on the computer, this guy is going to want to meet you. He WILL want to take it to the physical level at some point. Are you prepared for that? I think the kindest thing overall is to tell your husband and prepare for him either wanting a divorce or wanting to work it out. If you don't even want to attempt the second, move out now.
2007-10-23 05:58:27 · answer #2 · answered by PixdeeArtist 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
im confused with your question.. im sure you know that what u r doing is cheating... so r u asking if cheating is ok? anything you do that you feel like you have to hide from your husband is obviously not ok.. and to the person who said as long as it is just a fantasy then it is ok... is completely wrong! this is not just some fantasy that you have.. this is real person who makes you more emotionally happy then your own husband.. your husband should be your dream guy.. if hes not, its obviously because he's changed somehow or else you wouldnt have married him, right? so that means things can be fixed.. just talk to him about whats not working for you.. start your sentences with "i feel"... never with things like "you dont " or "you make me feel".... then he will get very defensive and things will be worse.. i suggest going to counseling.. things can always be fixed if you both work at it.. maintaining a happy marriage sometimes is not the easiest thing to do.
2007-10-23 09:46:02 · answer #3 · answered by Tiff Tiff 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe it's better to deal with the problems of your marriage than to waste your energy on this guy. Your marriage needs work, and having "dream guys" doesn't help. Sorry.
2007-10-23 04:51:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your thinking of "sharing you love" with another guy, I'm means your not putting any love into your man and marrige. No wonder it's not working. Wake up!
Or you could just go with the typical woman response, if he's not making you happy leave. Womens answer to everything.
2007-10-23 04:57:24 · answer #5 · answered by shadycaliber 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It's one thing to fantasize. It's another to meet a guy online and act it out. Nope, that's cheating without having to use a condom.
Whatever's missing from your relationship is best presented to the man who won your heart before the hanky panky on the keyboard. He should be given first chance to replace the badabing in your fantasies.
2007-10-23 04:50:10 · answer #6 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You know the answer to your own question. You're asking on this forum in hopes that a lot of people will say it's OK, then you won't feel guilty about doing it.
2007-10-23 05:19:07 · answer #7 · answered by busseysmom 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
whether you physically cheat or just emotionally you are still having an affair, to get so close to another man while you are married is wrong. you should sort things with your husband, not look for love elsewhere.
2007-10-23 04:46:38 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think you are playing with fire. Eventually things will move to destroy your marriage. You should be fixing what is not working between you and your husband.
2007-10-23 04:46:54 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Either your marriage is good enough to fix, or so bad you should probably leave - either way, what you're doing is not a good idea.
2007-10-23 07:13:53 · answer #10 · answered by Mich 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why are you asking us? Go ask your husband what he thinks.
Better still, imagine what you would say if your husband asked you if it's ok for him to have a 'dream woman.'
2007-10-23 04:46:39 · answer #11 · answered by Becci 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋