not ready. As he keeps on having excuses about me having to move out. He uses his mother as a scape goat. Saying she doesnt approve our affair but claims he loves me. 2 weeks ago i moved back to my parents home and decided to breakup with him. As he is not man enough to make his own decision. Was i too harsh? I dont wanna be with him anymore cause i believe he is lying to me. If he loved me he should have fought for our relationship. His mother cant decide for him. I told him to stop calling me as i need to move on with my life. AM I WRONG?
2007-10-22 22:14:05 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I don't think you're wrong at all. This guy sounds as though he is lying---though his mom may be giving him some grief over his living 'in sin'. He may just be too immature for a live-in situation; not emotionally ready.
Whatever the case, he is wrong for leading you on, and putting you through this. It is up to him to make the decision...and it doesn't seem he's capable of doing that.
I give you a lot of credit for breaking up with him...many girls would try to wait it out--and that can turn out to be waiting for nothing.
2007-10-22 22:21:10 · answer #1 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you're wrong.
You deserve someone better. Obviously, you're ready to take the next step and he's not. If he doesn't even want to give you a good reason, and tells lies to you, then you're better off without him.
I think what you did was very right. If he really loves you, he would come back for you and fight for you. And if he's using his mother as an excuse, imagine what the rest of your life with him will be.
What if he uses YOU as an excuse in the future and make his family view you as a bad person?
You go girl!
2007-10-23 05:20:12 · answer #2 · answered by DloaderGirl 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No your not wrong. If you made this decision because you were'nt happy with the way things were, and it's improved your circumstances then you made the right choice. Perhaps if your not sure a big long talk with mentioned boy would do you both good. But as long as your happy then don't worry!
2007-10-23 05:35:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right dear friend. By the way did the two of you made it already? (sorry for the question.) But you see some Guys tend to leave thier girl after they had brought them to bed. (you know?) All I can say to you is, better find someone else if he is that type of guy. There still a lot of responsible men out there. GOD bless you!
2007-10-23 05:53:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Dudette,
You are absolutely righ tin your decison and a guy who cannot make his own decision is not a real man.
If you ask me i think the guy has used his mom's name just as an excuse to not get married with you .
And i totally agree with you the if he loves you he should have fought for you.
He totally doesent deserve you and its time you move on with your life.
Remeber there is really some one special waiting for you...
Cheers and Chillax
2007-10-23 05:21:33 · answer #5 · answered by Prince 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you know,maybe he wasn't ling?there are people out there in the world who still have-morals and don't believe-living together before marriage is right?his mother could be old fashion and has deemed this unacceptable for her son and maybe future daughter in-law?plus moving in with him,makes it easy for him to put off wedding, i mean why buy the cow, when-your getting it for free?i really think you are both to young for moving in or wedding plans as yet, maybe a little more grow up time will bring things to a head?and as believe, if it was meant to be, he'll be back, even stronger next time,so-yes,move on-checkout life before your tied down with husband and kids.just don't be so-hard on-him,my dear-most son's value their mothers opinion, and its important that their mothers accept their choices.some day you will understand!!!!!!!!good luck and god bless
2007-10-23 05:31:03 · answer #6 · answered by debbie d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I dont think you are wrong - he prob does love you but is not ready for the commitment. If you truly love him wait and see for a short while what he does or as you say move on - you dont say how long you have been together
2007-10-23 05:19:23 · answer #7 · answered by Barbie V 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nope. You are never wrong if you're doing what you feel is right. If he wants to listen to his MOM (or pretend that's his reason), then that could cause bigger problems in the future. You are probably better off with a more independent guy that doesn't let him mom run his life.
2007-10-23 05:18:56 · answer #8 · answered by Love to Answer 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, u r not wrong u r on the right way. Be happy that u got rid of him and u hv taken a correct decision which will help u in future.
2007-10-23 05:18:36 · answer #9 · answered by nishanth 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you did right. You stood up for yourself that is very good. The guy is a coward I think you did the best thing you could have. Which was to leave him. You would have made a huge mistake if you had stayed with him. I'm like you I believe if he loved you he would have stood up to his family.
2007-10-23 05:21:07 · answer #10 · answered by Red Rose 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋