This girl takes a class with me in college.Im just 18 and still shy and nervous.I no how to talk to girls as friends,class mates,or parthners at work but im not good at talking to girls i like or love.We smile at each other we talk together like hi how are you what other clases are we taking and what assignment we are doing.Its just friendily not romantic.We had a converssation and i looked like an idiot.I told her you are tall then she said ya i have broad sholders and she does sports then i told her you are big[that makes a women feel bad]then she said huh im big then i said not big as in fat but big frame then i told her Ana Nicole is big he said i look like her i sauid no big like her.She did not feel bad she laughed at me and kept laughing and gigiling.She sais she thiks im funny.She smiles at me when no one sees her smile.She must be thinkingg what an idiot i am.I like her and might have a crush on her but dont love her and dont want to be in a commited relation with her.
2007-10-25 01:57:13 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I just want to go out with her and get to know her and go on a casual date.I like her more then a friend
2007-10-25 01:58:53 · update #1
What do i do the next time i see her?
2007-10-25 01:59:14 · update #2
Talk to her!! Even men who are HOT have troubles like this!! My fiancee is a very attractive man, so tell me why it took him three hours of small talk to ask me to a movie! Girls know when you're interested, so if you are nervous, we know it and think it's cute. I wouldn't suggest taking three hours, but start up a small conversation about a class, then mention a new movie that came out and ask her if she'd like to go see it sometime. Easy as pie! If you two don't like movies, try a "new restaurant" in the area instead. You're only 18 and you have a ton of living to do ahead of you, take it slow and have fun!! It's ok to have tons of friends...of both sexes so don't rush into the romantic aspect of dating right off the bat. Most importantly, HAVE FUN!!!
2007-10-25 02:05:01 · answer #1 · answered by Jessica B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's cool you want to express your feelings, but let me give you some good advice...don't ever put that type of stuff in writing.
Sure it's cute now and oh so thoughtful, but it could very well come back to bite you in the butt later.
So if you want to let her know you like her, still do the face to face approach and just be up front with her about it. Of course you'll want to find out if she's single or not though first, that way you don't spill your guts, then have her turn you down because she's taken already.
*Be brave. No notes. Face to Face.*
2007-10-25 02:00:37 · answer #2 · answered by Murphy's Law 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have had this same problem mate. What i did was one day when we were alone, i told her that i liked her a lot. What you have to do is wait for the right time when your alone. OR GET HER WASTED. only jokin bout the second part. just ask her out to her face when you two are alone. If she says no, you can always still be friends, and if not, then she wasn't the right one in the first place.
Hope i helped mate. =D
2007-10-25 02:03:23 · answer #3 · answered by randelizer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, for heaven's sake. You ask her if she'd like to go out for a pizza or a cup of coffee or for a movie. She will say either yes or no. If you're too shy to do it in person, call her and do it on the phone.
And I'm hoping that the college class you share is in grammar and English?
2007-10-25 02:05:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
17 and have exactly the same problem as you do, but i tend to only get the courage to tell girls how i feel wen I've had a few drinks, which doesn't really help as they put it down to the drink, it seems that all you will have to do is to ask her out rather than wait as in my experience if you wait you'll just get caught in the friend zone, and trust that's not a fun place to be,and what's the worst that she can say no
2007-10-25 02:11:04 · answer #5 · answered by jim_weir.rocks 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that's really sweet. I would write her a little note, since maybe trying to ask her out you might get nervous and say something "weird".. Don't get too mushy, just ask her if she'd like to study together or meet somewhere for lunch/coffee etc.. My now husband has "nervous talk" when he likes someone so he wrote me a note to ask me out like 15 yrs. ago.. .I still have the note in my "keepsake" box and we've been married for 4 yrs. ! Keep it simple/light. Good luck
2007-10-25 02:02:29 · answer #6 · answered by pebblespro 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time you see her just go up to her and casually ask her if she would like to grab some lunch or dinner sometime. If she says yes then ask for her number. If she says no, try not to feel bad....you at least had the courage to ask her out.
2007-10-25 02:02:05 · answer #7 · answered by ~irish~moon~star~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is so easy.
Wait for an opportunity when she isn't surrounded by friends and ask her if she fancies getting a cup of coffee or going for a drink sometime.
If she says "Yes" - result. If she says "No", just say "Ok, no problem, I hope you didn't mind me asking". You're not doing anything illegal or pushy, you're just asking a question.
2007-10-25 02:01:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she's not quite ready to date you yet. Maybe you should just get to know her a bit better, then ask her out. But whatever you do, DO NOT ask her out in front of anyone else. That way, if she rejects you or you say something awkward, it's not quite as embarrasing.
Good luck!
2007-10-25 02:03:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well just talk to her and tell her how you feel about her. And if she likes you back -- hey hit it off and ask for a date. And if she just likes you as a friend-- take it and be friends with her.
2007-10-25 02:03:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋