hey i finally gave into a man last year around june after him chasing me for over a year. i then got pregnant very fast by end of july and he appeared happy and ready for the baby. he then promised me we would live together when baby was almost born but when i was 7 months pregnant he asked me to move out of my mothers hse to my hse and he would help pay rent. when baby was born he used to visit almost every day and even sleep but now baby is 6 months he rarely comes atmost once a wk and is not talking anything about our relationship. i have a feeling he is with someone else and am really stressed coz i would want to be in a marriage and have a happy family. should i move back home with my son and just forget about him and hope to meet someone else or do i perservere with this arrangement though inside am unhappy. he never ever mentions marriage anymore and i read an email of his to a friend saying he has never met a woman he can marry. please advice thanks
2007-10-21 22:18:20 · 11 answers · asked by Louisa W 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is definitely the baby's "father"(biologically speaking), but he's not your husband. He is immature and selfish. He took and took and now that it's time to give he's gone.
The others are right, take him to court for child support and focus on making a life for yourself and your baby. If your folks will let you move home that would help you out. But, even if they do you are the one who has to take care of your child and work out a future for you both.
I know you are sad and probably angry inside because things haven't worked out, but there is a lot of good things out there for you if you focus on your child and yourself. You need to find a way to get back into school or to get some good job training so you can earn enough for yourself and your child.
Someone already said this, but its so true, "Any guy can get a woman pregnant, but it takes a real man to be a father." Your guy is not a father, cut the ties and move on for your baby's sake, because he's also not a husband! Sorry to be harsh, but its time to get real about your life.
2007-10-21 22:54:55 · answer #1 · answered by LeslieAnn 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitely forget this guy, he doesn't seem to be a very stable part of your life, or a constant and with a baby, that's what you need more than anything. If moving back in with your mother gives you stability, then do that. However, if you can afford the rent and want the independance, then continue living on your own. You will find someone who's for you, someone who will accept you and the baby as a part of each other, rather than the babys father who doesn't seem to see the baby as a priority. It isn't fair to cut off all contact, as the baby does deserve the right to speak to their father, but do forget about the possibility of a relationship, at least for now. Good luck!
2007-10-21 22:26:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move back in with your mother and forget about him. If he was serious about marriage and being together, then he would of done it by now. I would go back to your mothers for emotional support and help with the baby. It doesn't take anything special to father a child, but it takes a hell of a man to be a father. Being a biological father and a REAL father are two different things.
2007-10-21 22:22:01 · answer #3 · answered by Konjo Nashi Pirate™ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just lay low for a while and stop talking to him. If he decides that he wants to talk to you, then let him. My situation is similar to yours, but not exactly. Once that baby is born, and he hasn't made any changes, then he never will. He has 4 more months to show some action... if he doesn't. LEAVE HIM. Don't give him another chance. **** his world up. It will haunt him. I promise. =) Guys today act like *******... it's hard to find a REAL MAN out there. I'd say get used to being on your on and independent for your child. Don't play the off and on relationship once your child is here.. it will only make everything ****. Good luck.
2016-04-09 21:18:45 · answer #4 · answered by Michele 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont be stupid. Let him Go and forget about him. Let him regret for the rest of his life. Move back to you mother house and start your new life with your baby. I believe you can find a better person who loves you and take care of you and your baby.
2007-10-21 22:31:51 · answer #5 · answered by Yaya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding.......He has no intention of being with you and he is probably married already if not in another relationship.He wanted you to move out of your parents house because he didn't want to get caught.He probably thought your parents would figure it out.If your mom and dad dont have a problem with you move back in with them for a while and sue the bastard for all the child support you can get.Do not let him get away with out paying his fair share
2007-10-21 22:25:37 · answer #6 · answered by Debbie Ann H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get out of that relationship. He does not love you. Take him to court and get child support for the baby, and tell him to hit the road. This is why people should get married before having children!!
2007-10-21 22:24:21 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give the baby for adoption. Such a father's kid will not be a responsible human being.
Consider yourself fortunate that you got to jettison him so fast.
In future, be selective in choosing partners. Your kid deserve better fathers, and your womb deserves offspring of good men.
2007-10-21 23:33:34 · answer #8 · answered by sexy grandmother 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl it is better to move on. He is not the one for you. Make sure he supports his child but girl you can do a lot better. Find a man that will love you for you.
2007-10-21 22:21:34 · answer #9 · answered by rashida_16 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its time to move on. Make sure that he is still in your child's life, but you need to focus on your baby's happiness and your own.
2007-10-21 23:24:01 · answer #10 · answered by toknomskim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋