So............why the hell, why I know this 'relationship' is not going anywhere, makes me feel unworthy of love, makes my feel unloveable......why can't I tell the guy its over. I know what I am doing (again)....waiting for him to wake up and realise that I AM a good person. He said I am so easy to get on with, feels like he has known me for years, never met anyone he feels so relaxed with.....blah de blah. I am too soft aren't I? Give me a good talking to you guys, if it was MY advice I would say dump him, shame I have feelings involved
2007-10-21 23:07:33 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well done you for admitting to it and asking for cruel to be kind advice! You know it's never gunna improve so what are you waiting for, a fairy godmother to wave her magic wand and get him to realise how precious you are. You have proved your worth by being a good person but he obviously doesn't appreciate what he has. Your well-being is paramount, find the courage to say "ta ra matey". After that, concentrate on how to 'give' without being taken advantage of. I've recently split up with someone who did this to me (owes me money as a result too) and he knocked me off balance.......never again, he didn't deserve me. I won't let another bloke bring me down, I deserve better + so do you.
2007-10-21 23:48:04 · answer #1 · answered by JonesTheMiner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it doesn't make you feel good, then why are you staying with him?
You can stay for years, putting up with "less than", hoping that he "wakes up" and finally admits he appreciates you. Why do you need to prove to him that you are worthy of him? This is just pointless and just making your self-esteem dive lower and lower. If he doesn't appreciate you right now, the chances are high he won't in the future.
You don't have to bend over backwards to prove you are worthy to a man. Your "goodness" is something that is innate, and it doesn't need some man to validate that. What it does "need" though, is a man to appreciate it. As he doesn't, find someone who does. There are plenty of men out there who will.
You need to work on your self-worth, and self-assurance, so that you are not in a position where you are giving away your power to the man in a relationship, as you have done with this one.
Good luck x
2007-10-21 23:25:28 · answer #2 · answered by Sun is Shining ❂ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is sounds like you a stuck between a rock and a hard place. OK, sit down. and have a good thing about it, or wright it down. whats make him a good and bad person. and if it fell like the world is on you shoulders, (I've been there). then dump him. but be nice about, go some where you to are a lone. look in his eye and tell him "its not going to work". let him have his say. and just tell "him we can still be friends". DO NOT DUMP HIM BY TEXTING HIM, and do not laugh in his face. you will make an enemy by this. Good luck
2007-10-21 23:43:20 · answer #3 · answered by Can't Stop Smiling 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out and get a new haircut and a new hot outfit. Plan a night out with the girls. You will soon realize that there is plenty of opportunity for a new relationship. That will give you the incentive to tell this guy that things are just not working out between the two of you.
2007-10-21 23:14:54 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
doll yourself up, go on outings at night with your girlfriends, have tons of fun and ignore him for the night. then when he asks you what are you doing by ignoring him, just tell him straight in the face saying that you cannot stand him anymore and you want a break up.
don't ever get soft-hearted about it or else the matter will never rest. be decisive, dump him. it ain't worth for a girl to waste her time on such a guy.
gd luck :)
2007-10-21 23:22:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel the same way! really i do!!
its very hard but my best advice if your not going to dump him is just to give him some space, don't call or text him and he may think get his act together, be in control for once and most of all be cool, if he's still a A sshole then just forget him and find another
2007-10-21 23:13:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
being honest noone can give u a talking to. i was in the same situation and it took me 6months before i got the courage up to dump him. u have to do it when ur ready. u seem able to do it now though as u have accepted that its going nowhere, thats the hardest part, so get out there and live your life
2007-10-21 23:13:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try going away for a bit...give him the cold shoulder...dont even contact him while you're away!
*Absence makes the heart grow fonder*
Perhaps then, he'll realize that he's taking you for granted!
And if on your return, nothing has changed...then seriously think about moving on!
2007-10-21 23:14:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard, I know. Since you know what the right thing to do is, then you'd better go on with it. Waiting and hoping wont make it any easier, Im so sorry.
2007-10-21 23:12:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the sense of your being the Adult in the relationship, and that is NOT what you need.
Be the Adult and tell him what you feel, then make your decisions.
Sash.
2007-10-21 23:14:12 · answer #10 · answered by sashtou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋