3 months ago, I won just over £200,000 on the lottery and planned to surprise my partner/family when the cheque arrived. However, for some reason I got the cheque and have told no-one, not even my best friend. My partner knows I have been a little 'flush' with money lately but thinks it's just that I hve my finances in a decent state. As time went on it got harder to say anything. I know I should say something but am afraid she will be angry and suspicious as to why I left it so long. I have tried to ask myself why, but can't find a reason.
I want to enjoy my winnings, it's a life changing amount.
How should I come clean with my partner and family?
2007-10-25 02:11:25 · 19 answers · asked by mark_virgin 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
god bless you,and congratulations first let me say you are not selfish as someone pointed out that you are more like you are in shock why should your girl be angry?you won some money ,not another girl ,you have one life enjoy it if your girl cant cope with your secret ,then thats her problem not yours .go live your life the best you can spend it on what you want ,you won it now enjoy it good luck x
2007-10-25 09:38:44 · answer #1 · answered by MADELENA S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest about it when the time is right. Tell them that the power of the cash went to your head and that you wanted to take your time to get it all into perspective. A sudden change in lifestyle can be emotionally devastating to you all, even if it is a positive change. So be very careful.
If you and your partner/family have ever disagreed about money in the past then this event just might highlight it. I would seriously recommend that you seek the advice of a financial counselor if you are not accustomed to possessing this much cash (power).
You should be asking yourself why you might be reluctant to reveal this. And then ask yourself if your instincts were given to you for a good reason.
I would think so.
WK
2007-10-25 02:22:03 · answer #2 · answered by olin1963 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your partner and enjoy the money. Pay off any debts, take a FABULOUS vacation, buy a couple of really selfish toys, and invest the rest.
EDIT althought 200K is a lot of money, it is not truly life changing - you can't retire off it or even buy a high end sports car. It is enough to help you start your own business, finance a great education, or just bump yourself ahead a few years finanically. Keep your feet on the ground.
2007-10-25 02:16:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I, personally, would not tell. I inherited a little money and I had more friends needing emergency funds than I knew what to do with. I would let your partner believe your finances are in great shape.Take her on a vacation. If you are not married, buy what you want. Be sure to invest for later.
2007-10-25 02:36:56 · answer #4 · answered by Harley Lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think olin1963 has made some very good points.
I know you say you can't tink of a reson but there must be! Is it uncertainty, power, feeling overwhelmed, mistrust, not feeling you deserve it, thinking your wife will take over, not knowing what to do with the money etc
I think I would be understanding in your wife's position but then only you know your wife. If she is going to be mad at you for not telling her sooner, and not very understanding, then perhaps you are better holding on to it for abit longer until you know what you want to do with it that will make YOU happy.
Good luck!
2007-10-25 02:36:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should tll ur partner, wont say anything to family, as 200,000 is not a lot but it is in a certain way. Y havent u told her. Take her out for a lovely weekend somewhere really posh and spoil her then tell her then he next day u could go shoppoing
2007-10-25 03:42:13 · answer #6 · answered by HELEND 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would keep it to myself.
You will notice a big change in the way people treat you and it's not for the better in most cases.
Tell your partner and keep it at that unless you want to be flash. It's nothing to do with anyone else. Enjoy it.
2007-10-25 02:25:12 · answer #7 · answered by Spike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u still have a lot of the winnings left, then just tell them u just recenlty won it or if u don't want 2 do that, u could give it to us, we work for a company who don't pay us enough!!!
2007-10-25 02:19:04 · answer #8 · answered by marm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out and enjoy your self, it's your money only yours to enjoy if you want to share it it's up to you to do so. Once you tell someone the word is out and you will be surprised how many so called friends you have.
2007-10-25 02:21:22 · answer #9 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her out to dinner and surprise her. Money is money. It doesn't matter how long you've had it. Just say you've had a hard time figuring out how to tell everyone because with more money comes more problems.
2007-10-25 02:17:02 · answer #10 · answered by Don 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋