Supposedly the Bible commands it. Is the whole 50/50 partnership bad for marriages? Did it cause our divorce rate?
2007-10-22 21:47:34 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-10-22 21:52:50 · update #1
LMFAO.... no wait... LMFAO.... stop it.. LMFAO.... oh wow that was a good giggle... obey the husband... LMFAO... i can't stop... ok now seriously...first off the whole obey the husband thing came in the bible in genesis.. which is in the old test. and if we followed everything in the old test. we'd still be chippin hands off and killing lambs... and for you to say that the whole 50/50 partnership for marriage is a bad thing is just stupid.. how can something where both ppl get what they want and ppl come to a compromise for eachother be a bad thing.. and by this i'm most certainly sure it have nothing to do with the growing divorce rate.. you know what has to do with the growing divorce rate.. the fact that ppl would rather give up and split it down the middle then try and work things out.. ppl get married too fast and no one holds the bonds of marriage sacred anymore... when britney spears can get married in vegas by elvis or whoever and get it annulled the next day it's not sacred.. when you can drive thru at a window and get married it's not sacred... there's nothing sacred any more in this day and age.. and that's why marriage is takin a beating..... and oh yeah... LMFAO to the obey the husband thing.... that was funny...
2007-10-22 21:56:43 · answer #1 · answered by the critic!! 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I don't believe the lack of obeying going is is why so many people divorce. Its because they marry the wrong person in the first place, then when it gets hard and they suddenly don't know who they are married to (because they were seeing what they wnated them to be, not what they were) anymore, they give up and bail out.
If some people were less selfish and more accepting, and loved their partner for who they are not what they could make them be, then divorce would become less frequent. But when you neglect you spouse and don't really know who they are, what is there really to fight for?
And I don't believe women should obey their husbands. I don't believe husbands should obey their wives either. A couple should want to stay within the bounds which their partner finds acceptable simply because they love them. If it has to a command then your relationship isn't working.
2007-10-22 21:57:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
A marriage is supposed to be a 50/50 relationship!! There are times that it's 70/30, or 80/20 but it all evens out....we all have our "issues" but that is why you have each other.
I actually had them take the "obey" part out of my wedding vows. Marriage is a partnership that you both have to want & work at.
2007-10-23 04:47:25 · answer #3 · answered by sugarbear0772 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The word "obey" was used in the bible because back in those days women were property and it was not a real marriage. Men could cast aside their wives for almost no reason, so yes it was in the woman's best intrest to "obey" her husband.
Now a days, women are not property and so does not have to "obey". Men that beat women and try to bully them will do that no matter what. The woman could be "obeying" but he will still find something wrong and hit her.
2007-10-23 01:39:19 · answer #4 · answered by Spring 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A woman suppose to obey as long as the husband doesn't go in to a power Tripp over this and go to far, Obey to me means that I would take my husbands word as wise and trust him that he is right so I obey what ever he may suggest because he is the head of household but if I know he is not right when it comes to something then I follow my heart and do what I think is best as I am still an individual with my own brain.
2007-10-22 23:40:00 · answer #5 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I personally believe neither partner should "obey" the other.You have to remember the bible was written a LONG time ago,and true some of the morals it teaches apply very much today,some of them really are out dated. I think our divorce rate has been caused by people getting married to quickly,with to little thought before hand,or worse for the wrong reasons.Perhaps my view is disagreeable to some,but it has kept my marriage together for nearly five years now.I hope this answer helps.
2007-10-22 21:54:03 · answer #6 · answered by Tiff R 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
When you get married the two of you have to pull the cart together, always considering what is best of the two of you. If he prohibits you to go out, have friends or even wear certain cloths, that's slavery. Men and women have the very same rights, and no one should feel like we own a person. I have to say in this case, the bible seems to be a little obsolete.
2007-10-22 22:00:20 · answer #7 · answered by Yabran Tariga 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Neither partner should have to obey their other partner full stop. You should enter the relationship as an equal and treat each other as such, with helping and assisting each other where ever possible.
Why has it changed ?, because men abused their situation big time and abused the women to a degrading level, therefore making women take a stand with not putting up with such dispicable behaviour. So they only have themselves to blame.
2007-10-22 23:03:01 · answer #8 · answered by Live_For_Today 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The term "obey" is relative. I beleive that when you marry a person you make certain promises in your vows. I beleive it is each individual's responcibility to look after their partners emotional and physical needs as well as stand by his or her vows. I do not beleive that it is the wife's sole responcibility to do as her husband orders. Nor to I beleive that the wife gets the privelage to order around her husband. In a marriage decisions should be made jointly with equal respect for both parties.
2007-10-22 23:07:45 · answer #9 · answered by ApRiL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mrs. President is negotiating a peace treaty with Iraq. Her husband yells for a lager. that's greater significant, the peace treaty or the beer? Your question has no foundation in fact. The husband of Mrs. President is merely that, the husband without capacity as president.
2016-11-09 06:34:30 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋