My bf broke up with me about a month ago (fyi: we broke up a few times before over a 2 yr relationship). While back in the relationship, he fuzzed at me a lot when I said something wrong, which made me scared of him sometimes. Recently, he wants me back. He said he’ll change his attitude towards me so he bought some books about patience so that he can improve himself for me. Other than his bad attitude towards me, he’s a great guy. However, when he calls me these days, I feel like returning his calls is just my responsibility, but nothing else. When I called him back and he didn’t pick up, I didn’t even worry whether or not he would call back. But at the same time, I don’t want see him giving up himself when he doesn’t get me. One side of me is thinking “oh he’s great guy who is willing to change for me, so I better be back with him”. But on the other side, I am like having the fear to be back with him b/c of all the fuzzing from him previously. do i still love him?
2007-10-25 02:08:41 · 9 answers · asked by AngelaM 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and we are living 5 hrs apart. also, i know i would be jealous if i see him with another girl...but i feel like it's annoying if he keeps calling me these days.
2007-10-25 02:09:26 · update #1
The person you broke up with would still be the person you were getting back with. The books is just a ploy he is using to try to let you see a different person, and he will be understanding and patient until he gets you back and then he will go back to the person you broke up with. You need to close that chapter of your life and move on...
2007-10-25 02:20:52 · answer #1 · answered by djester25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you have answered your own question, If you answer him only because you feel responsible and you don't care if he picks up when you call that pretty much tells you that you are not in love with him. And any time you feel fear in a relationship that should tell you that you need to get out. And also people cannot change for someone else, They have to recognize their problems and change for themselves.
2007-10-25 02:18:05 · answer #2 · answered by Rhonda D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop obsessing about him and get on with your own life! He should be willing to change for HIMSELF, not just you.
You don't love him. You do, however, have co-dependency issues, by the sound of it. It might be an idea to talk to a therapist or other professional to see why this is the case.
2007-10-25 02:17:08 · answer #3 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should let him go. He may be cheating on you. I think that if he was violent, even if he just yells at you, it is still abuse. Most people suffer most from mental abuse. He should not be doing that. Tell him that it is over while you can. I dont understand why someone says that they will change, if he would have never acted that way, he would need to change. Think about what is best for you.
2007-10-25 02:18:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. Breaking up is hard to do...you're both having a hard time with it, but it appears as if you are tired of him, and for good reason....he did not treat you right when it came down to brass tacks...verbal abuse can get worse.
2007-10-25 02:14:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the relationship is pretty much over, it's time to move on...
2007-10-25 02:20:01 · answer #6 · answered by Jasmina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not a good ideal to change someone. It is not likely to be permanent. It is hard to do but you should tell him to move on.
2007-10-25 02:14:45 · answer #7 · answered by tomisohere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a reason why you two broke up, leave it at that or you'll be hurting yourself in the future.
2007-10-25 02:11:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run and don't look back!
2007-10-25 02:14:27 · answer #9 · answered by felix8462 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋