Virginity - a turn off for guys?

Question

I am 25 and I never had sex. I just went to a couple of dates when I was younger, but nothing happened.

I am decently looking, with a nice job and education, but I am poor. I cant affort to buy nice clothes or to spend too much time being high manitenece.

I am afraid that I am going to be single forever, or that guys will be freaked when I tell then I have that little experience.

What should I do?

I reposted this question, sorry . Just that I have some friends that have been rejected for not having sex before.

Answer 1

You should stay a virgin until you get married and if you never get married, you should die a virgin. That's the correct PC message. If you do anything other than that then you will * get an STD and die * get pregnant and ruin your life * be 'used' and no man will ever want you * make God angry * enter other reason here.

Reality - once you're old enough not to be dating little boys and start dating grown men - nobody cares if you're a virgin or not. In fact, at your age, most people don't believe that you're a virgin anyway. It's just not expected, it's not important, it's a non-issue. Reality, most people don't care even in the slightest. Except maybe those guys who are so insecure that their biggest fear is that your last boyfriend had a bigger tool than his.

Yes, you are likely to be rejected by many men because you're a virgin. Most adult men don't want the extra baggage that goes with dating a virgin. There's just too much pressure. And most adults don't want to sleep with one either - virgins expect too much.

Maybe I'm cynical, maybe I'm just immorral. I'm going to make the same observation that Robert Herrick made 400 years ago - it's still true today:

Gather ye rosebuds while ye may,
Old Time is still a-flying:
And this same flower that smiles to-day
To-morrow will be dying.

Alternatively, stay PC. No sex before marriage and if you never get married then no sex for you.

Answer 2

I don't think it is a turn off - my wife was a virgin when I met her and we married when she was 29.
I don't think a decent guy will reject you for not having experience. In the age of increasing STDs it is sensible not to have lots of sexual partners.
Lots of guys would love to have a girlfriend that is not high maitenance.
One way to deal with the clothes is buy one or two outfits that you keep for going out. The clothes wouldn't need to be expensive just functional and flatter you.
Good luck and keep looking 25 is not too old to be a virgin. Make sure you feel it is right before you decide to sleep with someone - don't just sleep with someone to lose your virginity.

Answer 3

Hey,
Well I'm 20 and I'm not a virgin. I haven't ever slept with a virgin either. But I don't think being a virgin is a bad thing, but rather a good thing. I would of always rather my girlfriends been virgins. This is because at least you know they just don't sleep around and have some morals. I actually find it abit of a turn off to think how many men have been there before me. So don't worry, only some cheap skate would only turn you away, and your better off staying away from guys like that anyway.

Answer 4

Lets see, your nice looking, smart, employed, moral and low maintainance. Are the fellows who live in your area idiots? I'll marry you now! lol jk
Turn-off? No, not to me. I respect a gal who has standards.
If you lower them, it will not make you more attractive to guys. At least not ones who want a lasting relationship.
Besides look at it this way. If you find a good guy who has more "experience" he should be a patient teacher. And, if he is like you and without "experience" you can discover things together.
Maybe you just need to get around more men who are of a similar personality and interests. Try social groups, hobby clubs and such. If you meet enough guys you'll find the right one, or he'll find you. Thats the way it works.
Best of luck and take care.
BTW I'm waiting for the right gal.

Answer 5

Don't worry about what people think, continue being yourself and you will get more out of life than any person taking the chance of catching a STD. Its not the clothes or money that make a good person but, having a good heart and respect for yourself and others.

Answer 6

I would say that virginity is a blessing, if you can protect it till marriage then I am sure you will be blessed with a wonderful and thankful husband. Virginity is very rare in this day and age. I believe most men would like that quality in a woman. Just go out an meet a religious man and I know he will appreciate it. I belong to a ministry group called singles for christ. You might fit in well in the community. go check it out, you might meet a really nice man there. Good luck.

Answer 7

An honorable man will not be put off by your virginity, or your clothing or financial situation either. You sound like an intelligent, thoughtful person. The kind of men who are 'keepers' will be attracted by your strength of conviction and character.

Your friends who were rejected...probably dodged a bullet. Don't worry about it. Your still young, enjoy it!

Answer 8

for a large number of fellows that I easily have been with being a virgin is a extensive turn on, im 23 and a virgin you will learn that that fact which you nonetheless have your virginity is a good factor while it includes men. by way of fact it is so uncommon now for a girl to no longer have intercourse they regard you bigger than the girls people that are actually not virgins. they additionally be attentive to which you will no longer purely positioned out for anybody so as that additionally they comprehend you greater. even regardless of the undeniable fact that this would not stop them from attempting or wanting to have intercourse with you by way of fact they're going to attempt in spite of each and every thing they're nonetheless men lol. and definite men do have intercourse with virgin's even regardless of the undeniable fact that some men % to no longer or do no longer desire to by way of fact they experience as though in the event that they do you would be linked to them by way of emotional part of intercourse so i propose if your no longer likely waiting for marriage to have intercourse then wait till your in a courting to have intercourse make investments it sluggish in him before you supply it to him. And he will take exhilaration in you plenty greater. If u do meet a guy that would not want a virgin in any respect then that isn't the guy for you and you need to distance your self from him he needs no longer something yet intercourse and is no longer attracted to from now on than that from you. and you do no longer desire to offer it to somebody like that

Answer 9

If i were you i'd be proud of my virginity and except myself the way i'm.It's like your desperate for a guy who'll just take way your virginity.All you need is a make over and a good job,and you can do all this things for yourself.
And no one is poor it only depends on how you maintain and budget our life.
Good Luck and remember you're beautifull and there's a guy out there waiting for you.

Answer 10

If you're single forever I can promise you it won't be because you're a virgin given the fact most guys like women and most guys will screw anything with or without a pulse except for those who are probably flaccid anyway. Keep your chin up. Be proud of yourself for not giving in so easily.