because he isnt his usual self and we keep arguing.... i dont know if i can really be bothered anymore to be honest... but it would probably hurt him a lot if i broke up with him, and its not like he has doen anything wrong in particular... we just argue a lot and he is getting very protective and insecure..... i don' t think this makes any sense but i am very confused!
2007-10-25 06:07:57 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Throw him into an oncoming bus?
2007-10-25 06:15:00 · answer #1 · answered by That's Mr Pepper to you. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"He isn't his usual self..."
What is his "usual self" like? Is he just not showing attention to you or...what? I think you should be a little more descriptive on how he was like before and how he is now. There could be a number of reasons but if you're coming to a message board to get answers then I think we should hear the whole story. Is he going through something troubling at this time in his life?
"...it's not like he has done anything wrong in particular..."
If he hasn't done anything wrong then what is the problem? What exactly are you arguing about?
Times change. An earlier generation or two would stick it out and just deal with it because they were married and they stuck to their vows (I know you're not married but the commitment item is what I'm referring to here). My own parents went through a lot when they were initially married but they are still together for more than 35+ years because they talked, argued, fought for and stood side by side.
Do you "love" or just "like" your boyfriend? What are you willing to do to ensure that this relationship works? What are you willing to put up with until you decide it's no longer worth sticking around for? Are you simply around for companionship/fun or do you really care about him? I think these are questions you should ask yourself.
2007-10-25 06:32:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think i can be qualified to answer this question. Reading between the lines, it sounds like you're not really into this guy. Not JUST because you argue (most people argue with their significant other), but because you made the comment about how you might not be able to be bothered by him anymore. Seriously, I'd dump him sooner rather then later if you're going to do it anyway. You basically have to decide that. If you're not into him, you need to get on with your life, and let him get on with his.
2007-10-25 06:17:11 · answer #3 · answered by me0177 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well nip it in the butt now!!!! dont sooth his jealous ego. You'll be making a bed u wont want to sleep in later. Maybe you guys need time apart and u can use that as a reason. You don't like to be with someone who's so insecure..It's a turn off and thats probably y u want a break from him. if he continues it would just push u in the arms of another man and then u'll be the bad one...the cheater.
2007-10-25 06:12:17 · answer #4 · answered by Best Mom!! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His behavior could be because hes guilty of something....it could be because theres trouble in his family....lots of reasons. . . . OR it could be because you guys just arnt right for each other and just dont get along anymore. I was in a relationship for 4 years and faught all the time and didnt end it when I should have because I was afraid of hurting him...because we had so much time invested...because I wanted to wait and see if he would change for the better.....many reasons. He never changed and I had to get the guts to do what I knew was the right thing to do. Knowing what the right thing to do in your head and heart is a lot different from actually doing it.
2007-10-25 06:28:19 · answer #5 · answered by Amanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing I usually ask in these questions.. How old are you both? I mean if you are in middle school, you are in love everytime the bells rings with someone! If you have been dating awhile and are say 16 or 17, maybe you just need some time apart from each other :)
2007-10-25 06:13:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Blimey well talk to him about him chances are he isnt going to get over being protectuve and insecure, think maybe you should break up with him or have a break and think about whever u really want to be with him or not.
2007-10-25 06:22:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Stop Yakking at him
2. Buy him beer
3. Let him watch football
4. If your fat.........lose some weight
5. Put a cooked dinner in front of him each night
2007-10-25 06:24:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe you should ask him why is so insecure. Try not yelling in the process of asking, and when he give you an answer tell everything going to be alright and __________(insert his excuss he) is not going to happen.
2007-10-25 06:38:30 · answer #9 · answered by chrisafirgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's getting protective and insecure because you're finding fault...and he's afraid you're leaving.. work on finding what's causing your anger, and cure that problem...
Always work on the relationship you're in ...
the next one will be worse...
2007-10-25 06:16:04 · answer #10 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to him. Tell him how you feel and be honest. and before you start the convo with him tell him that you need to talk to him and your not trying to fight with him, your just trying to find out what is going on. Good Luck.
2007-10-25 06:19:16 · answer #11 · answered by Inessik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋