If you read any of my other questions-I have issues with my fiances other kids mom! She is unstable & bitter. How can I once & for all let her know she is not a threat to me, I could care less about her and I want her to leave me alone & grow up?! My fiance does not want her, he has told her this numerous times & explained its about the kids-not her! When will she relaize this or hwo can I help her realize this for real? She seems like she just doesnt get it at all? Its so crazy!
2007-10-25 02:07:36 · 11 answers · asked by Yellowtulips 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
IGNORE her!! Be the bigger person and ignore her let ur hubby (fiance) deal w/ his ex! She wants u to join in on her childish games don't stoop to her level!!
2007-10-25 02:10:27 · answer #1 · answered by NONAME 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
The more you respond to her, the crazier she'll get. You can ignore her. She calls, you hang up, she comes over, you call the police. Your fiance has rights to see his children. Make a court appointment and if she doesn't go along with the court related plan. Throw her butt in the slammer. Don't let her know she gets to you. Any reaction is feeding her frenzy. Just look at her, like your bored with the whole thing.
2007-10-25 09:14:04 · answer #2 · answered by mowsermae 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most likely you will not be able to say or do anything to help her understand. The best thing you can do is simply do not engage. If she lashes out or acts out, leave it alone. When she does these things and either of you go to battle with her she may not be getting everything she wants but she is getting something from it. By not engaging in battle you will take her thunder and in time she will hopefully realize it is pointless to try. During this time she will also hopefully find another avenue to direct her insanity at. Best of luck and God bless.
2007-10-25 09:27:20 · answer #3 · answered by joe 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yer making a drama where no drama is needed. If you are done with her, then be done with her. Drop it. Get on with your life and don't give her the satifaction of even talking about it.
2007-10-29 08:48:10 · answer #4 · answered by oneblondepilgrim 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kill her with kindness. sounds stupid but if you invite her to birthday parties or bbq's(wich she wont come), then she will be the only one with drama, if you go along with her arguments and bickering, then your being dramatic as well. you want her to grow up, so you be the first to be the bigger person. everyone, even she will eventually realize that she is being a child.
2007-10-25 09:19:36 · answer #5 · answered by jeremy h 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's up to your man to deal with this woman. If she causing you stress, it's up to him to stop the drama. If you want to help the situation, stay out of it; and make sure you're not the one who "doesn't get it."
2007-10-25 09:40:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You sound threatened...or else you could ignore her.
It takes two to dramatize, sweetie.
*looks at you
2007-10-25 09:12:23 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh ignore her, shes crazy to think that... don't let her get to you or maybe she want you to think & fight with your bf over this so that way she could have a chance of broking you two
2007-10-25 09:14:15 · answer #8 · answered by maya 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ignore her, that well slow down a lot of her drama.
2007-10-25 09:22:07 · answer #9 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
stay constant in not letting her effect you....again the key word is constant! "What you repeat is who you are"
2007-10-25 09:33:46 · answer #10 · answered by football2002 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋