Family & Relationships - 21 October 2007

I heard there is an etiquette that says it should be at the woman's family, but modern views say it should be discussed as needs arrive. What is the traditional etiquette in this case and likewise, where do newlyweds spend holidays?

2007-10-21 19:31:51 · 10 answers · asked by adenosinetrip3 2 in Weddings

I have never been close with my father but he is a great guy. He has lived in a different state for as long as i can remember and i've never realy needed him or felt obligated to build and maintain a relationship with him. I'm 26 and i have so much going on in my own life that when i get home at night he is the last thing from my mind. About avery six months or so he calls me and has a way of making me feel guilty for not making an effort to keep in touch. When ever i'm with him i have a blast. I see so much of my self in him but i just dont have the desire to have him as a part of my life. Am i a dick or am i just trying working on my carrier and build a family and have fun with friends? How do you tell someone with so much guilt for never being there that you have never needed them?

2007-10-21 19:30:24 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I'm looking for pretty much any nice place to get married that isn't going to break us financially. Anyone got any ideas??

2007-10-21 19:21:11 · 4 answers · asked by frienatic2173 1 in Weddings

I'm 19 years old, I'm going to college full-time and working part-time. I've never done drugs, I've never drank, I'm not promiscuous. I don't talk back. I make very little money, but all of it goes to them for my car. But my parents still manage to rip me apart with little mistakes I make... for example, I received a parking ticket, and was late because I didn't have the money at the time. They went off in a tangent about how I'm irresponsible I am and how my priorities are out of whack. It extended into me being lazy, which is ridiculous, seeing as how I'm rarely home.
I just don't understand what they want from me... I'm a good kid, with good morals. I'm not perfect by any means, but I would like some encouragement, some praise, some acknowledgment for what I have/can accomplish. What could I possibly do to get them to stop with the "lectures" and to get them to stop making me feel like a dissapointment?

2007-10-21 19:17:44 · 11 answers · asked by Courtney B 4 in Family

She slept with an old boyfriend 3 times in a month and a half period. Maybe it would have gone on if I hadn't found out. How do I know it hasn't happend before? We have 3 kids and own our own home and I am finding it hard to just walk away from it all. She shows a lot of remorse for what happend and says she hates herself for tearing our family apart. Will she cheat again? HELP!

2007-10-21 19:14:43 · 36 answers · asked by Pathfinder 2 in Marriage & Divorce

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2007-10-21 19:14:25 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

When I was I young fell in love, we were together for 2 years then he left for the military and I stayed behind. I never stopped loving him and have thought about him every day for 14 yrs. In the mean time I met a wonderful man and we are now married. I found out that the man who I let go has moved back. I thought I could seperate myself from these feelings so I went to see him, I felt like I had to. I couldn't think straight. When I saw him and looked into his eyes my heart ached and felt the connection that obviously had never gone away. Now I am torn between my vows, my husband , who hasn't done anything wrong except not be this man, and my 1st love. I don't condone infedelity but now I am living it. I haven't physically cheated, but emotionally I have. When I am with him the world goes away and when I return to my life I am sick,guilty& sad. Do I stay in my marriage & think about this man until the day I die or do I break my husbands heart and miss him. I love them both. Help!

2007-10-21 19:08:16 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I like to go to the movies with a friend of mine every two weeks or so. My mom mentioned that it might not be appropriate for me to hang out with Jeff when I get married. She said "If you marry Margaret, will you still be going to the movies with Jeff?", and gave me that 'No' look. I thought that this was crazy, because married people have always had friends of the same gender. It's not like Jeff and I go out drinking, or to stripper clubs or anything. Now if my friend was female, then I'd understand. Seriously, would most spouses have a problem with their husband or wife going to the movies with an old friend every other weekend? Heck, even my mom goes out to eat with friends from work, and my dad has his golf league.

I asked her about it again, and she brushed it off (as if she changed her mind). I sure wouldn't want to get married if I can't even go to the movies with my best friend once every couple weeks or so.

2007-10-21 19:05:00 · 9 answers · asked by Michael F 3 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-21 19:02:31 · 23 answers · asked by tony s 5 in Singles & Dating

what site on the computer can a person post on married women who cheat on there spouces for free and all can see it for free on the computer thank you a lot/

2007-10-21 18:53:31 · 10 answers · asked by matthew v 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I am 25 and I never had sex. I just went to a couple of dates when I was younger, but nothing happened.

I am decently looking, with a nice job and education, but I am poor. I cant affort to buy nice clothes or to spend too much time being high manitenece.

I am afraid that I am going to be single forever, or that guys will be freaked when I tell then I have that little experience.

What should I do?

I reposted this question, sorry . Just that I have some friends that have been rejected for not having sex before.

2007-10-21 18:53:04 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

hey yeah so my counselor said i might be a helpless romantic...soo anyone know like the exact definition of a helpless romantic cuz i cant find it anywhere...

2007-10-21 18:52:03 · 12 answers · asked by johnyboy 2 in Singles & Dating

My bf and I have been together almost 10 yrs. We both cheated on each other in the beginning of our relationship. He was ready for marriage at first but I wasn't. That's why I cheated and he cheated on me after giving up on me. But we stayed together. He found out about me after 2 yrs & he forgave me. I found out about him after 4 yrs! He should've told me the truth before I moved 3,000 miles away from my family. So here we are still together. Sometimes he brings up my past but when I bring up what he did, he says he did it because of me. We used to fight alot, but now we are just getting along. I always seem to be the one to say I love him first and then he responds. It seems the tables have been turned. When I want to talk to him about the future he'll say he wants to talk about it later. I know he loves me but I'm getting to the point where I don't want to celebrate our 10yr anniv. I want to get married & have children. We've been through thick & thin. What should I do?

2007-10-21 18:49:45 · 8 answers · asked by lvnj16 1 in Marriage & Divorce

hi

I am 5"8 and the girl is 4"11 . You think i should marry someone taller ....

2007-10-21 18:49:27 · 21 answers · asked by talk to me 1 in Singles & Dating

my wife wants new car, wants to raom around and travel, wants to eat always outside, watch movies in theathres, wants to always shop. she keeps nagging me for nothing, she is abusive. i have a 9 yrold daughter from her. she is not taking any responsibilty of daughter and keep pampering her too. i get my child ready for school and keep slogging for all my child's requirements. my wife is not interested in any household stuff. if i tell her she turns voilent. i have asked her to leave but she says, she will not leave, she tells me that she will acusse me of emotional abuse and call the police. she is uncorrigible and is not willing to mend her ways. child is also suffering in this tussle. i m under psychatric care and dumped with tranqiullisers. how to tackle this kind of deadly dangerous and criominal woman as my child loves both of us. i m very much confused. pl help

2007-10-21 18:44:49 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

we arent dating.. [yet] but what does he mean if he kisses me in front of all his friends? is he showing his friends im his? is he being possesive? or is it just because?

2007-10-21 18:40:26 · 6 answers · asked by cutie 2 in Singles & Dating

I hate the fact that my husband is joining several websites and gaining several female friends that are showing their bodies. He even comments on his page he is married but loves looking at other womens physiques....what do you think? Should I be on the verge of packing my bags and leaving???

2007-10-21 18:36:59 · 39 answers · asked by Jayse'sMommy 2 in Marriage & Divorce

she still lives at home, yes. I don't plan to grill her when she gets home.

2007-10-21 18:35:33 · 33 answers · asked by PediC 5 in Family

'm a college student and dated a girl for 2 1/2 years, who is from my hometown but also attended the same college as me about 2 hours away from home. I went home for the summer to spend time with my family because I don't really see them 9 months out of the year. My family is together and eating dinner together is important to us. My ex however lives only with her mom and brother. Her brother was gone, and her mom left on a business trip for 1 1/2 months. My ex was alone and demanded me to be with her 24/7. I wanted to spend time with my family, so I tried to balance both. I saw my ex every day, slept over 2-3 times a week, but also spent time with my family. My ex said she felt unloved and abandoned and that she was 2nd place, which was never true. just before we went back to school she broke up with me, saying the summer had caused her to love me less because I "wasn't there for her" enough. I am in love with her still, and this sucks. what could i have done differently?

2007-10-21 18:34:57 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

My best friend has feelings for me. I think I have started to get feelings for him too.
I think about telling him. But then I'd have no excuse for not being with him.
We live together most of the time; we sleep in the same bed. I have never felt this way about anyone. I could spend the rest of my life with him.
I have struggled with anorexia, and it’s ALL thanks to him that I am now a healthy weight so it's not that I'm ashamed of my body. It’s definitely not that HE’s unattractive.
I think my problem could be related to anorexia. I look at food and sex in the same way like indulging in them is weak. I know it’s irrational but I can’t get past it. I have had sex before the ED
If I tell him about this I know he’ll want to be with me anyway but he won’t be HAPPY.
Do you think this will go away as I continue to recover from anorexia, or do you think I need to do something about it? Should I tell him and trust him to do the best thing for him? I’m just trying to do right for us

2007-10-21 18:32:21 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

My girlfriend didn’t show up to school, so I presumed she was sick because she went to a pool party with her friends on the weekend. So I called her house to see if she was alright and her mum said she hasn’t come out of her room since she got back from the pool party. So I went over, and they told me that she doesn’t want anyone to come in her room. So I went around and climbed up to her window and got inside and she was crying. And I convinced her to tell me what was wrong and she told me that she got raped at the pool party. She doesn’t want me to tell anyone, but it’s eating me up inside. I’ve offered to take her to counseling but she doesn’t want to because she finds it embarrassing to talk about. What do I do? I am the only one she has told. I come to her house every day after school and climb to her window to check on her.

2007-10-21 18:28:56 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Okay im 20 years old and living with my grandparents. My girlfriend is down the street and is 23. Hey family is very loving and loves me to death. My family hates her and is very controling. She is moving to another city to be with her family. I want to be with her and she wants me to be with her too. But if i leave it will involve me loosing all my stuff and my family disowning me. But i will be happy. I love her though and her family will help me find a job and let me us a car. But is it worth being disowned?

HELP!
Dan

2007-10-21 18:26:22 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-10-21 18:21:15 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

2007-10-21 18:20:43 · 16 answers · asked by Southern Belle 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I am 30 yrs old, have been married for 8 yrs and have 2 children. I love my wife so much, I started my marriage off the wrong way. I worked 12 to 14 hrs a day and when I would get home I would complain all the time because the house was always a mess. I went into my marriage thinking that the man worked and the woman stayed home and took care of the child. About 5 yrs ago I changed the way I thought, and I started cleaning, doing laundry, all house chores plus outside chores after I would get home from work. I wasn't complaining anymore, but she still held it against me for complaining 4 that 3 yrs. Our sex life has always been great, but I think our love went down hill. I cheated on her about 6 mo ago, 1 night stand(I was drunk) she found out and then cheated on me last week. She is so mad for cheating and keeping it from her for 6 mo. until I she found out. Now she said that she would like some time apart. I love her so much,and cannot bear the thought of losing her, please help!

2007-10-21 18:18:55 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I just turned 18 2day, my dad droped my sister at work. I started cryin. Then an hour later he came back and said happy b'day. The only reason why he remembed was cause my mum tried to call me. Does he care bout me?

2007-10-21 18:11:39 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My father wanted a boy but he had me instead. My entire life he's told everyone that me and my mom were worthless parasites that he had to support, and he'd tell me to learn how to cook because that's all I'd ever do when I grew up. One year when I was 12 or so he gave the paperboy 20 dollars for christmas, but didnt get me anything. We had a family friend move in with us for a few years and she had a son a year older than me. My father spent time with him constantly but ignored me. I wasnt born a male, thats not my fault. I'm 24 now, almost 25, and I still feel that he doesnt love me..what can I do to make him love me. All i ever wanted growing up was a father.

2007-10-21 18:11:14 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

if u have to choose between the gal u love most and ur family, what will u do?

2007-10-21 18:07:39 · 21 answers · asked by butter-boy 1 in Singles & Dating

Do you perfer the woman with big boobs and a flat butt or would you perfer a big butt and small boobs? I have to say big butt and small boobs. I'm an butt guy and I gotta have a girl with a phat booty.

2007-10-21 18:07:15 · 2 answers · asked by Rico Tubbs 2 in Singles & Dating

I grew up in a broken family. All brothers. The eldest is my sister but she doesnt give a freakin damn. Shes already moved on with her life from my family. 2nd brother's a crimnal, druggie, gangster.

When i was young, i always spent my time staying over my cousin's sister house. I had the most fun time of my life during there. When i began grewing up however, it was somehow that we both were seperated from each other. Her father decided for her to study overseas far away at south africa.

A few years later, when i began seeing her back in town, we both never really had the chance to talk about life and issues.
also recently,we never had the chance to actually talk about what has happened in our lifes and such.

I grew up as a different person, with my cousin sister missing from my side. I somehow lost my sister after so long. Im left with my brothers who dont give a sh*t about me anymore and one who keeps ending up behind bars.

Recently, i asked her out

2007-10-21 18:03:50 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships