after 7 years together,we were going thru alot..life..he started to go on the road alot..i hated it but dealt with it , i was primary caretaker for my step daughter who is 14 yr, she has lived w/ us for 6 of those years as he had regained custody of her..i am her mommy..we have been going thru alot , death in the family , his absense ..i own a little store and have had a very hard time this year...he told me he loved me and that i never had to worry about loosing him to a woman...he was not a cheater,,i had to trust him ,to drive away all week. then when he came home for the weekends ,we were to tired to have much fun ,i do admit i did resent his job ,taking away from the family...i could have been more loving and appriciative rather then hurt and angry...i am lost ,anyone who knew us saw our devotion to one another..i started feeling used ..he is selfish and often put his wants before needs..like property tax ,,he has not been w/her but 3-4 weeks and moved,same day i got news he was
2007-10-29 08:18:23 · 14 answers · asked by hopr4africa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Drop the kid on their doorstep and hightail it to Tijuana. It's not your problem anymore.
2007-10-29 08:22:02 · answer #1 · answered by fckymcfckfck 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Now you know that while he has been away those weeks... He was being the play-boy.. He has some brass ones to just up and move in with no warning.. Did the step daughter know anything? And since he now has custody of he does she want to go with him or stay with you? What does her mom think of this.. Its time for you to find a good woman lawyer and do it ASAP... He says 3 or 4 weeks with her... But how long has he been working away??? You better believe he has know her more than 3 or 4 weeks. I wish you good luck and a love that does not hurt..... Grant M in Pennsylvania
2007-10-29 18:13:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband is a truck drive and too is only home on the wekends while i raise my 3 step children and i have encountered similiar situations stress and losses cause this and with alot on you maybe he felt negelted i have never supported a cheater or tried to make excuses but men sometimes "run" away from what scares them he will see through this and if you want him to come home and the 2 of you work through it...........try to be nice(i know the pain hurts and anger is all we have) and when he does come home which i feel he will make time for you and him time together and making him feel like you want him and put time into him will keep him from straying again...........i am so sorry to hear you are having to go through this with so much other on you
2007-10-29 15:26:08 · answer #3 · answered by ericnvannasmomma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a LAWYER. If you want custody of the stepdaughter you will need one. If not call DHS and have them get in touch with the girls mother. In any event either or both of them should be paying you CHILD SUPPORT as long as you are taking care of her.
Divorce this bum NOW.
2007-10-29 15:32:12 · answer #4 · answered by Dirty Dave 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I could find a woman who put up with as much crap as you have. You sound like such a sweet lady. This man of yours sounds like a complete idiot. There are good men out there who will not turn your life into, like the other lady said, a lifetime movie.
2007-10-29 15:25:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Another Lifetime movie - wow too much drama there sweetie. Be selfish this time around and worry about yourself and the little girl.
2007-10-29 15:21:12 · answer #6 · answered by Passion Curls 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He needed time to move all of his assets.You probably won't find anything to take and you may only think you own a store.Get a lawyer fast!Good luck.
2007-10-29 15:38:56 · answer #7 · answered by notagain49 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fool me once shame on you. Fool me twice shame on me. Get on with your life. Sorry this happened to you. Maybe speak to the daughter and ask her what she thinks. She'll appreciate it if you treat her as an adult. (Just remember she is not ready for life with out guidence yet).
2007-10-29 15:24:30 · answer #8 · answered by jo-jo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What? I got confused if she was his daughter and your step daughter? you don't have custody but he is a dick to make you watch her all the time even though you love her. He is just a dick.
2007-10-29 15:21:32 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's the chance you take marrying a divorced person. There was good reasons he got divorced.
I would divorce him and I would make him take his daughter. She is not your responsibility and he needs to take on the responsibility of her.
2007-10-29 18:21:19 · answer #10 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋