I heard there is an etiquette that says it should be at the woman's family, but modern views say it should be discussed as needs arrive. What is the traditional etiquette in this case and likewise, where do newlyweds spend holidays?
2007-10-21 19:31:51 · 10 answers · asked by adenosinetrip3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
We usually split it between the families (of course, ours live in the same neighborhood, so it's pretty simple to visit both families on the same holiday).
If it's not set up easy like that, change it yearly. One year, spend Thanksgiving with the man's family, and Christmas with the woman's family......next year, switch it around.
2007-10-21 19:35:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should talk about it with your fiance. For us, I am spending thanksgiving with his family, but since Christmas is really important to our family (and it'll be my 'last' one just as their daughter at home) it was important that I get to be home for Christmas...
I don't think there should be etiquette considered here-it should be a decision made on a case-by-case basis. Holidays are wonderful, and so a little compromise to be able to share holidays with both families is a good idea.
2007-10-22 02:48:29 · answer #2 · answered by Constellation 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I say depends on how far apart the two families are. Say for example your fiance's family is in cali and you guy's live there, then you could spend New year's or one of their birthday's with them before the bigger holiday and then travel to where ever your parent's live. But I think in general you should divide up the holidays. Like for instance can spend christmas with your family and thanksgiving with his. Thats how I would do it. But I think you two should factor in how much you would be spending for gifts around the holidays and how much it would cost to travel, depending on if you are driving or even flying in a plane. And if yo go by plane how much a rented car would be and all that stuff needs to be considered.
2007-10-21 19:41:57 · answer #3 · answered by Cursed_Romantic 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We alternate years to make it fair and fun for both families. This year for instance, we will be spending Thanksgiving with my inlaws, and Christmas with my family.
I don't think that etiquette matters as much as finding an arrangement and compromise that makes you and your fiancee happy and keeps both families feeling equal and/or satisfied.
2007-10-21 19:40:00 · answer #4 · answered by plum.creek 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I've never heard any tradition on this. I would say its up to you and your hubby to decide what you want to do. Depending on where you, your family, and his family live it will determine how you do things. Like seeing both on the same day. or going to one on say Christmas Eve and the other on Christmas day. Or maybe host it at your place. It's really something you and him need to decide for yourself and its a good chance to practice those compromise skills. good luck.
2007-10-22 16:06:21 · answer #5 · answered by Wishing on a Dream 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a schedule the two of you will have to work out!
2007-10-21 19:38:38 · answer #6 · answered by Asked and Answered 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
both if you can so you don't hurt anyones feelings or try thanksgiving at one's and christmas at the other
2007-10-21 19:45:22 · answer #7 · answered by Audrey C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've always thought it was with the man's side
2007-10-21 19:36:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
well i dont really see anything wrong with it. at lesat it helps to find out who likes you or who doesnt.
on the other hand it will be best to alternate the places for sake of the fun and .........................................
2007-10-21 23:48:52 · answer #9 · answered by blessing u 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
both if u can... or change it yearly or change it everytime there is an event going...
2007-10-21 19:36:48 · answer #10 · answered by Romeo 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋