I need help I amgoing through cancer treatment
I have found several things on my husbands phone
over the past 3 years
from women ,I told him i will not stand it anymore
i was leaving the next time something happened
well guess what at my immune therapy in Pittsburg
I live in arkansas
I was having a infusion and he met someone outside of our hotel
she was sending him porn and telling she missed him
i asked him where did he meet her
he told me the internet
well i finally talked to her and she told me she met him
outside of our hotel ,and that he was divorced and was in pittsburg with his crazy sister
what am i going to do
the patterns never change or stop
his cell phone accompanies him to the shower
please help
I a winning my cancer battle but i can not handle the stress
anymore
2007-10-29 03:28:49 · 15 answers · asked by messageinabottlebynic 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am a cancer survivor also and my second wife took her company phone to bed, to the shower, everywhere with her. I should have gotten rid of her then as she was cheating with a supervisor at her work while I was home with the two children. Read the writing and free him as I would have her had I known the truth. It is not going to change the change is enevitably going to be in your marriage into divorce. Where your life starts is where you cut your losses and move forward, obviously he is looking forward already. I pray your battle with cancer to be a winning one and you will join our ranks but additionally I cheer for your other battle also. Win both but both will set you free eventually. God bless you sweetie.
2007-10-29 06:22:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This does not sound like the behavior of someone who is married....most single men I know don't even behave this way. I am so sorry you have gone through the cancer battle, and even more sorry that you have had to fight it along with knowing that your husband is a tramp.....that said....I am sure that facing cancer has made you more aware than the average person how precious life is...how precious we all as individuals are....it is quality of life that matters. The answer is in the end, is this what you want for yourself? Are you happy? If your life would end today, is this what you would like to be doing. These are the questions I ask myself when I am not happy with a situation. The world is full of so many wonderful people, you can have and can be anything that you want if you only reach out for it. I wish you the best.
2007-10-29 03:38:38 · answer #2 · answered by Rein 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you seriously need to leave this realationship. It is very bad you and the baby. It's bad enough that your husband is doing this you, but for his mother to be in on it and doing it as well. It sounds like you and the husband live with his mother or the other way around. I think you should leave and file for an order of protection. It is up to you to protect your child. This is extremely unhealthy for your child. They learn why they see. Children would rather be from a broken home instead of still being in the abused home. There are shelters or other places you could go to. If you decide to leave which I think you should plan ahead. I was in a almost similuar situation minus the mom in law. Good Luck.. Do what is best for you and your child.
2016-04-11 00:48:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you said it urself, if he cheated again u were gone!! Well he did or is so why are u asking this question? Leave... U don't need added stress it will do nothing but make u worse. Think about urself and ur health and tell him to hit the road. If he hasn't changed yet hes not going to and u deserve better. I know it will be hard to leave him but u must try, NOONE deserves what hes doing to u, and shame on him for doing it!
Don't worry later in life when u see him and hes miserable and alone and ur happy and healthy again w/ the new man of ur dreams u can look at him and smile knowing karma bit him in his a**.
Thru sickness and in health- he FAILED in this department cuz he has not been there for u!!
Good luck w/ everything!!
2007-10-29 03:38:53 · answer #4 · answered by NONAME 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I too take infusions. If I did not have the support of my husband standing behind me and helping me to be strong , and if he was doing the things your mate is dong , I would send him on down the road. He is never going to be faithful to you. This is when you have needed him the most and he has played on you when you have needed to concentrate on being able to live and be cancer free. I am so sorry! I will pray for you. As far as the horrible example you have for a help mate, please honey get him out of your life. You can survive divorce. You are surviving cancer. As long as you continue allowing him to bring you down then this takes more of a tole on your survival from the cancer. Stress causes you to be more sick. I know that divorce is stressful, but not knowing if your husband is going to cheat on you from day to day is more than stressful on your health. Do you want to allow him to be the culprit of your treatments not working? Let him go! best of luck with your cancer, and just pray that God intervenes with your husband. I wish I knew him, I sure would like to feed his head full. Maybe you should consider hiring a P.I. to gather evidence and take him to the cleaners. he deserves to be punished on earth!!!!
2007-10-29 03:54:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congrats on winning your battle with cancer! This is something to really celebrate as you were given a second chance at life, don't waste it any longer on a man who obviously is selfish and into his own needs. He has to be a heartless insensitive man to not even be there for you during this difficult time. Get rid of him and be glad you did, he is not worth the time and trouble you give to him. Best of luck to you!
2007-10-29 03:42:58 · answer #6 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump his cheating ***. If a low life scum bag will cheat on you while undergoing cancer treatment, there is no hope for him ever changing. You do not need this kind of stress, send that rat packing. Congrats on winning your battle and keep up the fight. God bless.
2007-10-29 03:34:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Focus on winning your battle with cancer! You can do it! It's the stress that will hold you back. You do not need some jerk treating you like dirt! Get away from him! I will pray for you!
2007-10-29 03:36:31 · answer #8 · answered by missingora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's lost touch with why he married you in the first place. a family that prays together stays together. but infedelity is grounds for dismissal. He's not in love with you anymore and is being disrespectful. Love yourself enough to take a stand. God spared you for a reason and it wasn't to be humiliated and disrespected by your own husband.
2007-10-29 03:46:14 · answer #9 · answered by ZX3R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a divorce and take everything including his cell phone.Arkansas divorce laws aren't much different than Texas.The judge will give you everything.Get well.Good luck.
2007-10-29 04:03:23 · answer #10 · answered by notagain49 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋