My best friend has feelings for me. I think I have started to get feelings for him too.
I think about telling him. But then I'd have no excuse for not being with him.
We live together most of the time; we sleep in the same bed. I have never felt this way about anyone. I could spend the rest of my life with him.
I have struggled with anorexia, and it’s ALL thanks to him that I am now a healthy weight so it's not that I'm ashamed of my body. It’s definitely not that HE’s unattractive.
I think my problem could be related to anorexia. I look at food and sex in the same way like indulging in them is weak. I know it’s irrational but I can’t get past it. I have had sex before the ED
If I tell him about this I know he’ll want to be with me anyway but he won’t be HAPPY.
Do you think this will go away as I continue to recover from anorexia, or do you think I need to do something about it? Should I tell him and trust him to do the best thing for him? I’m just trying to do right for us
2007-10-21 18:32:21 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He won't be happy, with you? Huh? What? No, don't you dare, do that to yourself!!!! Yes its a symptom of your anorexia which was a symptom of your EXTREME low self-esteem. WHich is a polite way of saying, your still your worse enemy. Thats it in a nut shell, your still pretty busy kicking yourself in the butt and explaining to yourself how ugly and stupid you are. To the level of anorexia it actually means your DAMN good at it, almost on a professional level. If there was a race between you and a depressed person on who hates themselves more you'd lap them. The reason I over-state this is because your life, is like most, is going to center around FIGHTING those insecurites and realizing, that your a cute human female and your not worse or no better then any other cute human female. That aside you NEED to tell him, you need to tell him EVERYTHING! Its part of getting comfrontable with a person. Its sort of works both ways, as you get more comfrontable with people, you get more comfrontable with you, and vice versa. Besides its the TRUE test of a relatioship, its a TRUE test of the level of love envolved, when you can talk to each other honestly. Secerts make enemies not friends. NOW GO TALK TO HIM! Besides its your next big step in getting over your anorexia! So get busy!
2007-10-25 05:06:22 · answer #1 · answered by Brutal Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough question, I think that you need to talk to a professional about your sex thing. A realationship is more then just sex, but when you are young, it is natural to want to explore it. Please get help, like you have been doing with your eating dissorder. Sound like a good guy, if he has helped you through what you have been through. Good lock
2007-10-22 01:43:17 · answer #2 · answered by bill s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋