What are the things men hate when trying to solve a conflict with their wife?

Question

I am working on a speech for a group of couples that will be getting married soon. I would like mens opinion on what are the things they "hate" when they get into a conflict with their wife and are trying to solve the problem. please be honest. (see my other questions.)

Answer 1

1) Inability to focus rationally on one issue at a time.
2) Getting pissed when " You try to solve the problem", when "I only want to talk about it". This leads to having nothing to contribute and me "just sitting there saying nothing".
If one brings an issue into conversation my contribution tends to be clarifications, and perhaps suggested solutions. When this is apparently not the input desired it is very frustrating. It seems ridiculous to stand there and just say " you're right, that sounds awful..etc."

Answer 2

The hardest part is when solving a conflict and I can prove that I am "right" - she will cry.

Also, when arguing with a woman, you may be talking about an issue (e.g. the toilet seat being up), but she's not really arguing about that. It's more about how she feels than the actual issue.

Women tend to seethe and hold grudges. They can't move on, and sometimes old things pop up again and again and again.

Women can be passive aggressive.

Answer 3

I hate it when I am right because I know I am going to pay for the rest of my life. It is always better to agree with her and say the two most important words in the english language, "Yes Dear". There is no winning an argument with a women; the quicker a man learns this the easier his miserable existence will be.

Answer 4

My hubby and I have a time out when we start to argue. Or even if one of us is grouchy. We usually aren't mad at each other anyway. We don't nag at each other. And only fight about what's important. For example, I don't bother him about leaving his tooth brush on the edge of the sink. He doesn't bother me about not taking out the garbage. But when I ask him to give me a hand with laundry, he doesn't fight about it, he helps. I don't go over board with stuff for him to do. Only a few hours on the weekend. Overall, we stop most conflicts before they have a change to be a problem.

Answer 5

We all understand it's our fault.Our Mother's taught us that from an early age.So just go ahead and tell us what we did or forgot to do and move on.Don't wait on us to read your mind because it isn't going to happen,and it is so cute when women get angry and put there hands on there hips!I hated the fights but loved the make-up sex!

Answer 6

Their rationalizations about an issue. Making even the simplest of arguments a complex mess requiring detailed analysis and dissection.

Answer 7

When the woman can't see things from more than ONE point of view, hers. I've seen this happen to a buddy of mine, even when the guy is completely honest and innocent in whatever she is accusing him of.

Answer 8

My husband tells me they hate:

Silent treatment.

"Whatever!"

"Do whatever you want" (or some variation)

Leaving the house.

Calling someone.

Crying hysterically.

Sorry if I misunderstood your question - these are things that men hate their women doing in a conflict.

Answer 9

I hate the fact that I must say she is right to end the arguement...99% of the time she is but I still hate admitting that she is!!

Answer 10

She don't understand that I say what I mean and I mean what I say. Don't tell me what I mean when I say something. If it came out wrong, I'll fix it in my next sentence but despite the male stereotypes, I can communicate well.