Family & Relationships - 25 October 2007

My boyfriend and I moved across the country 4 months ago for his job. Last week, he attacked me (for the first time) and was arrested for domestic assault. I immediately moved everything out of our house, have not been contacted by him, and will not be going back to "fix" our relationship.

I have a great job here, but we live in a small town and I don't have any real friends here yet. I have been avoiding going out and have trouble sleeping because I am worried he will find me and try to hurt me again. There is a possibility he will lose his job if he is found guilty in court, which could make him even angrier.

My family and close friends are afraid for my safety and are begging me to leave town My commitment to my boss/career is the only thing keeping me here. I feel very overwhelmed and alone. I need an objective perspective--is it too extreme to quit my job and move away after only a few months to feel "safe" and be closer to loved ones?

2007-10-25 06:29:16 · 8 answers · asked by svk303 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

if your ex wanted you back (which i hear happens a lot) did it make you want them if they were all crying, begging you to come back and so forth or did it make you want them more if they really showed you absolutely no attention at all and totally went on with their life not even contacting you. Now i know a lot of people could care less so this is a question for the folks that separated and ended up getting back together really.

2007-10-25 06:28:57 · 12 answers · asked by survivor 1 in Marriage & Divorce

i really have no idea! men are so hard to buy for, esp. grandad as he doesnt really want or need anything!!

2007-10-25 06:28:28 · 26 answers · asked by Proudnewmummy! 3 in Family

I am 46 years old and have never had sex. What should i do? Do you really lose it if you don't use it. I've been married for about 20 years now and I just haven't found the time...

2007-10-25 06:28:18 · 55 answers · asked by Sarah 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-10-25 06:27:42 · 18 answers · asked by pepsi 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I don't think we should unless the law that protects a female's body will also protects a males body. I think it should be both or neither.

2007-10-25 06:26:25 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

so here the thing. Im going to this club on friday and im going with my ex. I still love him. Not sure how he feels about me. He did threaten to come get from my new guys house (we are not boyfriend girlfriend) because I was not home when he showed up there. He left an angry message on his cell telling me I better get home. That was the next morning. Now here is my question. I like this new guy but I have not heard from him since last friday when he got out of jail. He said I could stay there after I got done with the club. But since I have not heard from him Im not sure whats goin on. I want to know who should I go home with at the end of the night. I love my ex and I like that other guy. What should I do?

2007-10-25 06:24:57 · 15 answers · asked by angel_une 1 in Singles & Dating

...my husband and I have 3 children and by the end of the day, we're so over it all, we really have nothing to talk about...and frankly, we're clueless. I need some really good ideas! I am SO BORED with my life! We love each other - but we're like, bored.

2007-10-25 06:24:04 · 11 answers · asked by Stephunny 3 in Marriage & Divorce

Just asking! No offense. Are some married women attracted to other women in some kind of way during their marriage? I hear a lot of this online and on TV. How true or false is this?

2007-10-25 06:23:53 · 25 answers · asked by 504hotboy 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I have an evening wedding to go to in a week and I don't know if the dress I'm going to wear will be appropriate. It's a dark teal gown with spaghetti straps. Is it okay as a guest to wear a gown/floor length dress or is that reserved just for bridesmaids? My fiancee is one of the groomsmen and the bridesmaids are wearing silver. The wedding and reception will be held at a very elegant estate so I know it's formal but I don't want to be the odd one out if it turns out I'm overdoing it.

Photo of the dress:
http://img98.imageshack.us/my.php?image=dressts1.jpg

2007-10-25 06:23:38 · 22 answers · asked by Marceline 1 in Weddings

Okay the LAST court order says exactly this!

petitioner shall have the following visitation

1. Any day the children are at the first baptist child development center, from 2-5 p.m. with 24 hour advance notice

2. If and when the Respondend finds an appropriate third party to supervise visitation, father will have supervised visitation every other weekend on Saturdays between 9am and 5pm

Further it is ordered that he complete 52 hour anger management, register for the next class. Continue counseling, and at cope, and stay on his medication


"which he has not proven yet to the court or myself that he has done anything"

The kid's are no longer at the daycare due to my schedule changing. Son is also in school till 2:30

SO..I sent him this proposal..

In order to keep your supervised visitations i am proposing this due to a work schedule change and school starting. Mc donalds from 3-5 (due to those 2 things) I or someone I have picked will supervise you.
He signed and dated.

2007-10-25 06:23:32 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

How do I get her to shut the hell up or at the least, how do I hide it from her?

2007-10-25 06:23:19 · 14 answers · asked by Wookie Love 2 in Singles & Dating

I have a gay friend and quite obviously he is only interested in me as a friend. So why then does my boyfriend get so jealous of him? It drives me mad-its the same argument everytime.

2007-10-25 06:21:48 · 27 answers · asked by Tabbi 2 in Singles & Dating

Any good advice on how to put this behind me, or just some short encouragement?

2007-10-25 06:21:12 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-25 06:20:11 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I got married last year and since I came back from India everything started to change than than when my husband got here things were as I thought it would be but still I was trying to our marriage out but from past three weeks thing are just getting worse and worse..He has been fighting with me and also lying that he is at work but his always out partying with his cousins and thier girlfriends and then just yesterday he calls me and said that he wants a divorce so he get his freedom and also he is not ready for the resposibility yet becuz he wants to enjoy his life in USA....and maybe after 2 or 3 yrs he might think about our marriage n all..Just to all the people who r going to give their advise he hasn't stayed with me from the day he has arrived in America...Pliz help me figure out what can I do..

2007-10-25 06:19:14 · 27 answers · asked by kajal c 4 in Marriage & Divorce

This guy I have REALLY liked for a long time, he has never had a girlfriend or kissed a girl before. I know this is cheap, one night we flirted while we were drunk. He was only a little bit, I was alot more. My pals there knew I still liked him so they encouraged us and kept trying to make us touch each other, he kept subtlely trying to touch me and even asked me if I thought he was attractive. He held doors open for me and such. He left me 2 voicemails later one saying "I hope you got back to your room ok Ill see you or IM you" and he did he imed me the next morning and he kept asking me questions about how I was and my hangover and stuff. He also wrote on my Facebook wall. Hes never done any of these things before, I thought they were good signs, I was told a guy would never say those things if he didnt like you. The day after at practice he joined the crowd

2007-10-25 06:19:09 · 6 answers · asked by Georgia G 1 in Singles & Dating

Well, it was actually a couple of years ago. I had asked her out online, and a couple days later she sent someone to tell me no. Looking back I can see why she said no (I definitely wasn't the "coolest" guy), but now I don't know where I stand. She's nice to me wherever, or whenever we work together in class and stuff, we laugh a bit, but we don't really talk the way friends should, in or out of class. And now I'm beginning to feel like she could be interested in me, but I really don't know. I've thought over it a lot but I need some outside opinions. please answer

2007-10-25 06:18:58 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I wanna be a milkman!

2007-10-25 06:14:37 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Only using common household items....
I've done the posted notes with little clues, but want something different this time.
Please don't tell me to clean, or make dinner, or something like that. I need something that she'll talk about not for that day, but hopefully for the rest of the week!

2007-10-25 06:14:21 · 21 answers · asked by BoxcutterBenny2086 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Some good places to makeout at Disney World.... Be specific like what rides and where to sit maby even the parks if u can tell me it would be greatly appreciated :D

BTW- Dont give me stupid answers you'll be doing it someday to.

I DONT WANNA HEAR YOUR OPINION ON WEATHER OR NOT U THINK IM IMMATURE OR SLUTTY OR WHATEVER!

2007-10-25 06:11:05 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I just love to have sex it make me feel so good is that so bad.

2007-10-25 06:10:22 · 13 answers · asked by piearah 1 in Singles & Dating

I play the guitar, but when ever I play it, my fingers start to hurt. It is really my true passion. I also play piano, so I don't want my fingers to stop letting me play piano, too. HELP!!!

2007-10-25 06:08:12 · 6 answers · asked by Tiff-Tiff 2 in Friends

because he isnt his usual self and we keep arguing.... i dont know if i can really be bothered anymore to be honest... but it would probably hurt him a lot if i broke up with him, and its not like he has doen anything wrong in particular... we just argue a lot and he is getting very protective and insecure..... i don' t think this makes any sense but i am very confused!

2007-10-25 06:07:57 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I just popped over to one of my fave craft stores and found it is closing and print-your-owns were 50% off. It just so happened there was a design I liked and enough quantity for me so I bought them up. I figure if the other half hates them I can pop 'em on eBay and recover what I paid.
But I was wondering if anyone has used them and what your experience had been?

2007-10-25 06:05:30 · 18 answers · asked by nova_queen_28 7 in Weddings

the engagements off, he told me to keep the ring that it was mine. well i told him i had to pawn it the other day cuz i had no money for the things i need in my home or gas or food etc. well hes mad now. he says i should have had enough money to do what i needed to do from my job. he shouldnt be counting my money. i dont waste money so i mad for him telling me what i should have. besides its my ring so why is he upset. he is so stingy with money i couldnt go to him and ask for any. so what would you do? i am sick and tired of him anyway thats why the engagement is off. i hope i dont see him anymore. he says he still owe on this ring. i cant help it if i need things. i have a daughter so i refuse to do without in my home. what would you do? im sick of being with him. should i get the ring out of pawn and give it to him or get it out and keep it. or dont get it out and say whatever to it. he gave it to me and said its my ring for me to keep it.

2007-10-25 06:03:48 · 18 answers · asked by eaglestraces123 4 in Singles & Dating

Ok. when you ask a man a question that you know the answer to. Why do they get all excited and upity and then lie to you? they know you know the answer, but still lie. Is it their way of believing their lies?

2007-10-25 06:03:15 · 20 answers · asked by knowwhatyoumean 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Ok, I had been married once and now I am divorced. I had been dating this man who I really love for almost three months. He left his wife and moved back to his mom's house and I helped him babysit two nehpews. We all the suddenly became friends and then several weeks later we were ending up dating and gotten serious. He had filled me up with dreams, hopes, even he wanted to have family with me... Then two weeks ago, he told me that he loved me and that he need to go clear his head and that he would be back... Guess what, he never came back... I got the phone call from his wife saying that he went back with her. I was so heartbreaking for the second time around. Like I have died again.
He knew what hurt me the most was there was no ending at all so I can accept that he was gone.. I couldn't accepet it until i know for fact it was over. but I am moving on.. but it is killing me inside to feel that I am unworthy and feel like being used.
How you deal with this?

Thanks
Ami

2007-10-25 06:02:08 · 10 answers · asked by Deaf Cowgirl 27 2 in Marriage & Divorce

so i have known this person since oct 5th, we had sexual encounters and he use to call me everyday just to see how i was doing. Well last friday i stayed at his house until 4 am i had to be at work at 9, so i left he said to me while i was getting in the car to call him to make sure i got home safely, i said i will be ok go get some sleep. Well since that day i havent heard from him since, i called him yesterday to see what was up and why he hasnt called me, i said i didnt think friends did that to one another and he just started laughing and said he would call me later and we can talk, but last night no call no nothing. I am going to assume he has a lady friend and i am ok with that i dont want to come between them to, but how can he go from everyday calling me to not even caring to talk to me. Shall i try and call him again or leave the ball is his court, and what is the reason for ignoring me? And btw hes over 25 lol

2007-10-25 05:59:57 · 8 answers · asked by ? 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-10-25 05:59:21 · 13 answers · asked by boxie2005 1 in Singles & Dating