Family & Relationships - 21 October 2007

Well I'm 13. Okay well I went to the movies with my friend today and when I came to her house she said 2 guys were coming with us but I knew them I mean seen them like once or twice. One of them were her boyfriend and one was my other friends ex. Well my other friends ex liked me and thought I was hot. I'm a goody good and I know i shouldnt have went and go out with him since im sorta only 13 it was so uncomfertable. We sat in the "love seats" and he played footsies with me and i barley knew him. and then they wanted to sneak in to a rated R movie. I was just like what am i doing here! this is not me. so i called my dad to pick me up. well im not really allowed to be with guys. Did i do the right thing and leave? i feel so weird so much is coming at me!
8 hours ago - 3 days left to answer.
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8 hours ago

I told my sister and she said i did the right thing. I just felt something in me saying Bianca dont. and i was all tingly that whole time there =/

2007-10-21 23:53:22 · 8 answers · asked by Ben N 1 in Friends

I know that usually a bride is supposed to be accompanied by her father when she goes to the altar. However my dad died when I was little, and my grandfather died 2 yrs ago and I really don't have any other male relative to take me to the altar. Is it appropriate if I go by myself?

2007-10-21 23:48:21 · 32 answers · asked by steena 1 in Weddings

I love my boyfriend very much. Since the start of our relationship, we have read self-help books trying to work out our issues that have developed in the past so we don't bring extra baggage into our new relationship.

We have agreed to talk openly about our emotions so to keep his anxiety at a low. This is where the problem resides.

When I talk about my negative feelings, he takes on my emotions and gets depressed. I feel unsupported and he tells me that he doesn't know what to do. When he talks about his negative feelings, I try to consciously become an objective, active listener (he requested this) but yet, despite my efforts, he complains that I don't listen, even when I offer my suggestions and invite him to open up more. This leads him to become sad and me to feel guilty.

What is going on here?

2007-10-21 23:48:15 · 9 answers · asked by Kyoko 2 in Singles & Dating

LET YOU KNOW I DONT LIKE TO LAUGH ON A DATE AND i dont need to take PROZAC i am not depressed okay i am just numb to laughing and crying and any real feeling the last time i laughed was june 11, 4 years ago thats the night my mom died the last person i laughed with was my mother and thats how its going to stay and this my get me kicked of here but you know i DONT CARE

2007-10-21 23:45:25 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am good friends with this boy we like each other but we carnt be toghter because of the distance..... BUT!!! I WANNA BE REALLY CLOSE!!! to him like i wanna be a REAL good friend and share thigs with him i dont want to lose his friendship? when i talk to him i wnat good things to talk to him about ,,,, but i dunoo what to talk to him about???? please help xx

2007-10-21 23:43:39 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

like all those empty promises and lies

2007-10-21 23:41:26 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Can you please help me, there is this people who is also staying on my bf's dads farm, we are renting and they are just living there cause the guy is working for my bf's dad on the farm. This guy's girlfriend is starting a new job today, but they always come and lend food or rice or sweets of something, and my bf says nothing he just gives it to them, i also doesn't get a big salary and im 19 but working for a year now. The guy and his girlfriend is 38 and 47, but they keep on lending things from us, and im getting tired. What must i do? I feel like the welfare or something? If i were the welfare i would help little children not adults that can look after themselves. Help please... Thank you

2007-10-21 23:31:37 · 7 answers · asked by POP 1 in Family

2007-10-21 23:30:20 · 24 answers · asked by candycane 2 in Singles & Dating

Does anyone know signs that my friend's boyfriend has an abusive-type personality? He hasn't hit her but im afraid he will.

2007-10-21 23:26:11 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

this guy claims he didnt see me because i didnt call, but he never called me. is this a polite excuse to break it off?
he also said that i was not around to make time for him so he left, by getting out of town.

2007-10-21 23:20:04 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

my molther in law hates me, causes me lots of trouble while drunk and accuses me of stealing her family. My sister in law lives with her and cant stand her either, so my hubby asked her to move in with us. she is going ot, but none of us know how to tell there mum. Any ideas? my husband and sister in law are both worried for me

2007-10-21 23:17:07 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

He asked me the other day if he should check me at my house, my response was: What were you planning to do??

He got pissed and said i did not answer him properly, why didnt i just say Yes or No, he has cheated on me before and we worked it out.

Now i'm wondering if he's going back to seeing the woman again cause he called again to say he's not coming anymore because i did not talk or respond to him properly.

My question is Did he really want to see me or he had other plans and was just trying to come up with an excuse of not wanting to see me coz i pissed him off??

We just turned a year together and really he's not improving on some of the things we had talked about.

2007-10-21 23:14:41 · 11 answers · asked by Phenomenal woman 2 in Singles & Dating

So............why the hell, why I know this 'relationship' is not going anywhere, makes me feel unworthy of love, makes my feel unloveable......why can't I tell the guy its over. I know what I am doing (again)....waiting for him to wake up and realise that I AM a good person. He said I am so easy to get on with, feels like he has known me for years, never met anyone he feels so relaxed with.....blah de blah. I am too soft aren't I? Give me a good talking to you guys, if it was MY advice I would say dump him, shame I have feelings involved

2007-10-21 23:07:33 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

am married for more than 10 years, now when I'am sleeping with my wife I did not enjoy much. on the same time other girls are more attractive even if other girls is not beautiful.
I found this result with other couples in my community .
please advise how I can re-enjoy with my wife

2007-10-21 23:04:08 · 10 answers · asked by Sadiq Siddiq 1 in Marriage & Divorce

So I met this girl like 2 months ago and since then we have hung out a lot (we go to different schools and live like an hour away)...I fell for her really fast and it is something that hasn't happened to me before....but like when we were watching a scary movie at the jumpy parts she would sorta burrow into me, and a little bit ago we went to a haunted house and it seemed to go ok but afterwards I was texting her friend about the next night (me and the girl I like were supposed to hang out) and she told me that she really didn't want to go (it was to someones house to watch a movie) and I couldn't contact her to find out, and when I replied with a sad face (lol) she asked if I really liked her...well I told her I do and she replied that she likes this guy from her school and she knows he likes her back and so when I told her, I would wait to see what happens with that, she just kept saying not to wait and its ok if I find someone to go with them....she got me so damn confused and now I

2007-10-21 22:55:53 · 3 answers · asked by Adda Badda Slavia 1 in Singles & Dating

i saw a girl and she also saw me at first sight .my intution said we were in love.But when i proposed her, she said its impossible and now got married to some other person.Its just so confusing .I saw her eyes which was full of love and thats what my intution said to me.But she says no.how can intution be wrong?if she dont love me why she has to give me such kiling looks ?or feel shy when she faced me .after this i admit i have lost to find what is real truth in any matter.Bcz what i saw went false, what i felt also false and what my intution said also turned to be false.I regard intution is a voice from god.why this punishment for me .

2007-10-21 22:50:34 · 4 answers · asked by funny b 1 in Singles & Dating

This guy I met last new years in LA came to my city and planned to see me and his sister. For three days we dated, kissed, held hands and I took him around the sights. He kept asking me "what are you thinking" and i gave no answer. I was scared of being hurt by the distance and left him on the third day with a cold wave at the train station. The next day my understanding was that he needed family time and we would meet again before he left (the 5th day) and i didn't contact him until the following evening when i found out he had changed his flight to leave very early rather than that evening. Never heard back. What did i do wrong?

2007-10-21 22:45:45 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

So, I've seen him again, after a long time. But it was really good at the beginnig. We had such a nice chat starting to get to the points slowly, because there are several difficult points about us. But then one common friend of ours arrived and it was over. She interrupted us immediately and then sticked to us for the rest of the evening. Well, the chance has been given once more soon. But there were friends there around us all the time too and it feels too embarrasing to show your deep feelings in front of common friends. I let myself go only once, at the end, quite impulsively, out of desperation that we are going to end up nowhere again. I made a nice show to those friends, I suppose, but I don't regret because I will never forget this moment. Still, how to manage such interrupting friends? I thought that it is clear to some of them that there is something going on between us two. Shouldn't they be more delicate and leave us alone or am I expecting too much?

2007-10-21 22:43:36 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

Do you ask for them while your in the water or do you ask for them face to face--more or less? What would it "take" to retrieve your possessions.

2007-10-21 22:42:13 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

I met this guy he is a Nigerian footballer name Fly works in Cambodia and we hv bin dating for sometime now. Last nite, I saw a text message on his phone, one of his friends told him that he had hurt a lady feelings, name Lyna. Lyna is asking why does Fly hv to play with her feelings and if Fly love her, y does he hv to leave her and marry someone else. Then I check on his digi cam,I saw a picture of him with one lady in a hotel room in Manila, whereby he is topless, the lady fully dress hug and taking photos.

Now I am wondering if this man that I hv been dating is being sincere to me or is he getting married somewhere else. I spent time with him over the weekend. I asked him....."are you playing with my feelings?".Fly reply "NO" and at the airport, i ask him, are you dating other ladies beside me. Fly reply "WHERE?" I answer "Anywhere". Fly said " No baby I am not. U R D only one and I am not those type of man" . He is gentle and never treat me bad but CAN I TRUST THIS MAN???

2007-10-21 22:33:32 · 12 answers · asked by abonoyah 3 in Singles & Dating

2007-10-21 22:22:51 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

can girls explain this

2007-10-21 22:18:31 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

hey i finally gave into a man last year around june after him chasing me for over a year. i then got pregnant very fast by end of july and he appeared happy and ready for the baby. he then promised me we would live together when baby was almost born but when i was 7 months pregnant he asked me to move out of my mothers hse to my hse and he would help pay rent. when baby was born he used to visit almost every day and even sleep but now baby is 6 months he rarely comes atmost once a wk and is not talking anything about our relationship. i have a feeling he is with someone else and am really stressed coz i would want to be in a marriage and have a happy family. should i move back home with my son and just forget about him and hope to meet someone else or do i perservere with this arrangement though inside am unhappy. he never ever mentions marriage anymore and i read an email of his to a friend saying he has never met a woman he can marry. please advice thanks

2007-10-21 22:18:20 · 11 answers · asked by Louisa W 3 in Singles & Dating

It is a name. If you are muslim, you can give the right answer.

2007-10-21 22:16:02 · 10 answers · asked by johab 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-10-21 22:08:12 · 4 answers · asked by arif_atlas 1 in Family

his daughter. His ex is very demanding of him. She will call anytime any day when she wants his help.My B.f. is very accomodating to her because he feels guilty of not being their for his daughter 24/7. But what bothers me is that I always come second to their needs. I love his daughter and want to be more a part of her life. We are not married yet but plan to. He has committed to me fully. My issue is that lately she is more needy and makes sure that we (my bf and i) don't spend much quality time . Lately i feel like my feelings don't count. He says I just think of my needs and no one else'. I feel really bad and recently I have been angry because of his decisions. I have been understanding for 2 years I cant even make plans bcus she has her own agenda. He insists that in order to have more visitation with his child in the future he has to follow her rules. Am i wrong for feeling like I get the left overs all the time. I have spoken to him about this before. What do you think?

2007-10-21 22:05:51 · 6 answers · asked by Mindin my own biznes 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

i'm chosing to make the ceremony in the mosque and willnot make a reception, but will take close family members and friends for dinner after ceremony.
so i need favors to be given in the ceremony that would be cute and not expensive.
any ideas?

2007-10-21 22:05:42 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

Can anyone please tell me why a woman will never chat up a man and its always got to be the male that chases?

I was out with a female uni friend last night and the amount of male attention she got (even when i was with her) guys would look her up and down and wink and chat her up. there was one who touched her waist. why does the female never do that to male.

Thanks
Peter.

2007-10-21 22:04:05 · 5 answers · asked by Peter 1 in Singles & Dating

I don't know what to think of it. My husband and I have been married for 11 years. The first half of the marriage he wanted me intimately all the time. the second half he hardly ever wants me intimately. We hardly ever see each other as we work opposite shifts. He works with lots of women at his job which I have felt kind of insecure about that. We both have been off work together for the last 5 days, and not once has he wanted or tried to be intimate with me. I even tried to initiate it and he pushed me away and would not get an erection. Every time we do have time together which is rare,he never wants to touch me. What do you think is going on?

2007-10-21 21:58:57 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I find it funny, its a total opposite of their behaviour in public life, i mean, its like they are totally in control but when they get to that part, it seems like they liked to be controlled, is there some physcology thing going on in their heads or something ?

2007-10-21 21:51:19 · 6 answers · asked by Hindu-Atheist-Rebel 1 in Singles & Dating