Family & Relationships - 29 October 2007

I have a daughter and always wanted to do things right of not bring a child in the world before marriage. Now that my girlfriend is pregnant, I want to make things right of getting married before the baby is born. Definitely don't want to spend alot of money and want to keep it simple. Plus I want to surprise her on the marriage thing. What should I do? Explain answer.

2007-10-29 03:29:08 · 11 answers · asked by Asantee L 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I need help I amgoing through cancer treatment
I have found several things on my husbands phone
over the past 3 years
from women ,I told him i will not stand it anymore
i was leaving the next time something happened
well guess what at my immune therapy in Pittsburg
I live in arkansas
I was having a infusion and he met someone outside of our hotel
she was sending him porn and telling she missed him
i asked him where did he meet her
he told me the internet
well i finally talked to her and she told me she met him
outside of our hotel ,and that he was divorced and was in pittsburg with his crazy sister
what am i going to do
the patterns never change or stop
his cell phone accompanies him to the shower
please help
I a winning my cancer battle but i can not handle the stress
anymore

2007-10-29 03:28:49 · 15 answers · asked by messageinabottlebynic 2 in Marriage & Divorce

My boyfriend says I don't trust him. We have been together 2 years and he says that I should stop acting jealous. I love him and I trust him but I don't trust some of the girls he talks to. He says that he loves me and tries hard to be faithful and he feels that inspite of all he does it is for nothing because I still treat him like he is cheating. If you really love someone shouldn't it be easy not to cheat? and Why doesn't he want to help me work through my trust issues? Will my jealousy drive him away?

2007-10-29 03:27:55 · 10 answers · asked by honeyluv_2010 4 in Marriage & Divorce

After a 5 + years relationship can you stay friends ?
Did you experiance this ?
How did it work ?
Where their kids involved ?
did it last ?

2007-10-29 03:26:05 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I have been a stay at home mom for the past 13 years. I have 5 children. I love my family, but it seems like all I ever to is housework and I'm TOTALLY bored with it. Any ideas on how to make it more exciting?

2007-10-29 03:20:47 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

so this girl told me that she only hangs out with her freind and i was like yea cuz u dont want to hang out with me LOSER then she was like yea pertty much hahaha then she was like hahahahahahahaah jk jk jk what does that mean she dose or she dont

2007-10-29 03:20:25 · 1 answers · asked by Maria G 1 in Singles & Dating

I've found some nice pen pal sites, but I've not been able to find many people from Montana. I'm particularly interested in that area of the US.

Can anyone suggest where I might have some luck in finding a Montana pen pal? (No prisoners/criminals/perverts)

Thanks for reading!

2007-10-29 03:17:33 · 2 answers · asked by kherome 5 in Friends

2007-10-29 03:14:47 · 1 answers · asked by SCORPION89 1 in Singles & Dating

I finished college a year ago, I'm 23. I think my best years are behind me, although they weren't that great. During high school, I didn't have very many friends; I never had a girlfriend. I never got invited to parties, and I didn't go to the prom. I made good grades and I got into college. In college, I maintained a high gpa and graduated, but I had the same problems that I had in high school (few friends, no girlfriend). This period in a person's life was supposed to fun, yet I didn't really have very much.

Now with that all behind me, I don't think there too much to look forward to. Have I wasted my life?

2007-10-29 03:12:04 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

this question is for the women out there. ever got a divorce then realize after going through 10 more guys that it was a mistake and that your ex really was a good man? I wonder how many people would own up to this. It goes both ways as well. guys leave their wives for the mistress only to realize what they had. If this is the case, why don't two people try to then work it out? it's like they go through this whole divorce process that turns ugly then when it's all over realize they made a mistake. is this pride, ego or what? I've seen it a few times where the woman keeps bitching about her ex then is horribly jealous he's dating someone else or can't ever find another man that will stay with her for very long. same with guys by the way.

2007-10-29 03:11:23 · 13 answers · asked by survivor 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-29 03:08:56 · 12 answers · asked by charmed 3 in Family

Please give me some reasons. dont girls want kind hearted men? this girl i want to know is avoiding me for a reason i cant figure out. i make her laugh, ask if she's ok and tell her to have a nice day. im sick of this nonsense. why are girls like this.

2007-10-29 03:03:05 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Just curious mine has no limits on how far in mind HEART and soul Tell Me

2007-10-29 03:01:52 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am about to throw my friend her bachelorette party (it's actually a jack and jill party) and I have no idea how this is suppose to work. Is everyone suppose to split the cost/pay for themselves? We are doing bowling and dinner at a higher up bowling alley/bar and I really can't foot the bill for everyone!

2007-10-29 03:00:34 · 11 answers · asked by muppetbaby82 1 in Weddings

My fiancée broke up with me in early June, after 3 ½ years of dating. Needless to say I was completely devastated and extremely depressed. She stated that she needed to find herself and needed to find her individuality. We tried to stay friends over the summer, but it just made it worse for her, and then one day she told me that she needed NO CONTACT WITH ME. It seemed like a harsh punishment considering I loved her , and until she broke up with me, she treated me like gold and was extremely loving/ In late September, I tried Match.com on a whim. And live in NYC ,so I dated a few girls and then met a gorgeous girl named Lindsay. In the last month we have been seeing each other a lot and everything seems to be going great, but I still miss my fiancée more than anything,we had so much in common and I really loved her. And what is worse is Lindsay lives across the street from my fiancee’s apartment building. I need help!!!!

2007-10-29 02:53:18 · 1 answers · asked by Jennaba9048 1 in Singles & Dating

(*all names changed*) Ok, well last night I was at my confirmation class and my friend, Kevin, was sitting next to me. We were talking and I guess we were flirting a lot, my friend said to me "Katie, you have a bf, Kevin, back off." And then, well we were like really close, if nobody knew us, they would've thought we were "together". Then we started talking about how I have a problem with people touching my legs. And he was like "ok, so, if i do this *puts his hand on my thigh* you dont like it? even though I've known you for at least 9 years?" When he placed his hand on my thigh, I felt a "spark", a "shock" that went up my entire leg. It was way to weird. Then that night I was listening to Everytime We Touch by Cascada...wow...I've known him since I moved to this town...And like, I have never felt that "spark" with any guy, not even my bf...It was weird, and now I'm getting these second thoughts about him...
What does that mean when I feel that "spark"? Or is it nothing?

2007-10-29 02:52:28 · 14 answers · asked by ill_luv_u_forevr 1 in Singles & Dating

We have a two year old son who loves his grandparents more than anything. And they love and spoil him to death! They ask me to bring the baby over all the time. anyways... i was over there cooking dinner for the whole family! (i get bored cooking for 2 1/2) sooo... my SIL (sister in law) came storming in the house and said "I hope you have enough for my friends that are coming over." of course i didn't. then she opended the fridge and spilt what was in the side door. and then said "god dammit kristina pick up this f*ing mess." and i told her to do, so she let the dogs lick it up. i was floored. So i went outside for a breath before i killed her, and then came back in cooked dinner and then we ate. i cleaned up dinner and was getting the babys stuff together, and she said "Hey why don't you stop bringin that kid over here i can't sleep when he's here, i don't know why you can't take care of your own child, and when you have the next kid i am moving out" WE LIVE FAR AWAY

2007-10-29 02:51:25 · 10 answers · asked by mommak071005 2 in Family

Both my parents seem happier than before.. But it's really taking a toll on me and my 3 younger brothers.. It's not really fair because now I only get to see my dad on Sundays.. That's if I'm lucky.. :(

2007-10-29 02:46:38 · 7 answers · asked by Tyler 2 in Family

I'm a guy, early 30s, great job, good looking, love to meet new people and love making people laugh. Whenever I go on a date, I act myself, have an easy-going light conversation, but after a couple of dates, there really isn't much else that's "new" to talk about. I feel like I'm the one that has to keep the conversation going while the girl just sits there looking pretty and expects to be entertained. I hate that! And when I show interest in a girl by complementing her (which I try to do in a subtle way), I notice that the same girls who were nervous around me -or- seemed interested in me suddenly act like they have the upper hand or start flaking out. What can I do to sustain their interest during dates? What do guys talk about on the 4th, 5th, 6th dates? I enjoy doing typical things like movies, theater, hanging out, etc. Also love cooking and traveling and have cooked at home for girls in the past. But after the initial dates, how do I show/sustain interest in a subtle way?

2007-10-29 02:43:27 · 11 answers · asked by riddler 1 in Singles & Dating

if you could do it all over?

2007-10-29 02:37:50 · 17 answers · asked by Freakalicious 3 in Marriage & Divorce

My boyfriend and I of 11 years with a four year old son have decided to give each other space. He moved out a couple of days ago and it was a mutual decision. We fought alot over everything and we were not getting along at all. It was starting to affect our son and each other so we decided to make this decision. We've never seperated before and we told each other that we needed to see if we were happier together or apart. My question I guess is how do you know if giving each other space is working and how long do you give each other space before you decide which way your going to take the relationship.

2007-10-29 02:33:45 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

We have a 1 year old boy and a 4 year old girl. It has been an aweful marriuge since the begining. Im dying inside right now and dont know what to do? She is a stay at home mother. and says that she is going to make my life Hell, well it already is. What should I do?

2007-10-29 02:32:34 · 16 answers · asked by group138 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Hi, I have a lunch date with someone from work, and was just wondering if there's any significance of lunch, rather than a full dinner date?

2007-10-29 02:32:29 · 11 answers · asked by demonangel12000 1 in Singles & Dating

The problem with that is that he seems to use this "gift" mostly in me. He constantly points out my wrongs and mistakes. He constantly uses opportunities to show me why and how something I did was wrong. I guess he is trying to help me. It makes me constantly feel like I can't do anything right. When I talk to him about it, he says that he is just telling the truth. What can I do to not let the things he says get to me? I know that you cannot change a person, but how you react to the person...

2007-10-29 02:32:15 · 15 answers · asked by Jaedyn=God has heard 2 in Marriage & Divorce

What are the chances of getting back with your husband/wife?
How did it happen?
Who made the first move?
Are you happy now that you're back together?
Has anything changed?

Thanks!

2007-10-29 02:31:27 · 16 answers · asked by Sesoid 4 in Marriage & Divorce

I went on a 2nd date with 25 y/o guy (I'm 25 too) on Sat night. At end of date, he asked me if he should call or email. And i said emailing is impersonal. But he still said, I will email you. He is not shy but very outgoing. He only calls to confirm dates. He emailed me last night "You know it's weird to e-mail people instead of calling, but thanks for a great time on sat and letting me make it up to you."

I plan to reply "Thanks for a great time too."
Should I mention anything about the emailing instead of calling like "That's fine, I assume emailing is what you're more comfortable with?" or should I leave that out?

Also, we went bowling, which came out to over 60 dollars... should I tell him i feel bad about that and that I should've chipped in? Or should i leave that out?

Oh yea, i'm also not sure if his intentions with me is just sex or if he is really interested in me. He voluntarily revealed that he is a virgin to me (which i find it hard to believe).

2007-10-29 02:31:21 · 14 answers · asked by angelgirly111 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I had my b/f's mother sign up for childcare so she could get paid for babysitting my kids since I can't afford to pay her out of my pocket right now. I didn't know she was receiving money from another source from the state for someone to come and cook her meals, wash her clothes etc, etc. We filled out the paperwork In May of this year and last month I went to speak to my caseworker and asked why hasn't my sitter received her payment and she told me because she was recieving money from this other source so they could not pay her. So my sitter said she couldn't watch my kids anymore a week after I told her what my caseworker had said. She knows that I don't know anyone here and that I don't have anyone else to watch my kids. She just all of a sudden told me that I would have to quit my job , that way maybe my caseworker will get on her horse about paying her. I am a single parent of 3 children and I can't afford to pay her. She's calling and emailing me demanding payment. What can I do?

2007-10-29 02:28:03 · 8 answers · asked by Kari L 2 in Family

my friend loves this guy and i can tell, but she finally told her parents after 2 mons........ and they wont let her date him becuz they care about her... she asked me for advice and i told her that her parents care about her and want the best for her. you will thank them later on but if you still think you guys deserve to be together expalin that to your parents. but if they still dont let yall be to gether explain to _ that you two can only be friends for now and you never know yall might grow closer together.. my two friends are in the 9th grade. and since i told her all that she hasnt talked to me because she still wants to be with him and she thinks i am taking her mom and dads side what should i do?

2007-10-29 02:21:56 · 6 answers · asked by Vanessa 2 in Friends

i know i shouldnt bother or annoy her, but im thinking what to do next.. do i call her to ask her?.. im really not sure.. btw im 16.. :D.. we just met a month ago.. and havent seen her since then.. because she lives far... should i make plans with her or something?

2007-10-29 02:16:46 · 8 answers · asked by jnep 1 in Friends

Shes 23. His mom says she loves him unconditionally since birth but says that woman will break her sons heart. She claims she saw her entertaining two of her male friends when she was supposed to be working at the office late at night. Her son is faithful naive and hardworking. No kids yet but he wants six.. he says he will support all of his family.

2007-10-29 02:16:31 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce