I hate the fact that my husband is joining several websites and gaining several female friends that are showing their bodies. He even comments on his page he is married but loves looking at other womens physiques....what do you think? Should I be on the verge of packing my bags and leaving???
2007-10-21 18:36:59 · 39 answers · asked by Jayse'sMommy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just wanted all to know this is not the first time he has done something like this, it's actually the 3rd (wow, I feel like an idoit admiting that!) The first time, it was extremely disrespectful, and I let him have it. The second time he wasn't really being disrespectful, but just talking to other women, (which is still disrespect, but he knew that I knew about the site), and this time, I just happened to google him and found this new addition to his addiction. he just joined withing the last couple days, I am thinking I am going to keep it to myself and check the page periodically to see what he's doing and when he crosses the line, I will be OUTTTTT!!!
2007-10-21 18:50:52 · update #1
Just wanted all to know this is not the first time he has done something like this, it's actually the 3rd (wow, I feel like an idoit admiting that!) The first time, it was extremely disrespectful, and I let him have it. The second time he wasn't really being disrespectful, but just talking to other women, (which is still disrespect, but he knew that I knew about the site), and this time, I just happened to google him and found this new addition to his addiction. he just joined withing the last couple days, I am thinking I am going to keep it to myself and check the page periodically to see what he's doing and when he crosses the line, I will be OUTTTTT!!!
2007-10-21 18:51:09 · update #2
sit with him ,talk to him. looking is ok, you can also tell him, that you also like looking at other male bodies. see his reaction. if he only looks, tats ok, but if he is taking any action, then i think you need to teach him a good lesson.
2007-10-21 18:45:16 · answer #1 · answered by Kassanovic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Liking the way a naked woman's body looks is normal for men, BUT being obsessed to the point of joining websites and talking to real women is not okay. If you are sitting there while he does this and just kind of whine about it, he knows he can get away with it. If he respected you he wouldn't dare jeopardize a marriage for it. Sometimes the less said to men in this situation, the better. Tell him, unjoin every site, and don't talk to other women in a sexual nature like that or I'm gone. Say it and MEAN IT. Somebody can only walk all over you until you get yourself up and end it. Make a plan with a friend of parents to stay incase you do have to leave.
2007-10-21 18:42:15 · answer #2 · answered by Konjo Nashi Pirate™ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all he's a married man and should not be looking or flirting with other women on the internet!, if what you've told us is true, it's a proven fact that if a man or women lusts in their minds then they would cheat if giving the chance, if he's doing these awlful things then he's not worth your time, get out before he get's you pregnant or something worse?, a descent married man doesn't look on the net for sex of anykind if he is married!, pack your bags and tell him that if he needs to do what he's doing then stop wasting your time and life, you gave up the single life when you married him, then why didn't he, there's alot better and mature men in this world that would give you the respect and love that you deserve!!! DROP the LOSER, and find yourself a real man and not a "BOY".
2007-10-21 20:04:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your hubby is doing this? He didn't give such signs before you were married? like being a looker?
Well, it wouldn't be ok to me, I would find it disrespectful and in a way, mentally cheating. Some women are ok with it as long as it doesn't cross a certain line.
You should tell him how you feel. If he's a decent man, these things should be worked out. If not, you might want to consider walking. It's still early though.
I mean, in a way, it is just a body, u r the one he is married 2. If he stopped doing romantic things or sleeping with you, I might be worried then.
2007-10-21 18:45:50 · answer #4 · answered by Lil Blousou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
H3LL no, it's not ok!!! There are limits....I think it would be okay if a hot chick passes by and he glances once in awhile or that he has female friends that you also feel comfortable with. But to actively join websites to for encounters with other females "friends" whether just online or face-to-face, that's total disrespect to you. I would never let someone belittle my worth like that. I probably would try to have a talk with him but if it doesn't get resolved, I'd pack his bags or walk off with no regrets.
2007-10-21 18:46:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if you should be ready to pack up and leave, but you should be having a serious talk with your husband.
My recommendation is you let him know in no uncertain terms that you consider this to be cheating. Make sure he understands this is not a case where how you feel about what he's doing is what's important - regardless of his intentions.
While this should be common sense to him, at least you are giving him the chance to see your point of view and make a change before throwing down the gantlet and threatening to walk out.
2007-10-21 18:44:04 · answer #6 · answered by Justin H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hlo
Wats ur husband is doing is not good for your upcoming Future
as one of my friend told me that every men like to see the other women but after marriage it has to shut off .
Otherwise u start treating to him until his satisfaction,
i thinks u doesn't Satisfy him thats y he use to Watch porns sites.
U start treating Untill his satisfaction whichresults him to put down using links ok.
Reply after Reading me ok
2007-10-21 21:03:16 · answer #7 · answered by Baig 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Observe his behaviour when making love with him then start packing your bags and leave. Maybe ! he's have something in his mind from there he learnt so as to share some creative ideas with you during love making. Don't act so fast and be patience and tolerate at the moment.
2007-10-21 18:43:56 · answer #8 · answered by jameslouis44 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't respect your feelings on the matter, then something needs to change. Desire is not wrong so long as he does not act on it. Desires can change with work. He's acting on it, which means he is being selfish and not paying enough attention to you.
You're married. His eyes should not wander. You should seek a marriage counselor. They can help you work on overcoming his obsession.
Would you have married him if every time you went on a date he flirted with other women? Would he have married you if you flirted with other men by flaunting yourself?
2007-10-21 18:43:19 · answer #9 · answered by martinlh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO.
the way you used the word obsession makes it sound like he isnt fully commited to you.
you defitately need to have a talk about how it makes you feel uncomfortable and that he needs to do something about that.
he IS a guy however... hes not gonna stop looking at other women but he does need to stop obsessing. Just try to talk to him about how you feel about what he's doing.
2007-10-21 18:42:01 · answer #10 · answered by Bridgettttt. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to work it out, somehow... Maybe was he like that before you guys got married?? If so,,,he ain't gonna change grl, but maybe,, he has gain this fascination because you probly' aren't giving him that attentin he urges for. I would try using that time he spents on the website for me & himm time. Rattle him, it'll be f u n for the both of you.
2007-10-21 18:45:46 · answer #11 · answered by L.A gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋