My boyfriend and I moved across the country 4 months ago for his job. Last week, he attacked me (for the first time) and was arrested for domestic assault. I immediately moved everything out of our house, have not been contacted by him, and will not be going back to "fix" our relationship.
I have a great job here, but we live in a small town and I don't have any real friends here yet. I have been avoiding going out and have trouble sleeping because I am worried he will find me and try to hurt me again. There is a possibility he will lose his job if he is found guilty in court, which could make him even angrier.
My family and close friends are afraid for my safety and are begging me to leave town My commitment to my boss/career is the only thing keeping me here. I feel very overwhelmed and alone. I need an objective perspective--is it too extreme to quit my job and move away after only a few months to feel "safe" and be closer to loved ones?
2007-10-25 06:29:16 · 8 answers · asked by svk303 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You sound like you have not had time to really settle down and enjoy friendships in that Town, so in my opinion i would explain to your boss that you are leaving for personal reasons and move closer to family and friends.You only have one life to enjoy, so enjoy it without the daily stress of looking over your shoulder.
2007-10-25 07:00:37 · answer #1 · answered by 121aloraphotos 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should leave and if your boss doesn't understand, that isn't that good of a place to work for anyhow. You should talk to the prosecuting attorney to see if you have to be there for the court date in order for him to be found guilty. He may have wanted to move there to get you away from your support group, friends and family, and regardless of how this turns out, watch to make sure that he doesn't also return to where you were before you moved across the country and where I assume you will return to. If he is in jail, you may want to wait until after the trial so that you can see for sure that he is convicted and that will give you grounds for a restraining order to keep him away from you once you are back with friends and family. If he does lose his job there, he may return because there will be nothing to hold him there and perhaps more reason for him to go after you. Also, if you are there for the trial you will have some idea of how long he is going to be in jail and know when the start worrying about him showing up on your doorstep once you do return home.
If he is out on bail, talk to the prosecutor to find out if you need to be there for the trial, get a restraining order against him until then, and stay safe!!
2007-10-25 07:06:51 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was me, I would move. Maybe talk to your boss about a transfer. I think if you stay there with no one really close to you around you all the time, it might make you lonely and depressed. Plus, its not cool to live in fear like that.
2007-10-25 06:36:16 · answer #3 · answered by Amanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. properly first this might take a week or 2.... yet make some plans to flow away, and save up money for gas, then make a plan to sneak out and hire a automobile in case you have no longer have been given one. in basic terms save on working to a guy or woman you be conscious of is risk-free. conceal and alter your form so if he looks for you, you heavily isn't recongnized. the important 5 issues you may desire to do is save money for gas, some snacks or nutrition for the line, get on your homeland, flow to a secure place, additionally record for divorce or stay with your loved ones. the component im scared for you is he gets the thank you to define you. consequently you ought to stay in yet another state... yet in a secure place. i'm so sorry, if this does not paintings, there is no longer something yet to kill him...which.... i do no longer think of may be risk-free u wud flow to detention center.
2016-10-14 00:33:12 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if it is dangerous Yes moving out is the best option, But if u feel he may not be that dangerous don't quit
2007-10-25 06:34:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What good is a job to a dead person.
And if he causes problems at your job will your boss fire you? If he shows up and endangers the other employees then I would fire you .
2007-10-25 06:36:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need a support system in place and if you cant find that where you are currently living then yes you need to move.
2007-10-25 06:36:11 · answer #7 · answered by Jessica S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unless u want to be hurt more u should leave
2007-10-25 06:33:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋