what will u choose?

Question

if u have to choose between the gal u love most and ur family, what will u do?

Answer 1

Tough one...
When you marry you are starting a new family. Your parents and siblings are still family of course, and their opinions will always have a impact on you, but the family you begin of your own is YOUR family. And they should always come first.
Your parents may not approve, but part of being a parent is having to accept that your children will grow and have lives of their own. A parent must either accept and learn to live with the decisions their grown children make or risk loosing a place in that child's life.
Difficult position for me to take, as a parent with a grown daughter. Mine eloped a few months ago with a young man, a soldier, that I had not even met. They've been together now for 6 months, and she is 3 months pregnant, he is Army Infantry, a scout, and leaving for Iraq in a few days.
I come from several generations of military, I know how dangerous his job is, my husband has served two tours in Iraq and fought in the Gulf War as well, my father served in Viet Nam. I fear that she will become a young widow and wind up raising a child alone...
But I have welcomed the young man into our family with open arms. I respect the decision he has made to serve his country and the courage he has shown in taking a wife and starting a family. And I will stand behind any decision my daughter makes, no matter what my personal feelings are regarding the choices she makes. And I refuse to ever say "I told you so" if my fears are realized!

Answer 2

i don't really know,there must be a serious problem with your family why they let you choose between them and your gal maybe your family do not see anything good or you will not have a good life with your gal they have reasons but they just do that because they know whats right for you,but your gal asks you to choose between her and your family is not right its selfish she only ask you to do that because of her own interest.its up to you to analyze and thinks whats best for you feelings aside.there are many things to consider just hear the two sides of the story firs then you can decide from there.

Answer 3

Obviously family, b'coz family is the only one who helps u whn u r in some worst conditions. No one is there to came up for help but your family always ready for u. Just think that since your childhood they do so many things 4 one and just one the one person who came in yur life few months/yrs back u will leave them. In fact, don;t leave that girl also try to convience her that u r always with her and your all love is for her only. May be by that she change her mind.

Answer 4

I had to make a similar choice. My child or my parents. The choice was clear, we are all together now - but it was a very difficult period of my life. I guess I was lucky that my family always had an open mind with regard to the guys in my life, so it was never an issue.

Answer 5

family

Answer 6

It depends how much i loved her(in my case him) If you think that you could not bare to live without her then pick her. If you are really close to your family and couldnt live with out them then pick the family. I personally and really close with my family and i know that if they didnt like someone then it meant that wasnt the person for me. This is just because i trust my family's judgement.

Answer 7

well i would choose my family. they have been there for you from the start and they will be there for you until the end and you can never trust anyone more than the people that love you!

Answer 8

My family! As wonderful and great as girls can be, you only have one family!

Granted this is a very simple answer not knowing all of the story.

Answer 9

if a SPOUSE--the Bible advises to Cleave to your spouse and not your family. If just a friend, family should come first. Is this person SO FABULOUS that she will become your wife at risk of losing your family affections? Then go ahead and marry her.

Answer 10

Only Circuit
He is my family