I got married last year and since I came back from India everything started to change than than when my husband got here things were as I thought it would be but still I was trying to our marriage out but from past three weeks thing are just getting worse and worse..He has been fighting with me and also lying that he is at work but his always out partying with his cousins and thier girlfriends and then just yesterday he calls me and said that he wants a divorce so he get his freedom and also he is not ready for the resposibility yet becuz he wants to enjoy his life in USA....and maybe after 2 or 3 yrs he might think about our marriage n all..Just to all the people who r going to give their advise he hasn't stayed with me from the day he has arrived in America...Pliz help me figure out what can I do..
2007-10-25 06:19:14 · 27 answers · asked by kajal c 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get the marriage anulled since it's only been a short time. I'm sorry, he sounds like a loser. You can find someone with the same priorities as you. Don't waste your time if he isn't into anything but going out partying all the time, and you don't like going. That's the kind of thing you should've realized before you decided to settle down.
2007-10-25 06:25:29 · answer #1 · answered by ryan c 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The sad news is you cannot force him to stay married to you, but you may call a divorce attorney and see if you can get the marriage annulled. This way it would be as if it never took place and he might have to go back to India. Explain the situation to the attorney so that the reason for the annulment will be that this marriage took place under false pretence. This man used you and the abandoned you, the laws here in the USA should protect your rights in this type of situation. So sorry you are going through this, just be glad to get rid of this heartless man.
2007-10-25 13:37:39 · answer #2 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl since that first day that you two came to USA. and he didn't stay with you.. You should of known something was up.
Its pretty messed up of him doing that to you and throwing your marriage away like that.
But even though its going to be hard because you probably love him. LET HIM GO!
TRUST me He will COME BACK to you. but who know maybe by then you wont want him back.. Once you either separate of divorce DON"T call him don't have any contact with you and if he does call you then keep it short 5min the most..
Let him wonder What YOUR up to.. But never tell him since it isn't he's responsibility anymore.
You should go out and see whats out there you might find something better.. Karma is a ***** and what goes around comes around 3times harder..
He will miss you and is going to pay for what he put you through.
2007-10-25 13:27:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well marrying him did not make him a citizen automatically.
And imigration will notice that he got married came to the states and got divorced. He might get deported.
ANyway did youmarry him because u loved him or to get him here if you married him to make him a citizen then you should feel used. But if you loved him he used you and now he thinks he dont need you. Call immigration after your divorce and send him back to where he came from
2007-10-25 13:57:12 · answer #4 · answered by Mr.Gemini 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all he has made up his mind, he is not ready. This is not your fault so do not blame yourself.
I think it is your time to move on, do you really want to hang around two and/or three years until he is done partying?
I am assuming that this was an arranged marriage. Let your family and his family know what is going on and let the blame lie on him.
Could be that this decision is for the best for you not him. I say take it and run. Let the next decision in who you find be the one for you.
2007-10-25 13:39:06 · answer #5 · answered by MYSTERY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sweety, I think you are better off without him. You should try going out and meeting some new friends of your own. Don't waste another minute of your life. Try enjoying your life in the USA, and forget him. Also this is the US so, you are entitled to 1/2 marital possession, and if you are the only one who has lived in your home, it is yours too. Find a good laywer and get on with your life, Best of Luck
2007-10-25 13:25:36 · answer #6 · answered by Vanessa H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
India is a patriarchal society, so men probably feel more inclined to treat their wives poorly. Have you considered divorcing him and finding a white man to marry? White men like me, who believe women are just as important as men, don't abuse their wives like you describe. Maybe seeking a new marriage in the West might be a good idea for you?
2007-10-25 13:29:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to see an attorney and get either a divorce or an annulment if possible. You might be able to get an annulment if he only married you to get to this country and perhaps even get him sent back to India. He is a loser who used you to get here and then left you but you can find someone who loves you and not the playboy type.
2007-10-25 13:27:15 · answer #8 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you here in america? If he married you because you are a citizen then you can have him kicked out of the country.
Otherwise you have a freedom, go find a good man and get your freak on. Have fun, meet guys. Live your life.
2007-10-25 13:23:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't need a man like that anyway. You need someone who will be there for you regardless and be supportive and love you-that's what husbands do. Your husband is not treating you right, and you do not need him. Definitely move on and sign the divorce papers since he is no good.
2007-10-25 13:24:37 · answer #10 · answered by Edith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋