Do you have a jealous or controlling partner?

Question

How does it make you feel, and how do you cope with it?

Re question about me.. no I don't have a controlling partner now, I have a very nice one. I have had one before however, and yes, I did what you said !
I won't stand for it at all.

Answer 1

hi to live with anyone that is jealous and controlling is a living nightmare and should get out of it a soon as they can instead of suffering years of mental abuse ,no one can really cope with this kind of abuse as it on going and just when you think things are settling down again ,he starts on you all over again ,i said he but dont forget that there are a lot of seriously jealous/controlling wifes out there 2 ,take care xx

Answer 2

Had one a while ago, and it got to a point you say the partner "got to go". They are individuals usually with very low self esteem and can't stand someone who is secure or more in the "normal level". Their technique is to bring their self esteem down lower than their level, so they victim starts to believe doesn't worth anything, and is lucky to be with that person. Sometimes they do that as a technique to keep the relationship strongly attached, when there is no need, sometimes the other person is just trying to be with this person to enjoy the good things and the controller is just ruinningi the relationship. The best thing is to just let that person go, and look for something better, but it depends on how much you love yourself. Sooner or later, the victim gets to a point that says "enough", and starts to stand up, and that starts to make the controller person very angry and the difficult times start, but is good for the victim who has decided to stop being a victim, sometimes it takes time for the victim to realize the role is playing. Is sometimes a good thing, because the victim with time starts to enjoy gaining the self esteem back, having control of life in a lot better way, and makes this person grow a lot in many aspects. I don't know what happens with the controlling person, sometimes after they are left they realize who they were, but it doesn't really happens all the time. To answer your question, it just makes a person feel very sad, and will be happy only with the controller person decides the victim needs to be happy, and it will be sad or in troubles, when the other person decides the victim needs to be in troubles. It's very sad, but is just part of the world where we live, and how things are organized. I just crossed my path with one of these people, and I hope, I wont ever have to deal with someone like this again in my entire life. I wasn't a victim for too long, but I just had to deal with those kind of individuals. I am by myself and doing so much better than what I was doing before. If I cross my path again with one of these, I am not going to even have second thoughts on saying "it got to go" on the VERY first sign, I'm not staying to see if things will get any better or anything like that, I already know and I've already watched that kind of movie, I know how it will develope and how it ends. I just go and find my own kind of movie (movie-wise talking).

Answer 3

I don't have any partner but what general conscience i can use in this matter, it's depend on mutual understanding of each other.
Mutual understanding will be like tacit, it will be expressed without saying anything to each other.
If your partner is jealous,
First you try to find out the reason of Jealousy, If you get to know the reason, Try to accommodate him/her self to the happiness,grace, fame or gain whatever you are getting from that things mono polarized to yourself.
+ Then try to be frank and explain him/her that it's not at all matter of jealousy because whatever i belong or achieve is ultimately ours.
+ If One is controlling then Situation is very much simple, Because the life will be under control condition. Because One of the person in pair should always comprise the power to control the life or relation. That is omnipresent condition. And it's fair as per my opinion. Weather wife is controlling or husband is controlling that is solely acceptable truth of life. Nobody can have obligation in that because One must be imposed by another, Then and only then the relations will last.
Otherwise divorce.

Answer 4

I do. He is from Sparta and he is by far the most controlling jealous man Anybody has ever met. But you know what? I LIKE it. Call me crazy, but I'm so attracted to this brute of a male, and we've been married seven years (been together for ten) and the passion we have between us is amazing. He makes me feel secure and a real woman. I never worry about the next day, cause I know this man will take care of things always. I can't walk all over him, and I respect him for that. The downside is that I live in a small community on an island in Greece, and no man will even talk to me for fear of my husband. It's ridiculous, but hey...

Answer 5

NO nor would I start one If it can't be fixed move on.
I did have a controlling Mom. I took years and a couple wrecked relationships to get past that.
Some of the things she did I didn't know about until she passed a few years ago. I only wish folks she had been manipulating had been more forthcoming years ago it might have saved a lot of pain.

Answer 6

I grew up around abuse, I always said no man would ever control or abuse me, well I let my guard down when I was younger in my 20's & I moved in with an insecure abusive, controlling coward It took me awhile to get up the courage to leave but I did & never again will a man abuse me.

Answer 7

my husband was very jealous and controlling. it was something I've never been through in a relationship before. i didn't "cope" well with it and now we're separated...i guess everyone has a breaking point. you either trust your spouse or sig other, or you don't. for me...there just isn't room for control and jealousy
blessings and luck to you

Answer 8

Not any more. I used to feel lucky to have him, that he loved me and only wanted what was best for me. I had no friends because he chased them away, and I had no life because he wouldn't allow it. He "let" me work, and that was about it. He made me feel like I was a child and he was my protector. I felt like I couldn't get any better than him, and that his controlling behavior was normal. I wasn't allowed to wear makeup, go out without him (although he went out with his friends every weekend. He even left me at home on New Years Eve. I was so embarrassed I didn't even tell my parents), dye my hair. He said he liked the "natural look". I complied with all of his requests. He ended up cheating on me with some bleach blonde bimbo. She wore cake makeup. Her eyes looked like tarantula eyes with all the eyeliner and mascara. That was 3 months before our wedding. Luckily, I saw the light and left. we were together 3 years at that point. It taught me a lot about myself and what I was willing to put up with after that. I didn't let any man control anything about me from then on. I met my husband 3 years later. He doesn't try to control anything about me. He actually loves me for me. I realized that my ex didn't love me at all. He just wanted me for his possession. He wanted to be free to get his freak on with whoever he wanted while he had his security blanket at home.

Answer 9

Congratulations, you're nicely on the way in the direction of probable attaining in simple terms what you do not go with, by consistently and obsessively beating him with a large stick (your tongue and your disapproval) ~ on your imagined reasoning's. 'i can't look to assist it'...! am i able to apply that after I beat my spouse, please? inspite of are the groundings in which your insecurities have the roots, seem nicely rooted. i ought to point that you ultimately end up a Counsellor to paintings with you in this, in case you go with to proceed interior of your recent courting. Sash.

Answer 10

My partner is bossy. I think it's because she is short. What do you think?

O fcourse, I'll probly think something else tomorrow. So I will stop answrering m=now before I get myself into trouble. :)