Both my parents seem happier than before.. But it's really taking a toll on me and my 3 younger brothers.. It's not really fair because now I only get to see my dad on Sundays.. That's if I'm lucky.. :(
2007-10-29 02:46:38 · 7 answers · asked by Tyler 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Go on with your life, I am sure your parents make the right decision for them. Life is not always like we want it so the best for you is to be optimistic and take care of your own life. Learn from other people mistakes and think about the future not about the past.
Life is short enjoy
2007-10-29 02:51:24 · answer #1 · answered by Helena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents must be separated if he moved out 2 or 3 months ago,thats a fact.
Maybe its better in the long run for you to have two parents that are happier apart than living together miserable,wouldnt you feel the same if it was you and your partner and both unhappy?
If you want to see more of your dad,other than just on a sunday,speak to him and your mum and tell them how you feel about this and maybe they will work something out so you can all be happy,if they love you as I'm sure they equally do,they can sort this out so you all get to see your dad more often.
Goodluck.
2007-11-02 09:50:13 · answer #2 · answered by tinyfeet64 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to talk to your parents about your feelings.
But keep in mind that there are probably things going on that you don't know about, and you are better off not knowing about them, at least for now.
If your parents can get back together even for the sake of the children, that would be great. But a reconciliation may not be possible.
Certainly try to get more time with your father; you need both parents if you can get them.
But in any case, don't let this ruin your life. Concentrate on school and good friends and your siblings, learn from the situation, and prepare yourself for being a good adult.
2007-10-29 12:32:54 · answer #3 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your parents are happier with the way things are now, in some ways that's probably making your life easier. You don't have to watch them dealing with stress or listen to their arguments. Life doesn't always go the way we want it to but it goes the way it needs to. And it presents us with lessons, that if we learn them, will help us be happier.
You may be wondering what the lesson is for you in the current living arrangement. It may be that it will teach you to appreciate more the time you have with each parent. It may be that you will learn you have to be able to adapt and that things can't always go your way. Or it may be something else altogether. Whenever life hands us something difficult to deal with it's handing us a lesson to learn.
Your lesson may be as simple as finding a better way to communicate with your parents. Have you told them how you feel? If not, you should. They may be able to help you better understand why things have to be the way they are. Talk to each of them and be honest with them. They both love their kids and on some level they probably still love each other. But they're happier living apart. Try to be happy for them and try to understand that things can work out. But you need to all work together so that you and your brothers can also be happier. And you'll have to come to terms with the fact that your parents are happier apart than together. That will take some time. Let them help.
2007-10-29 10:13:24 · answer #4 · answered by innerradiancecoaching 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had to move out of my house just 2 months ago even though I love my wife and children very much. I divorced my first wife and now we are better friends then we were ever lovers. The point is sometimes things just don't work out and it is better living happy then just living. Tell your dad you miss him and want to spend time with him. Call him on the phone and tell him how your day was. You don't have to talk about mom or anyone else just you and him. We fathers can't read minds and a call from our sons goes along ways. And tell him you love him you will be surprised he still loves you to. It's hard to make changes but you will survive.
2007-10-29 10:01:56 · answer #5 · answered by Atheist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately there is nothing you can do but sit on the sidelines. Be nice to your dad when you see him, but dont blame your mom or be bad to her either. Ask your dad if you can call him from time to time, or see if he wants to be an internet chat buddy with you. Thats about the best you can do.
2007-10-29 09:57:11 · answer #6 · answered by MrKnowItAll 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My advice:
Don't waste those Sundays letting the "toll" take you over...spend it with your father.
2007-10-29 09:53:35 · answer #7 · answered by GoodQuestion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋