my husband a pain when it comes to anythink to do with the family more so at xmas time it breaks my heart and i just wont to cry , but i just dont show just how hurt i am ,but i just do wot i wont , i only see tham once or twice a year its his grandson too and yes he is a hand full but hay its only for a couple of days , he said tell tham were going on hoilday . iam so sad . merry xmas.
2007-10-25 02:08:16 · 6 answers · asked by star 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
thay live too far thats why and she is not with my son any more but we keep contact and all my family miss tham too my husband does care but he can be a hum bug at times
2007-10-25 02:17:58 · update #1
Hey - get yourself an invite to their home. Tell your husband that you are going and that he can come if he wants, but you will leave him at home on his own to have a quiet Christmas.
Then go and DO NOT FEEL GUILTY.
2007-10-25 02:13:17 · answer #1 · answered by jo :) 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Go and see them on your own and leave him by himself. Christmas is one of the worst times for family, because someone will always expect you to visit them and then get angry if you don't.
We have it sussed now, as we don't have any children and my other halfs parents aren't with us any more we go abroad. It solves so much hassle! And then when we get back we see all the family. On the plus with all the neices and nephews we get to give them their pressies nearer to New Year and they really appreciate them (rather than having present fatigue on Xmas Day).
Alternatively just invite everyone over to yours for the day without him knowing! Tell all the grandkids that grandad loves them jumping on his lap!!! That will teach him for being grumpy about it!
2007-10-25 02:15:45 · answer #2 · answered by Jojotraveller 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to see your grandson and it is possible then do it, they are only young for such a short time.
Is there a reason why your husband would prefer a Christmas alone?
I think its time to talk and reach a compromise, maybe see your grandson for one day and have some quiet time with him another day.
2007-10-25 02:13:20 · answer #3 · answered by Denise H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tricky one,sit down and talk about it or arrange a shorter visit or arrange a holiday together,whichever way it goes it needs words let him read this so he can see what a selfish person he is,i come from a large family and sometimes it is hard to all agree and some one has to give a little i.e your husband.if he cannot cope tell him when it get,s to much go for a walk and chill out.
2007-10-25 02:18:13 · answer #4 · answered by sarge 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's the matter with him, is he miserable or what. They are his family too. Mind you I was talking to a friend this morning, and she said her dad doesn't want anyone in his house at xmas. Its their family too. If I were you, leave him in the house on his own and you go visit them. I am sure he will soon change his mind. Good luck and Merry Xmas to you too.
2007-10-25 02:16:30 · answer #5 · answered by susie h 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is your problem! You need to tell him how he breaks your heart and can't he be of more help and cheerful for you? If he loves you he should put forth the effort.
2007-10-25 03:04:03 · answer #6 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋