Family & Relationships - 29 October 2007

after 7 years together,we were going thru alot..life..he started to go on the road alot..i hated it but dealt with it , i was primary caretaker for my step daughter who is 14 yr, she has lived w/ us for 6 of those years as he had regained custody of her..i am her mommy..we have been going thru alot , death in the family , his absense ..i own a little store and have had a very hard time this year...he told me he loved me and that i never had to worry about loosing him to a woman...he was not a cheater,,i had to trust him ,to drive away all week. then when he came home for the weekends ,we were to tired to have much fun ,i do admit i did resent his job ,taking away from the family...i could have been more loving and appriciative rather then hurt and angry...i am lost ,anyone who knew us saw our devotion to one another..i started feeling used ..he is selfish and often put his wants before needs..like property tax ,,he has not been w/her but 3-4 weeks and moved,same day i got news he was

2007-10-29 08:18:23 · 14 answers · asked by hopr4africa 1 in Marriage & Divorce

A friends girlfried uses the line, we'll if I'm not getting any you shouldn't either. I've told him that is ridiculous and selfish. Thoughts?

2007-10-29 08:18:09 · 8 answers · asked by drf2684 1 in Singles & Dating

before you got together wer you to bestof friends?
How close wer you to before?
How long did you no each other before getting together?

2007-10-29 08:17:18 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Or brain surgery. Or any of the other complex, male-dominated professions which women could only dream of entering

2007-10-29 08:16:47 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

How will you act when you realize you want a relationship with a girl? What things will you do?

2007-10-29 08:16:33 · 4 answers · asked by Jen_n_TX 3 in Singles & Dating

On a scale of 1-10

# 1 resembling an atomic disaster and # 10 being immaculate, show room style clean.

How much emphasis do you put on a super clean house and for those of you with maids, how much do they cost and does it take a team or one person, how often do they come?

For those who do the cleaning yourselves or in family units, how much cleaning do you do a week?

2007-10-29 08:16:09 · 31 answers · asked by Sarah 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

I've just got back from a holiday in LA and on holiday my Boyfriend proposed, and i accepted, I went to work last Thursday and came home at luch because i wanted to make dinner for him, so i stopped off at the supermarket and came home, i could hear some music on in the bedroom, so i Went up, as i got closer i could hear some voices, i peeked in and i saw my Fiance and our cleaner in bed, there were no covers and i could see all. i went in, and they didn't notice at first but then i coughed and My fiance got out of bed and put a sheet around him and came over to me. i packed up a bag and have been living at my best friends house for the past week, i bumped into my cleaner in Superdrug looking at pregnancy kits, Also My Fiance has left 15 messages on my phone and has even waited outside my door step in the morning. He is now harassing my best friend, i feel so bad!!! PLease help What should i do, i don't know whether to go back to him or to Break up with him.

2007-10-29 08:13:56 · 27 answers · asked by Love_Me_Jaffa_X_O_X 2 in Singles & Dating

I am very unhappy at my job something just dosen't feel right everytime I have to go to work I feel sick I can't trust anyone and things are crazy but I am not certified to teach in the field I want and I'm doing it there should I just stick it our or shoud I try to find something else. I make good money and I wondering if I will find the same money somewhere else but I am so so so so unhappy. As soon as i set foot in the building I get a knot in my stomach I am grateful for a job but AHHHH

2007-10-29 08:13:47 · 9 answers · asked by jj 1 in Marriage & Divorce

ok, he left me because I hurt him bad, (i was drunk) but he has started calling me & I told him i wanted to c him, so he came to c me today, we talked for a while like friends, then he said he would call me tomorrow, I also asked him to come fix the front door lock he said he would. Does this sound like maybe i have a chance to win his heart back?

2007-10-29 08:10:14 · 30 answers · asked by kinky_dreads 4 in Marriage & Divorce

My girlfriend thinks that I am crazy for still wanting to go with her and can't understand why because of what she has. She just found out a week ago. We have been going together for 3 months now. We met on a gay dating site. Herpes is not a death sentence & I love her. Would't you do the same?

2007-10-29 08:09:31 · 15 answers · asked by J.J. 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-10-29 08:08:35 · 16 answers · asked by Cutie 1 in Singles & Dating

I am an 18 year old female I have been dating my boyfriend for 3 years now and hes always asking my why I never seem to be in the mood to have sex. I used to when we first met and every now and than it changes but usually I'm never to thrilled to do it. I do it and enjoy it but if i dont have it its not a big deal. What's wrong with me?

2007-10-29 08:08:08 · 22 answers · asked by a_andrews07 1 in Singles & Dating

I moved in with my boyfriend a while ago and I can't get over the fact that his ex girlfriend of 5 yrs lived in this same house, slept in this bed, used the same shower with him, etc! In fact, I can't get over the fact that he loved another women before me in general. I can't believe how irrational I sound right now... I don't make any sense and I know it's not fair to him but it's always on my mind! What does this mean? How can I stop it from bothering me? Is it a cover up for me being afraid on the inside that he will leave me too... or am I just being too territorial? HELP

2007-10-29 08:06:42 · 12 answers · asked by annette_1125 1 in Singles & Dating

My boyfriend of 11 yrs..continues to cheat with this one girl
he has know since before us..he said they were together years before we met.. but she hurt him....but he was deeply in love with her..since then we have had a reationship and 1 child together..he says he love me..and we have been together this
long..even though he do not want to marry me..or even asked
recently he meet up with this girl from the past who he was so in love with..and I cant tell you all the details of how I know he's
cheating with her...lets just say I know for a fact he is..and I think this girl is not in a relationship with anybody...he has certain times he have to go somewhere..and I found out the girl also be gone the same time..He was very much in love with
her...should I be worried..hopeful he will see that its not the same with her and leaving his family isn't worth it..if he loves me he will leave her alone..but I can see changes in his emotions..we been together a lone time..will he still leave

2007-10-29 08:03:29 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

good or bad.... my hubby likes it well i do to,,,, any body else ever tried it would like to hear any one's experiences

2007-10-29 08:02:46 · 36 answers · asked by calendergirlcutie 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Ive had this guy friend for over a yr..we met in school and I moved to another state but we've kept in contact. Recently I visited him and we kissed but never talked about our feelings (as I had to head back home). Then he contacted me and I invited him to visit me. He said he'd love to once he gets some free time (he's a huge school load). Last conversation he asked how long I'm going to be around (as i'm thinking of travelling). Told him at least a few mths so he said maybe at next vacation he will visit but he's thinking of going to his parents instead (who live in another country). I told him ok & then sort of joking said that I wont invite him again! He got the joke & laughed. This is wrecking my head though. I know family is important but I feel I'm wasting my time. What do you think? Also, I'm the one who is now saying 'hi' on chat. Maybe its that its so long distance its difficult. Please help me? we're both single without kids.

2007-10-29 07:58:55 · 1 answers · asked by profe 1 in Singles & Dating

would u prefer a hot blonde or a hot burnett

2007-10-29 07:58:34 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

What is it really? If the husband wakes up and the wife is on top of him having Sex what's it call?

2007-10-29 07:55:13 · 25 answers · asked by beauty1355 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-29 07:53:19 · 25 answers · asked by redcandal66 2 in Singles & Dating

He's a ruff neck kind of guy and I WANT TO GIVE HIM SOMETHING TO THINK ABOUT ME WHILE ON THE ROAD. please help it could be kinky, fun, whatever.

2007-10-29 07:50:46 · 4 answers · asked by yolanda 1 in Singles & Dating

It all came to a head about a years ago my wife was out of town and I was looking at porn. Im certanly not unfamiliar with porn and have looked at it off and on throughout my marrage but I wouldnt say that Im an addict or anything. long story short she found out and got really pissed. We delt with it and I appologized and commited not to do it anymore which is fine. its been about a year since the last time and to this day I still here about it, get ignored over it and am beriated over it so much so that she recently went out of town and when she came home she accused me of cheating(which I never have or been close to) and looking at porn. when I told here I didnt she started looking through my dirty clothes and going ape **** on the computer trying to prove I did. Im just getting tired of hearing about what a lier and cheater I am it seems no matter what I do I cant win. this seems unreasonable to me and dont know how to deal with it anymore. HELP!!!!!

2007-10-29 07:50:37 · 12 answers · asked by LeviS 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-29 07:50:10 · 13 answers · asked by TT 1 in Singles & Dating

My sister’s (she is also my best friend) divorce will be hopefully final at the beginning of 2008. She mentioned wanting to go to Vegas when it is final. Since I was her maid of honor when she was married she said she really wanted to go to Vegas for her bachelorette party but her fiancé thought that would be bad taste and asked me not to have it there. (But yet his bachelor party was in Vegas)

I’m asking for suggestions on invitations and people I should invite. I really don’t think it should be called a “divorce party” because the word divorce has such negative connotations.

My beautiful sister is happy these days now she has left this loveless marriage. I can see her growing spiritually and emotionally as the weeks/months go by. People are always saying to her how much more confident she is. So it’s not like she is crying because this marriage has ended she gave 100% to this marriage and their relationship of 11 years. So I’m super proud of her and she’s given her friend’s the strength to ask what they want in need in their own relationships.

Thank you for your suggestions.

2007-10-29 07:49:35 · 11 answers · asked by Yvonne 4 in Marriage & Divorce

I feel as though this is a special time. I mean, to me this is an awesome time, because it means that you have made it half the year, (which on a grand scale is still small) but for the time being rather important.

So, my question is did you do anything really special for you and your partners six-month-versary?

God Bless.

2007-10-29 07:49:23 · 14 answers · asked by Chris 1 in Singles & Dating

my husband and i seperated and now we are getting back together. during our seperation he slept with another woman, in our home, in my bed.... and i have so many questions. all i can do is think about this and weird thoughts, like what she looks like, did he like the sex, how did it lead to sex, was there foreplay, intimate kisses, what did they do afterward lay there and cuddle, stay the night, or did she get up and leave. i'm a little afraid to ask but i want to and it's bothering me. i'm afraid that i will always be thinking these things. i'm not MAD about it just a little hurt i guess. should i ask the ?'s that i have or just let it be. we promised eachother (even tho i didnt sleep with anyone) that it's a clean slate and to let it go... for some reason, i just cant...
it's even to a point where i want to see her.. just to see what she looks like. i looked for her on myspace for cryin out loud! (didnt find anyone with the same disc. he gave me of her tho)
am i being rediculus?

2007-10-29 07:46:51 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

and we both work fulltime. but i do the majority of the housework, cooking, cleaning and taking care of the kids. when we get up at 5am, im the one who gets up first, i get myself ready, get the baby changed and dressed, then begin to get the 2 yr old changed and dressed, which is really hard because she doesnt like waking up. by the time ive done thost things he's barley brushing his teeth, and then i never get the chance to eat my own breakfast b/c we have to be out the door by 6am. alot of the time i feel very resentful that he doesnt at least help in getting one of the kids ready. can anyone , guys esp, suggest how i can talk to him w/ out sounding like im bitching?

2007-10-29 07:45:03 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-29 07:44:23 · 30 answers · asked by garik 5 in Singles & Dating

What is the best birthday gift your wife could give you?

My husband will be 23 years old and I would like to give him something special...

2007-10-29 07:43:39 · 7 answers · asked by TwinMommy 5 in Marriage & Divorce

my husband hates my mother my mother tried to like my husband he treats me badly and this upsets my mom and my mom and my husband get into it over how he treats me now my mother is banned from our house what do i do

2007-10-29 07:43:39 · 11 answers · asked by marianne w 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I came from an abusive household and learned that the best way to avoid a hard situation is to lie through it. The problem is I am not a little kid anymore and still have a problem with compulsive lying.Even about little tiny things that don't matter and even when my husband knows I am lying. I don't even know why I do it. I feel so stupid. I have a wonderful husband, two little girls, and a great job that I love. My life is perfect, but I keep lying. About everything. I am even convincing myself that my lies are true. My marriage is falling apart. My SO is getting tired of catching me in lies. Last night he point blank asked me why do I feel the need to compulsively lie. Today I looked up signs of compulsive lying and other OCDs. It felt like looking in a mirror. But if I go home tonight and just lay out compulsive lying and howI feel and what I am doing, will he think I am just justifing what I have done and seeking attention rather than finally seeing what I am and trying to change?

2007-10-29 07:42:56 · 13 answers · asked by DreamGirl 3 in Marriage & Divorce