ok, he left me because I hurt him bad, (i was drunk) but he has started calling me & I told him i wanted to c him, so he came to c me today, we talked for a while like friends, then he said he would call me tomorrow, I also asked him to come fix the front door lock he said he would. Does this sound like maybe i have a chance to win his heart back?
2007-10-29 08:10:14 · 30 answers · asked by kinky_dreads 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
mmmm don't know what did u do? You can't ask that kind of question w/ out information about what u did...obviously u are ashamed of what u did so if I had to guess u were drunk and cheated...Well if thats the case I hope hes smart enough not to take u back...sry
2007-10-29 08:13:57 · answer #1 · answered by NONAME 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
You were drunk huh? And so what did you do? Or should I imagine it was some type of infidelity due to your un-ladylike state?
I think repairing the lock on the front door is not a proper thing to gauge your hopes of reconciliation on. In fact...he's probably making the repairs so when he divorces you its less he'll have to do to put the house up for sale.
Yeah...thats probably the answer. Not getting back with you doesn't sound right.
2007-10-29 15:16:23 · answer #2 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I wouldn't push the issue right now about having a chance because it is very clear that wasn't the discussion at hand. Him fixing the door is one thing and you and him rekindling your relation is other. I think for right now you should move on with your life, and see if somewhere in the future you and him come back together, but it will take time on both parts for a true commitment.. if there is one there.. for the two of you.
2007-10-29 15:34:20 · answer #3 · answered by carmel 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Maybe , just take it slow and don't pressure him.Evidently he still loves you or there would be no contact at all. If you want your marriage let him see that also by showing him you need him . Fixing things, lawn cutting etc. Don't abuse or use him. Ask him out to a movie or dinner and open up with honesty to him.
2007-10-29 17:26:08 · answer #4 · answered by Thunder 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he got up the balls to leave, lets hope he doesn't fall back into your trap. Generally if a guy leaves a relationship due to a woman hurting him...it's happened before and he's stuck around hoping and praying it will work out. Eventually after long periods of getting screwed the man will FINALLY give up, and when this happens, you're S.O.L.
2007-10-29 15:14:21 · answer #5 · answered by araknid80 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would suggest counseling. Seriously, it will get to the bottom of your behavior and what triggered the event that "hurt him bad" (even if you were drunk, something triggered it.)
Even if you guys end up not getting back together, it would help you identify the cause of certain behaviors, and how to react to them so this doesnt happen with the next husband.
Good luck!
2007-10-29 15:15:49 · answer #6 · answered by melissa 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oh Hon, I understand how you feel. You are married and that makes an ethical and legal difference. And he is seeing and helping you. I think both are positives. I am astonished at how many people 'assume' you were unfaithful whether you were or not. Do stop drinking, some of us can't handle it at all. Remember who you were when he fell in love with you. Most of all communicate, communicate, communicate. And a big part of that is listening. Best of everything to all of you.
2007-10-29 15:40:38 · answer #7 · answered by jjoy4444 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Fixing the front door lock has nothing to do with winning back his heart!
You need to openly communicate with him about what happened and how you are sorry that you hurt him.
2007-10-29 15:12:59 · answer #8 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 3⤊ 3⤋
It depends on what you did to hurt him! Did you cheat? If you didn't cheat then you might have a chance but I would stop drinking if I were you.Booze doesn't mix well with a long term relationship.Good luck.(if you cheated I hope you spend the rest of your life alone!)
2007-10-29 15:15:55 · answer #9 · answered by notagain49 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What this shows is that he still loves you. You got to give him time.
Apparently, he felt that he "had enough" and left.
However, his heart is winning over his mind.
Just continue doing what you're doing. Eventually, you'll get him back.
Don't push it though. Just let things happen. It sounds good so far.
2007-10-29 15:13:50 · answer #10 · answered by Scott D 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋