Wife wants a threesome with another woman. More specifically, a twosome with another woman and I can watch.?

Question

Fair? Remember, I won't even be able to touch her or this other woman. Just watch.

I think she's testing me. We've talked about it before but I think she's thinking, will he allow it under these rules? As if she wants to control things, which I completely understand.

Plus, I know who she is thinking of doing it with and this woman is very, very hot.

Answer 1

Maybe not really fair...but!!....you get to watch and get off and do your wife after maybe?
Good luck with that honey.

Answer 2

To each his own, but the question is how do you feel about that? Do you feel like you should be apart of the process? if so tell her and stand by it. I mean why does she get to experience something new(?) all by herself. But if you don't mind it, than thats something different! But it depends on how YOU feel? but either way your entitled to your feelings and together you guys should make a compromise. SO the moral is fair is different to different people. The only person that can answer that question is you! I mean maybe you don't mind watching, you like to join but either way your siked! Or maybe you really want to join! Ok tell her so and suggest she find someone that is welling to let you be a willing participant! But make sure you get both needs met! not just hers or vice versa! If she says no ask her how she would feel if you brough a woman home for a 3 some but only you could touch her? she'd just have to watch? not really as much as the same fun huh?!
Good luck!

Answer 3

That is completely up to you. No one on here can tell you yes or no on this subject. The only thing that I will do is to caution you whether or not you have both thought this through. After it is over, what happens? Is she going to be allowed to do this on her own without you present? Are you going to be able to handle watching her with another woman? Have you both completely talked this over, examining every possible ramification no matter how remote it is? I know me, and if I was in your situation I would allow it, and be part of it, but that is just me. I know what I can and cannot handle, but the question is do you? Good luck and happy trails.

Answer 4

In this day and age this isn't at all unusual. If you are ok with and you and her have a solid relationship then go fo it. I've been there and can say honestly that it can lead to some of the best sex you ever had afterwards. The women I have been around will tell you that no matter how good it was with another woman that there is nothing that can take the place of a penis.

Answer 5

Fair is whatever you and your wife decide is fair, not what other people think is fair for you. There is no "one way" to have a threesome or moresome and how my wife and I do it may not work for you and your wife and visa-versa. The rules and boundaries are as individual as the people involved. Lay-out your rules and boundaries beforehand, stick to them, and you'll have a great time and probably more to come.

Answer 6

I had something like this once and it was fun even through I couldn't do the other woman. That said, I did this before I was married with a girl I was into simply for sex. Having any sort of three sum with your wife or someone you care about is very dangerous to your relationship. In many cases, it causes divorce or break up.

Careful what you wish for....

Answer 7

that's only soemthing for you to decide.

i can understand where she's coming from...she is curious about a relationship with a woman, but isn't sure how to approach it with you. she doesn't think she's a lesbian b/c she loves you, but still has this major curiosity.

if i were you, i'd just let her do it and see what happens. tell her that you have to have the power to stop it at anytime if it makes you uncomfortable.

just really lay out some ground rules and think of all possiblities.

my best friend's neighbor--they are married, but she has a girlfriend. so, if he's ever away on business or whatever her girlfriend comes for a visit and they ahve dates and whatnot. he is well aware of her girlfriend, but has nothing to do with their relationship.

kinda odd to me, but it takes all kinds to make the world go aroud.

Answer 8

Seems verrry inviting on the face of it, but could lead to serious complications later. I mean it 'could', because she may start enjoying it more that being with you....what are you gonna do then?

This could lead to serious withdrawal of each of you in this relationship.

A key factor in this matter is the 3rd woman she wants to invite in. Understand her background and personality. Is she a cool, mature and undestanding lady who would put your marriage before these amorous acts? or will she be the prodigal 'house-breaker'?

Tread very cautiously mate.

Answer 9

It's your life and you and your wife have the freedom to do what you want, within boundaries. If you exceed those boundaries, there will be consequences. If you have a common desire for this, before you actually do anything, you really need to talk about what the consequences might be and how you would work through them.

Answer 10

You're not doing it for her, huh? I'm sure you'll enjoy it, but as I have heard time and time again, guys watch and then end up jealous because she's more into the girl than you. You're choice, but most people who do these things end up regreting it. Why do people need to find satisfaction with another partner, agreed to or not?

Answer 11

But you will be able to touch yourself right? This is a reminder of the "FRIENDS" episode in which Ross found out his wife didn't want him anymore. Just make sure it is something that the both of you want. If she doesn't want you involved and you want to be involved then you shouldn't do it.