...if I'm not so much in love with her anymore. I'm almost 40 and my wife is 33, and getting a little older. I'm thinking I can go to Russia, Ukraine, or Columbia and get a young hottie less than 25 years old with a great education (I only date foreign women). There are no kids involved so it's a simple divorce. I know she really loves me, but love is not so important to me. My kids (from another marriage) love her and they would be hurt. I'm not sure if I can get someone younger and more beautiful who I can trust and who loves my kids as much as my current wife. My wife is good-looking, gets a lot of attention from men, but I want someone younger and more beautiful. This is a serious question.
2007-10-25 02:38:15 · 68 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
why do you want to ruin a good relationship with your wife and kids???
I believe you still love your wife but not as much, why don't you try to make it work.............try to bring back those sparks and feeling. Maybe your'll fall in love with your wife all over again, i mean she is a beautiful woman and she is younger than you.
Why do you want a younger woman, yes i know, they are very attractive and all. But how do you know if they are not only interested in your $$, are they serious about the relationship?? Most younger woman have time in their hand, you on the other side will have to start all over.
Think, what if the new woman leave you and take all of your money. What you going to do when you already ruin your family? Who you going to turn to?? You don't want to be alone as you grow older.
"Think Twice before you act" "Think about how you'll hurt someone who love and care about you" "Think of the conclusion" does it really worth the try ????
2007-10-25 02:56:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many men run fantasy about younger women. My 60 year old spouse is "taken with" JLo and Angelina. But what is the reality, and why do people marry? You have a really good woman who loves you and your children. She is someone who will care for you and your needs, someone you can trust to be there for you. If you leave her to look for someone younger and more beautiful, you may or may not find her. Since this is at least your second marriage, you have traded up before. All it got you was a little time until you are wallowing in fantasy again. And that will happen again and again unless you learn to value a woman for more than being a young hottie. Depends upon if you want to keep trading or if you want stability. You are getting to the age that women will want you for money or what else you can give them that has nothing to do with love or wanting a relationship with the person you are. You are no longer a young hottie. The women who love you deserve better than what you are offering.
2007-10-25 02:59:06 · answer #2 · answered by Alicia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not judge anyone but your question shows that you have very little respect for marriage, and definitely have not developed a spiritual or deep bond with your wife.
If you were just struggling with temptation, then I would say work it out with your wife. However, it is apparent that you do not value a long term commitment. Supposing you met one of these Russian hotties and then she got into a car accident or a house fire and was disfigured. Would you dump her like you are planning to break it off with your wife? You will not find any long term happiness if you are basing everything on looks and other more shallow factors.
In honesty, I think you should really consider what you are thinking about here. Your wife is probably a really great person. You need to get beyond only being concerned with the physical. If you just cannot get past this, then I do suggest you leave, because your wife will then be free to find someone who will truly love and value her.
2007-10-25 03:49:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You want to leave your wife simply because she's not young enough for you, anymore, and you want a shot with someone younger and more beautiful?? At 40, you'd need to have a fat wallet to score with a 'hottie less than 25 years' old. And, you're right about Russia, Ukraine and Columbia, but there are probably more desperate ones in Thailand!
Seems like you're the one who needs to get serious and GROW UP.
2007-10-25 02:49:02 · answer #4 · answered by haids 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a serious question that deserves a serious answer. You need to see why it is you are so shallow. Honestly, for you to say love is not important to you means something is missing in the element of your being. You don't just get up one morning and decide to throw away a woman who has loved you and has been good to you and your children just because you want some younger hottie. That is very self centered way of thinking. But lets take this at face value, you are set in wanting to do this, then do it, I am sure that good woman you call your wife deserves better than to waste any more years on a man who is so selfish and self centered. It is called Nacisstic.
2007-10-25 03:12:17 · answer #5 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well.....from my experience.... I am currently in a relationship that's been going on for five years. He's 43 and I'm 21.
I've always thought to myself that there would be someone better than him so I've broken up with him a long time ago and found out that it isn't easy to find that better person. Some great person can't just fall on your lap (there was something always wrong with one of the guys that I was meeting). You soon realize that what you were looking for was already in your hands but no longer was. I'm not sure how love can't be important to you, does this mean you don't love her? But any way if this is how you feel than you should tell her it's over. That way you won't be wasting each others time. So once you get out there trying to find that more "beautiful" female.... I just hope you don't have the realization of something very important in you life gone forever. Then having a moment where you realize you regret what you just did. Lucky for me my boyfriend took me back.
2007-10-25 02:56:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes - get out now - your wife really doesn't deserve a calous , self -centered , uncaring , unfeeling scum bag like you . Find yourself some hot foreign totty bring her back to your country hopefully she'll take you for every penny you've got and then do a runner . Why would some 25 yr want to fool around with a twice married 40 year old failure like you . ??? If your wife is such a catch then let her go and find true love and happiness. If you're half the man you say you are you want to read very carefully what you have written and read and take in all the responses and look at your life and what you have and appreciate it .If you can not do that then you going to end up a very sad and lonely old man
2007-10-25 03:02:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you know how selfish and shallow you sound? This is your wife you are talking about, not a car. You don't trade a human being in just because they are getting older, JUST LIKE YOU.
I don't think you even know what love is to say you have fallen out of love. Real love is my mother who took care of my sick dad for 15 years, until he was wearing a diaper and had a catheter and a feeding tube until the day he died at home. Real love is how she is now taking care of my sick brother, and she hasn't left the house for more than 2 hours in 4 years.
Real love means you give of yourself, and act selfless, because you made a committment that you actually meant.
Somehow I don't think you are even able to comprehend what I am saying, but one day you will. One day you will be old and dying, and your 5th wife will have taken all your money and run off because she was using you too. One day you will look back and regret alot.
2007-10-25 02:46:06 · answer #8 · answered by lefttheroom222 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If indeed you are serious and not just completely bored with your life to ask such a stupid and pathetic question, then, I simply feel sorry for you. You are certainly one of those men who will end up alone and miserable in your old age for being such a shallow, heartless, clueless man all of your life. I truly hope that you find a woman who treats you absolutely the same way you do her-as an object. As a Mother, I also feel completely sorry for your children who will never know what true love is evidently.
Good luck!
2007-10-25 02:44:07 · answer #9 · answered by Singthing 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So in other words you are using her until something better comes along!
Did you ever think that maybe she is only staying with you cause of the kids.
Guess what dude you don't have the right to take away happiness from her either love her or just get out so she can find someone that really loves her for who she is, not what she looks like.
By the way guys that are selfish in this way have really tiny
d!cks, & can't even please a true woman.
2007-10-25 03:16:23 · answer #10 · answered by Emptiness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋