the engagements off, he told me to keep the ring that it was mine. well i told him i had to pawn it the other day cuz i had no money for the things i need in my home or gas or food etc. well hes mad now. he says i should have had enough money to do what i needed to do from my job. he shouldnt be counting my money. i dont waste money so i mad for him telling me what i should have. besides its my ring so why is he upset. he is so stingy with money i couldnt go to him and ask for any. so what would you do? i am sick and tired of him anyway thats why the engagement is off. i hope i dont see him anymore. he says he still owe on this ring. i cant help it if i need things. i have a daughter so i refuse to do without in my home. what would you do? im sick of being with him. should i get the ring out of pawn and give it to him or get it out and keep it. or dont get it out and say whatever to it. he gave it to me and said its my ring for me to keep it.
2007-10-25 06:03:48 · 18 answers · asked by eaglestraces123 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i hope he didnt think i was going to think about marrying him again, if you knew this guy like i know him , you wouldnt marry him either. hes very controlling. when it comes to money and he lies all the time. can he take me to court even after he told me the ring is mine. he can have that ring back i told him to go get it out the pawn . if he wants it that bad. i have to wait till i get my taxes to get it out. should i speak to him again
2007-10-25 06:07:15 · update #1
He said it was your ring. So he has NO say in what you do with it. He may get mad and be pissed, but he will get over it. Maybe he is so upset cuz he was thinking that the two of you would work it out. If you really want him out of your life, ignore him and dont take calls from him...You have a daughter and she should come first. If you need things in your house, or bills need to be paid, then you should do anything and everything to make sure your daughter has everything she needs. Good luck!
2007-10-25 06:09:13 · answer #1 · answered by MayMay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him the pawn ticket. You used the ring for what you needed it for. It was no longer a symbol of your love, so it might as well benefit you financially. He wouldn't have known about the pawning if you hadn't told him, right? So, quit telling him things. When it's over, it's over. When it comes to burning bridges, pawning the ring sure is a great way to start. Give those flames some oxygen. You don't need a lying control freak around you or your daughter anyway. Good luck to you.
2007-10-25 06:14:21 · answer #2 · answered by Quenn 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding? If you need the money, and the ring was yours, you can do whatever you want with it. Sounds like he was the type of guy who would always tell you what you should or shouldnt be doing and blah blah blah without ever letting you decide and do your own thing. If you know you are done why reserve guilt? Tell him to f off and leave you alone, too bad about that ring for him, he should have been more sure in the first place.
2007-10-25 06:08:00 · answer #3 · answered by Christopher R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well all i know is that if you broke off the engagement you must return the ring to him, but if he broke it off then you get to keep the ring. then it's a different story then if he told you that you can keep it. once he gave the ring over to you, it's soley yours and you can do whatever you like with it. by letting him know that you are afraid of what he's thinking about you pawning the ring, he's still in control of you. you should tell him that you are the owner of the ring and that you can do what you want with it, even if he doesn't like it. you need to show not only him but yourself that you are completely over him and that he can no longer tell you what to do.
2007-10-25 06:14:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The rule is that if he gave you the ring on a gift-giving holiday (birthday, Christmas), then yes, it is yours to do whatever with. If he gave it to you on a normal day, then you are not supposed to do something like that with it, even if he wants you to keep it. He's supposed to keep it anyway.
But the bottom line is that the ring is gone, there's nothing anyone can do about it.. plus the engagement's off, so oh well.
2007-10-25 06:08:40 · answer #5 · answered by prestigieuxlavie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I accept as true with Calypso - Why ought to one guy or woman get the jewellery in basic terms simply by fact they had the coolest fortune of being born first. i might the two do some thing like the melting down theory (which appears like a competent theory, yet never relatively looks that good) or chop up the set up some how (perhaps including a stone to the band to cause them to greater equivalent), so as that each physique of them gets some thing. P.S. in basic terms when you consider which you desire to furnish them the rings, does no longer recommend that they unavoidably want them, or that they won't flow forward and pawn them besides. in basic terms some thing to think of roughly.
2016-10-14 00:28:22 · answer #6 · answered by lumley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can totally take you to court for the ring. It's a conditional gift based on getting married..if you didn't get married-then well....it's his. I'd be cheaper just to get it out of pawn and give it back because if he sues you for it you may have to pay him the whole amount of the ring.
2007-10-25 06:14:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the engagement is off and you can't stand him isn't the relationship OVER? In that case, if he told you to keep the ring then it is none of his bussiness what you do with it. Why are you still talking to him anyway?
2007-10-25 06:08:55 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Infatuation 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he is upset because he still cares for you, and wanted you to keep the ring because he thought you both would get back together. He isn't upset about the money, he is upset that you sold the ring, that sorta symbolized your future.
2007-10-25 06:08:04 · answer #9 · answered by bluechick 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fact of life is that it's none of his business what you do with YOUR ring. When people change their minds about getting married the woman always keeps the ring and can do with it whatever the hell she wants.
2007-10-25 06:16:41 · answer #10 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋