Family & Relationships - 25 October 2007

I am 7 mths pregnant for a irresponsible and selfish man. No, this is not how he was prior to conception. I have not gotten one dime or emotional support from him since I've been pregnant. He gave me $200 two weeks ago, and told me to take $70 out of it to pick up his clothes from the cleaners. Which i did not do, he became upset, asked for the money back, which I did not give him. He left me a voicemail stating that if I didn't give him his money back he is officially done with me. Which is a relief because I realized that this man is not for me and plan to raise my child on my own.
He has not spoken to me since then, and doesn't have the decency to call me or my family to check on the baby.
I really want to write him a brief and to the point letter about his childish behavior, just to get my point across. I don't want him showing up after the baby is here, like everything is ok. I also want to make it clear about child support, should I write this letter and CC his mother? Thnx

2007-10-25 02:43:03 · 27 answers · asked by Clear 1 in Family

After reading some of the posts on yahoo questions and answers (eg, "how can I cheat on my wife and get away with it?")and having just heard about some unbelievable site called affairmatch.com, I have begun to feel really disconcerted about the whole idea of marriage as a declaration of commitment between two people. I'd really like to know if there are married men out there who have not and would never cheat on their wives, no matter what, even if the opportunity presents itself out of the blue and you think you can get away with it. I mean, if you have a problem with the relationship, why not just end it, versus cheating on someone--the ultimate betrayal of trust? What is the point of marriage if someone doesn't take it seriously? I'd like to believe in my hopes and dreams for the future, of being married someday and spending the rest of my life with someone, but I am really starting to lose faith in people in general. i guess I am ultimately afraid of getting hurt.

2007-10-25 02:41:20 · 13 answers · asked by dizzylizzy20_11 2 in Marriage & Divorce

...if I'm not so much in love with her anymore. I'm almost 40 and my wife is 33, and getting a little older. I'm thinking I can go to Russia, Ukraine, or Columbia and get a young hottie less than 25 years old with a great education (I only date foreign women). There are no kids involved so it's a simple divorce. I know she really loves me, but love is not so important to me. My kids (from another marriage) love her and they would be hurt. I'm not sure if I can get someone younger and more beautiful who I can trust and who loves my kids as much as my current wife. My wife is good-looking, gets a lot of attention from men, but I want someone younger and more beautiful. This is a serious question.

2007-10-25 02:38:15 · 68 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

What is considered cheating to you? Is it when there is actual physical contact or not? Do you consider buying subscriptions to internet porn/webcam and chat sites cheating? Just curious.

2007-10-25 02:35:21 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

He is a colleague of mine, and he do this in the office. I'm kinda interested in him too. Usually he does this by making sure no one sees except me. If I wink him back, will it be proper, since we're still in the office?

2007-10-25 02:32:03 · 6 answers · asked by questioning 1 in Singles & Dating

I have a wedding coming up Nov 3rd. It is semi-formal and after 5. THe wedding colors are Chocolate brown (my husband is in the weddign party). Is it ok to wear a black flowing cocktail dress to the wedding? it is very elegant with an empire waist. I bought it a couple of years ago and have never had an occasion to wear it. At the bridal shower everyone was in black and white?

2007-10-25 02:26:45 · 22 answers · asked by Nicole E 4 in Weddings

Hey girls tell me Do u like a man with a gud body with sexy Muscles?? If yes Which body part appeals to u d most and please tell me ur age too.....thank you ;)

2007-10-25 02:23:39 · 33 answers · asked by v_87_p 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-10-25 02:22:48 · 28 answers · asked by Fancy You 6 in Weddings

Fair? Remember, I won't even be able to touch her or this other woman. Just watch.

2007-10-25 02:20:57 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Here is the pic.I'm 21 &he's 42.He's divorced with a kid.I was in luv @ 16 &didn't date anyone before i met him.he's nice &everything but i just hate the fact that he's my No.1 and i'm his....!!i asked him once if he had any picture of his X-wife..he said BOLD NO..but once i went through his stuff while looking 4 something &i ended up with a pic of his X &him.Plus he told me that it was hard for him to move on after the divorce &told me that i was the only one he ever got close to.But recently..i asked him if he had sex after the divorce.he said YES & i asked with who? &he said.." with a woman".He told me before that he didn't get involved with anyone before he met me &he said this BOLD.I got mad coz he had me on making me think i was special &all.I hate the fact that he had alot when my experience is just the opposite.I love him but i'm not sure if i can carry all of these.
my pals joke over his age & all but i still take all of that.
i'm 2 young to get screwed.I'm unok with the past

2007-10-25 02:13:36 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Doesn't that make the marriage vows null and void and the marriage itself basically a farce?

2007-10-25 02:12:38 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

3 months ago, I won just over £200,000 on the lottery and planned to surprise my partner/family when the cheque arrived. However, for some reason I got the cheque and have told no-one, not even my best friend. My partner knows I have been a little 'flush' with money lately but thinks it's just that I hve my finances in a decent state. As time went on it got harder to say anything. I know I should say something but am afraid she will be angry and suspicious as to why I left it so long. I have tried to ask myself why, but can't find a reason.
I want to enjoy my winnings, it's a life changing amount.
How should I come clean with my partner and family?

2007-10-25 02:11:25 · 19 answers · asked by mark_virgin 3 in Marriage & Divorce

Let's say you are interested in a guy. You don't know anything about him, but you are wanting to know as much as you can. When you approach him and after her realizes that you are interested, he kindly says, "Please forgive me, but I am not looking for a relationship at the moment. It has nothing to do with you. I have some things going on right now and some things that have gone on in my past that I am currently dealing with. When the time comes that I am seeking a relationship, I need the person I choose to get to know me for my personality, not my past. I hope that you are still available when that time comes." Would you respect him more or take it as a massive rejection?

2007-10-25 02:08:52 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My bf broke up with me about a month ago (fyi: we broke up a few times before over a 2 yr relationship). While back in the relationship, he fuzzed at me a lot when I said something wrong, which made me scared of him sometimes. Recently, he wants me back. He said he’ll change his attitude towards me so he bought some books about patience so that he can improve himself for me. Other than his bad attitude towards me, he’s a great guy. However, when he calls me these days, I feel like returning his calls is just my responsibility, but nothing else. When I called him back and he didn’t pick up, I didn’t even worry whether or not he would call back. But at the same time, I don’t want see him giving up himself when he doesn’t get me. One side of me is thinking “oh he’s great guy who is willing to change for me, so I better be back with him”. But on the other side, I am like having the fear to be back with him b/c of all the fuzzing from him previously. do i still love him?

2007-10-25 02:08:41 · 9 answers · asked by AngelaM 1 in Singles & Dating

my husband a pain when it comes to anythink to do with the family more so at xmas time it breaks my heart and i just wont to cry , but i just dont show just how hurt i am ,but i just do wot i wont , i only see tham once or twice a year its his grandson too and yes he is a hand full but hay its only for a couple of days , he said tell tham were going on hoilday . iam so sad . merry xmas.

2007-10-25 02:08:16 · 6 answers · asked by star 3 in Family

2007-10-25 02:08:09 · 9 answers · asked by april 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Everything left behind will be destroyed.

2007-10-25 02:07:37 · 18 answers · asked by Corona 5 in Other - Family & Relationships

If you read any of my other questions-I have issues with my fiances other kids mom! She is unstable & bitter. How can I once & for all let her know she is not a threat to me, I could care less about her and I want her to leave me alone & grow up?! My fiance does not want her, he has told her this numerous times & explained its about the kids-not her! When will she relaize this or hwo can I help her realize this for real? She seems like she just doesnt get it at all? Its so crazy!

2007-10-25 02:07:36 · 11 answers · asked by Yellowtulips 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I've never been a parent before and their father and I are both in the army.... Heres the twissed, I have never met them before , for the simple fact I've been on a deployment for the past 10 months. I have two more months left then we are going to all move in together... Crazy situation , I know. Heres another twissed, their father is 20 years older than I am, but very much in love....

2007-10-25 02:06:46 · 10 answers · asked by armygurl052000 2 in Family

still have pictures of an ex lover?

does that bother you?
do you have pics of ex lovers also?
does that cause tension?
do you/they look at them often?

just curious...
(this isn't about me...i'm just bored and thinking of Q)

2007-10-25 02:04:45 · 14 answers · asked by joey322 6 in Marriage & Divorce

How should talk to my boyfriend of 3 years about him starting to help me out more around the house and with his kids or going and getting a job. Right now he is lazy and all he does is go to his moms so he can sleep all day, hang out with his friends, or sit att home and play video games. I do love him and im pretty sure he loves me too so i dont want to just leave but this is it if i cant get it through his head that he needs to change the kids and i are gone. As it is now he gets really upset when i bring anything up. He seen me posting on here last night and started screaming and left and hes still not back.
And please no insults about having children before marriage.

2007-10-25 02:01:47 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

if u know from my previous question..i'm a mid-twenties newlywed and i thought it was weird my husband only wanted to have sex 1-2 times a week even though he knows im always hot for him. i checked our computer history and he's been visiting internet porn sites every single day...and i mean every single day. i confronted him...he said "f-u" and stormed out. he came back and we went to sleep in separate rooms after i told him how hurt i was and how would he like it if he knew i whacked off all day to the rich, young, hot succesful men i come across all day..but then turned him down for sex. anyways..this morning we tried talking more. the arguement got heated and his answer to me was that a guy needs to "relieve himself" every day cuz its biological but he doesnt really want to have sex every day. he claims the reason he doesnt like nude photos of me (taken by a professional photographer way before we even got together) is because its sleazy and he holds his wife to a higher standard.

2007-10-25 01:58:58 · 18 answers · asked by Heather 3 in Marriage & Divorce

this is another poem of mine: i thought all there was,
was lies and deciet
for thats all i was told
so i have lived wishing to die

i have been beaten,
by my exes and my mom,
i have been scarred by those i trusted
and yet i remain calm

my pain has gone
all i feel is pity and sorrow
unlike everyone else...
i can't move on

when i find someone
my heart gets crushed
we've talked,we've shared
and it was fun
but i don't want to live with only lust

so i take the plunge
with it my heart falls
forward i fall,
faster into a lunge
till i'm walking alone again...
down an empty hall

well thats it so i hope you like it as much as i like writing them.leave me comments.

2007-10-25 01:58:39 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

This girl takes a class with me in college.Im just 18 and still shy and nervous.I no how to talk to girls as friends,class mates,or parthners at work but im not good at talking to girls i like or love.We smile at each other we talk together like hi how are you what other clases are we taking and what assignment we are doing.Its just friendily not romantic.We had a converssation and i looked like an idiot.I told her you are tall then she said ya i have broad sholders and she does sports then i told her you are big[that makes a women feel bad]then she said huh im big then i said not big as in fat but big frame then i told her Ana Nicole is big he said i look like her i sauid no big like her.She did not feel bad she laughed at me and kept laughing and gigiling.She sais she thiks im funny.She smiles at me when no one sees her smile.She must be thinkingg what an idiot i am.I like her and might have a crush on her but dont love her and dont want to be in a commited relation with her.

2007-10-25 01:57:13 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have this crush on my house mates friend she'd come over every now and then. We'd all be drink drinking and then all of sudden shes would bite me this had happened more than once. Shes already stated that she doesn't like me that way which leaves me a little confused. Shes a great friend and I don't want to mess anything up between us by having theses Ola la feelings. Also I would just be nice to hear peoples opinions on what biting a person means to them.
Thanks.

2007-10-25 01:51:15 · 6 answers · asked by elf_god2003 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-10-25 01:48:36 · 12 answers · asked by Meadow2009 2 in Marriage & Divorce

There is this guy that I've known for about seven years. We've been having sex off and on ever since we met. Well about a year ago I moved to a different state and I don't see him anymore, but I wrote him a letter a few months ago and I gave him my phone number. He called me once to tell me he got the letter (in June), and up until a week ago I hadn't heard from him! I talked to him yesterday and he asked me who I was having sex with in California and I told him and he told me to stop giving it away to other people because my sex is HIS. Does this make any sense? How are you going to call me up after five months has gone by and act like you're my boyfriend???? I am so confused! What should I do?

2007-10-25 01:44:26 · 9 answers · asked by Miss K 1 in Singles & Dating

If you are pregant, 8 months, and your husband is constantly seeing his ex-girlfriend, who has just reappeared in his life, and they dated in college, and she takes him out to meet old college friends and they are having conversations together, and text each other and attend college alumni functions together where the entrance is "without partners", is it right to hire a detective? And he comes home at 1 a.m., smelling of her perfume?

2007-10-25 01:44:18 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I used to love to have sex. I'm 23 and my husband is 29. He waits until I am tired at night to want to have sex. I tell him that I don't want to, but he continues with it anyways. The whole time he is having sex with me he gripes and complains that I am no fun, and etc. It just makes me more not in the mood. I tell him that I said no in the first place, so he shouldn't even be complaining. I will tell him, let's have sex tomorrow, but he doesn't listen. He wants sex and he is going to have sex. I feel he is being very inconsiderate to my wants. I find it hard to be turned on by him anymore and the way that he is. The entire time he will tell me to get into it or stop acting the way that I am, but I find it hard when I can not even keep my eyes open and I am really not in the mood. My husband is stubborn and obviously doesn't listen to me. I don't know what to do.

2007-10-25 01:43:48 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My husband seems to be a dirty old man, i suppose him liking benny hill, the sun and strip clubs should have given it away. The thing i do hate however is that he has to make eye contact with evey attractive woman we pass in the street. I dont expect him to walk about with his eye shut but he stares at them and it hurts me.
If it was just normal looking it would involve men and older women too wouldnt it. At first i thought it was me but have watched other men, most of them dont do this.

What is the best way to deal ? should i become a dirty old woman ?

2007-10-25 01:41:58 · 25 answers · asked by cottontail 5 in Marriage & Divorce