if your ex wanted you back (which i hear happens a lot) did it make you want them if they were all crying, begging you to come back and so forth or did it make you want them more if they really showed you absolutely no attention at all and totally went on with their life not even contacting you. Now i know a lot of people could care less so this is a question for the folks that separated and ended up getting back together really.
2007-10-25 06:28:57 · 12 answers · asked by survivor 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Nope. He cried and begged, but I knew it was just his way of trying to manipulate me into taking him back...and then he would just go back to being uncaring and insensitive once I was back with him. Men don't change. They know how to put on a good act and tell you what you want to hear. It is their way of maintaining control.
2007-10-25 06:32:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When someone leaves you and you were not the initiator, certain chemicals in your brain cause you to fight back and even fall in love again the way you did the first time around. It's a normal reaction, so some people can't help it. But when you start trying to calculate the best method of manipulating someone into getting back together with you, you are saying by your actions that you have not changed at all. I think for people who want to get back together, the one who was left really has to change in some fundamental way or the initiator will not be happy in the long run. This happened with my friends. The husband had a drinking problem and after they separated he cleaned up his act and they got back together and are happy.
2007-10-25 13:53:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happened to me, and yes we got back together, but it was a waste of time for the both of use. I look at it this way. Obviously you got separated for a reason and it will more than likely remain there and wont change for the better so you should just stay away. However sometimes the separation may have well been a true genuine mistake and the two of you will get back together and be happy, very unlikely though. Yes being ignored does sometimes make the other person want them more. Sad but true.
2007-10-25 13:34:50 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 7years of being divorced ,almost getting remarried he thought he was the perfect man and the crying did help my decision to go back to him, I actually bought it. What a BIG mistake, did it ever blow up in my face. I am now 15 hours away from him have been gone for 5 months and I refuse to talk to him because he will do what ever necessary to get what he wants. My own personal view is if you got it wrong with someone the first time the second time will be worse.
2007-10-28 16:11:15 · answer #4 · answered by creequealley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My feelings are that she can kicks rocks for all I care. I will NEVER go back to her! She put me and our children through too much to get back with her high school sweetheart who ended up being abusive towards her. She is presently trying the spiritual approach now. Been there, done that. That is the M.O. she used in the past when she was caught cheating. I made it clear to her that I don't believe a word she has to say and she is wasting her time trying to get back together with me
2007-10-25 17:17:55 · answer #5 · answered by Dee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. I found it repulsive to see a grown man crying and begging, after all the super mean things he had done. I guess since he usually acted all "macho" on me, seeing him like this was just enough for me to slam the door on is face. I probably would have given it -at least- some thought if he had acted with self respect, dignity and maturity.
2007-10-25 13:41:04 · answer #6 · answered by MiaMonique 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well when my 1st husband and I split he cried and begged to come back as we have a son together and I fell for it a few times ( my mistake ) the last time was the last though as it was on 2-22 and he cried and begged and whined like a little girl but I stuck to my guns as I wanted a better life for my son now I'm engaged again to a wonderful man whom my son loves
2007-10-25 13:54:12 · answer #7 · answered by oh_jo123 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If either of my exes wanted me back, they didn't show it...nor did I try to get back with them. For me, when something is over it's over and I don't play the break-up/get-back-together game.
Begging and crying isn't appealing to me either nor do I find it something I'm compelled to do to get what I want (even though I've been known to cry when frustrated, the goal isn't to manipulate). If someone doesn't want me, then I don't want to be with them. If I don't want them then them begging me to take them back would just repulse me.
2007-10-25 13:33:25 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No Way....at least for my second husband. I like to think that I learn from my mistakes. And believe me that marriage was nothing but a mistake. Nothing good came from it at all. It really was a waste of years and if I had known then what I know now. Now if my first husband came to me and said he still loved me, I'd suggest that we could try dating.
2007-10-25 13:38:58 · answer #9 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haze, no not with my frist ex-husband of mine. He ruined me big time... He lied to everyone about me and everything... no way.. ain't gonna take him back... I know some people do take eachother back after divorce.. for expmale, my parents and some of my friends...
2007-10-25 13:33:34 · answer #10 · answered by Deaf Cowgirl 27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋