I am about to throw my friend her bachelorette party (it's actually a jack and jill party) and I have no idea how this is suppose to work. Is everyone suppose to split the cost/pay for themselves? We are doing bowling and dinner at a higher up bowling alley/bar and I really can't foot the bill for everyone!
2007-10-29 03:00:34 · 11 answers · asked by muppetbaby82 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Just explain to people when you invite them that its a pay for yourself evening. True friends will understand and not expect you to cover the bill. And if they don't like it, they can stay at home.
2007-10-29 03:04:25 · answer #1 · answered by ~Jenn~ 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Usually for a going-out bachelorette-type party (like at a restaurant, club, bar, or bowling alley), everyone does pay for themselves. Just be very clear on the invitations. Perhaps you could say something like, "Please join us as we celebrate Jonathan and Josie's last night of singleness! We will be meeting at Pleasant Valley Bowl and treating them to dinner, drinks, and a night of bowling." That way it doesn't sound like you are hosting the party... you are inviting the other guests to join you (and if your guests read between the lines, they may chip in a little extra to cover the cost of the bride and groom).
If you are renting a hall and having some kind of catered food or food paid for in advance, your guests should not be expected to pay for the cost of the rental or their food. It should be split among the bridal party (or anyone else who is interested in contributing -- mothers, aunts, etc.). The bridesmaids should never feel obligated to spend more on a bachelorette party or shower than they can afford.
2007-10-29 19:23:55 · answer #2 · answered by Emmy Jo (13 weeks with #2) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You never invite guests to a party, then ask them to pay. Talk to the other members of the bridal party...for a bachelorette party, talk to the bridesmaids....if this is a Jack/Jill party including the groomsmen, talk to them too.
The bridal party and immediate female family members (mom of the Bride/sister of the bride, etc) may be willing to contribute to the cost of the party, but they are not required to do so.
The bride (the guest of honor) and the rest of the guests certainly shouldn't be asked to pay. Would you charge birthday party guests for cake and ice cream?
~Kat
2007-10-29 04:39:12 · answer #3 · answered by Kat 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get everyone to pay a portion, and if they want there own alcohol then they will have to purchase that themselves.
Anytime i have ever gone to a bachlorette party, we have split the bill amongst the girls and pay for the bride...
It is only fair, i dont feel you should be obligated to pay for everything.
2007-10-29 04:46:54 · answer #4 · answered by Gotta luv it! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make everyone pay for themselves. I have been to several like you are planning and have paid for ourselves everytime, when you send out invites you might send a price list from the place that you are going to be at that includes the cost of bowling and whatever you want them to pay for. That way without saying "you have to pay for yourself" you are letting them know with out actually having to say it and everyone will be aware of the cost and can decide if they can afford to go our not.
2007-10-29 03:17:34 · answer #5 · answered by = ) 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The bridal shower can be for both men & women, but the bachelorette party should be just for the bride and her closest friends.
2007-10-29 03:13:03 · answer #6 · answered by Kit 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would have asked everyone ahead of time if they would like to participate then they have to pay for themselves. Except the bride, maybe you all can chip in and pay for her altogether but everyone should be able to pay for themselves.
2007-10-29 04:52:51 · answer #7 · answered by OFFICIALLY MRS. HOWARD! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Luv2answer is right.
Evryone pays for themselves and the guests pay their share of the costs of the bride and groom, gift or entratainment planned for the evening.
2007-10-29 03:32:49 · answer #8 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Everyone should pay for their own bowling costs and dinner except the bride and the groom.
2007-10-29 03:04:49 · answer #9 · answered by vaya 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
1st of all when you throw someone a party for what ever reason.Then you should foot the bill if you can not afford it then don't throw the party let someone else do it that afford all the expenses.As far as the bar then yes make it an cash bar for ppl that want to drink.
2007-10-29 03:16:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋