Okay im 20 years old and living with my grandparents. My girlfriend is down the street and is 23. Hey family is very loving and loves me to death. My family hates her and is very controling. She is moving to another city to be with her family. I want to be with her and she wants me to be with her too. But if i leave it will involve me loosing all my stuff and my family disowning me. But i will be happy. I love her though and her family will help me find a job and let me us a car. But is it worth being disowned?
HELP!
Dan
2007-10-21 18:26:22 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
ok if u really love her and u think she truly loves u too u should your family says that now but once they realize u really love her and that your happy with her they will accept her and be happy and they wont even disown u trust me but this happens with time but if it ends up bad then ur family is going to be like i told u so but its a risk u have to take...u learn from ur mistakes so just follow ur heart do what ur heart says to do the rest will come later :)
2007-10-21 18:32:53 · answer #1 · answered by Vane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should rethink what this really means. If your family that has known and loved you for so many years doesn't approve or like your girl friend this may be telling you to actually pay attention to what they may be saying about her. Then another thing to ask yourself is how long do you think you and this girl friend will last, do you think that you are going to marry this woman? Is she really worth loosing your family that loves you, or is she more important? You're in a sticky situation, and I wish that I could give great words of wisdom, but all I can say is just sit down and reflect and think about the two options and what and who you would be willing to loose for the other.
Good Luck
Melissa
2007-10-21 18:35:07 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is so sad as far as your family goes that they would force you to choose between them and the love of your life. If you don't go to be with her - you may regret it for the rest of your life. You'll never regret leaving your family for a time and they will get over it eventually. They've needed to let you go emotionally and are holding on to you far too tightly. So, just make sure you're not going out there to be with her to get away from their control. 40 years from now - you probably won't have you're parents around anymore - but do you really want to regret missing out on love for that long? It might be another 15-20 years or never to find a girl that you can love who they will love too.
2007-10-21 18:32:17 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 20 yrs. old you are an adult. Just be smart play it right. Its not worth staying behind to be unhappy, and sad. It sounds like her family is the real family, because if your family's telling you that they will disown you, I'm sorry but I'm a mom of 3 and i would never tell any of my children i would disown them, your an adult, that's is so f**k up of your parents to do this to you. GO GO GO BE HAPPY
2007-10-26 08:12:07 · answer #4 · answered by tinkerbell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 20 years old. Do what you want to do. don't let your family get in the way of happiness. Just think it through first. Is she really worth it? How long have you been together?
2007-10-21 18:30:39 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are too young for any long term relationship. Why does your family "hate" her. They may be looking out for your best interests. Being "happy" is a fleeting thing. Sounds as though you are a little too dependant on this girl and her family. They are going to get you a car and a job? Why can't you do those things on your own? Please reconsider.
2007-10-26 05:10:07 · answer #6 · answered by kathy s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I envy you and wish I was in your shoes. I diffinetly think you should do it. I'm 23 years old and have lost all my worldly possesions so many times, and each time I rebuild bigger and better than ever before. As for your family F@#% them. All family is, is just a bunch of people with you DNA who are bound to you by obligation. Maybe one day you'll make a new family.
2007-10-21 18:31:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends upon your relationship with your family. Obviously it is not too great if they are threatening disownment. But family will always be there. Women are flaky. nobody but yourself can actually answer this question though. Weigh it out decide for yourself.
2007-10-21 18:31:31 · answer #8 · answered by bob h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were you i would get out of my family's house and live by my own, but not go with her so i dont get disowned, get a job and save some money and still be in contact with her (thats why there are cell phones) wait about 6 months (you know, "dejar que el arroz se cosa un poco") then go to live with her, and my family doesnt have to find out ablout this lil' evil plan
2007-10-21 18:38:36 · answer #9 · answered by Alex C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First why are you living w/ ur grandparents?I think that u should not run away because it would be dumb u can find onother girl and live where u r right know so dont run away because ur grandparents will get a heart attack take it from someone that has expirienced it
2007-10-21 18:33:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋