My husband seems to be a dirty old man, i suppose him liking benny hill, the sun and strip clubs should have given it away. The thing i do hate however is that he has to make eye contact with evey attractive woman we pass in the street. I dont expect him to walk about with his eye shut but he stares at them and it hurts me.
If it was just normal looking it would involve men and older women too wouldnt it. At first i thought it was me but have watched other men, most of them dont do this.
What is the best way to deal ? should i become a dirty old woman ?
2007-10-25 01:41:58 · 25 answers · asked by cottontail 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've never been married but went out with an older man for a while and he seemed to have to look at every woman that moved, I've never considered myself a bad catch but it made me feel awful when he did this so I had to pull him up on it, he used to say he wasn't aware (yeah right!) the way I'd do it is play him at his own game, try and turn a blind eye to what he is doing but make him aware when you're staring at other men.
What's good for the goose eh?
2007-10-25 01:48:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Hey there are some guys that age without kids....just saying Attractiveness does have it's place here, take any young guy and most will age like milk. An older guy at least you know how he has aged. And if the guy can snag a much younger woman he has to be relatively healthy to do so. Plus they are from the generation of men, the last sad to say, kids these days are too busy trying to pursue becoming the next rapper/ sports player/ something else that requires no brains or skill. And before anyone says "but you have to have skill to play sports" there's so many rules to protect the players from getting injured it's just a bunch of tards running around in circles. Lifestyle...well I'm going to determine how well I live by getting a good paying job.
2016-04-10 04:15:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is this brand new behavior?
If so, there is cause for alarm. If not, and you married and accepted this, then you have no right to complain.
You can't marry someone and then expect them to change their personality. You can tell him it bothers you, but if you think he's just having a good time and it doesn't threaten your marriage, then there is no reason to be insecure.
Maybe have fun and do some flirty looking with guys? You do it when he's not there don't you? If he reacts badly then ask him why it's a problem. Don't do it out of revenge - do it for a fun flirty, stress-free marriage.
2007-10-25 01:48:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's getting old and he has doubts about his attractiveness to women, so he is constantly testing the water in order to reassure his faultering ego that he still has what it takes to attract a woman.
Get him a hobby, like building models or painting or something, that'll get his mind off it.
If that fails do like the other person said, hit him on the head then leave him....
2007-10-25 02:44:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My lady i have this to say..He hid it well from you lets face we all look not just males females do this two this is only human.But going to the strip joints, outch..You know what i think of these places? Thay are verry demeaning to woman and these woman doing this are just low lifes "to put it in a nice way" But my lady short of that,well it's a two way street..
2007-10-25 09:03:44 · answer #5 · answered by gvosch 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I understand completely what your talking about and it is very hurtful I could imagine. There is a married guy who did that to me until he finally got my attention and didn't know what to do once he did. Cuz he was married. When I found out he was married I was very surprised and knew he was only looking for attention from someone other that his wife. I felt sorry for his wife, cuz no telling who else he was eyeing up. I would try talking to your husband if you haven't already and tell him that isn't right and it hurts you, and if that don't work then you know what pay backs are.
2007-10-25 01:51:22 · answer #6 · answered by Maria 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The best way to deal is to stop being an old frumpy and make his life so exciting that he won't want to look at anyone else in the way he has been. Of course he will still look, just as you sometimes look at attractive men. If you don't, then that is probably another part of the problem. It's something wrong with you and not him.
2007-10-25 01:49:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
Stop being so up tight,many men stare at other women,they just do it in a very crafty way, THEY JUST DON'T GET CAUGHT.HE IS A NORMAL HEALTHY MAN.
Remember the old adage a dog can run after a car but he carn't always chatch it.
2007-10-25 02:18:42 · answer #8 · answered by irene c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you shouldn't lower yourself to his level by becoming just like him. He has a problem and obviously, he doesn't care much about your feelings, does he? If you can't get him to come up to your level and be sensitive and respectful of your feelings then you should consider finding someone who will. Living the rest of your life like this isn't healthy.
2007-10-25 02:29:09 · answer #9 · answered by Sondra 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can you talk to him about it? You shouldnt have to change to be liked. And guys always look at other girls, they cant help it apparently :P but he should still be giving you attention.
The way id do it is basically do what he does for a while, Look at other guys and smile at them sometimes, let him know what it feels like to be left out. =] Good luck
2007-10-25 01:48:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋